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Hi,

How do i control the anger? I had been debating with my colleague about certain things at work. She kept insisting that I was wrong. But I had evidence to prove that I was right. I just want to let it go. But I still feel so angry inside to prove to her she was the one who understood it wrong. I even wanted to say to her that she should really change her attitude cause more and more people are already hating her at work.

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kenster1

its always good to get different outlooks on things in most work places its not really about who is right or who is wrong its best to just forget about it an just continue to do your work to the best of your ability and best nt get involved with others if they dislike her because it could turn out worse.

in reply tokenster1

True. I really should keep my distance with her. Her attitude is really a problem here at work.

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kenster1 in reply to

yeah in my last job we had a real bad one who ended up being sacked not before three of my friends had a warning only for true colours to show.best not to get involved because you could be the one out of a job.

in reply tokenster1

yeah. i once felt being outcasted because of her.

Sometimes something like this is just a hiding for nothing, personally I would be nice to the person and when she starts again upsetting you with Her views, personally just walk away.Just say you are busy and move on. What is the point of getting upset.

You go to work to make money not chew the fat, tell here that

BOB

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Haha certainly. Yeah right about that! :)

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hypercat54 in reply to

Or tell her you will have to agree to differ and refuse to get drawn in x

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good point :)

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Want2BHappy3

Pick your battle's, only if it's life changing? The reason she could be fighting so Hard is that she's an Insecure person?

in reply toWant2BHappy3

Yeah she has that kind of attitude and her mantra is "Everybody hates me".

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fauxartist

I've just had to learn to pick my battles as well, and know when to let it go. Not to be wearing my suit of armor all the time ready to do battle, some things are just not that important. Some people will believe what they want to, right or wrong....once they made their mind up....that's it, so why waste energy on them....leave them to their own devices.

in reply tofauxartist

Yeah. I totally agree.

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20Voices

There is really not much you can do if someone is not prepared to listen, especially if you've shown that you have evidence to back up your point of view.

Some people just like to argue over everything, so the best thing to do is either walking away or change the conversation.

Then if you still have pent up tension from the day, I found an inflatable punch tower to just work out that extra energy at home was really helpful when I had problems controlling my anger a few years ago. Gets you exercise and it is a great feeling to have something to work out those frustrations on. Just set it up where there are no breakable cause it can move quite a bit if you just fill the base with water.

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crowningglory19

You can't change people, just let it go. The truth will come out in time. The more you get angry you might do the wrong thing and then it will make you look bad instead. Breathe deep and let it go. Taking magnesium can help calm your mind body and spirit and ginseng helps get rid of loopy sticky negative thoughts to help you let it go. Consciously forgive her so you don't hold on to anger. =) You got this, you can rise above it. <3

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