Hello everyone! This is my first question - go easy on me.
I've noticed from raising self awareness that the main method I use to hide and shield myself from getting hurt is to internalize my thoughts and be incredibly harsh on myself. If something doesn't go the way I fully want it to go, it is incredibly difficult to resist relentlessly getting nagged by that inner voice. Things such as;
"You're not enough."
"You're so ugly you are subhuman."
"You can't win."
and more so.
It is incredibly draining, and I want to learn how to stop being so negative to myself. Does anyone have any tips? Also I should mention that the internalizing has sort of flared up recently. Due to the self awareness and trying to better myself, I have become more aware of my problems and insecurities. These negative feelings have flared up with the hope and excitement for the future, leading to a sort of tug of war. Any advice would be appreciated!