Dating and depression

[Strongest123]

Hello everyone on here. I hope everyone is having a peaceful and tranquil Monday morning. Just wanted to know if anyone on here has had the experience of telling someone that they’ve met for dating about their mental condition. I recently met a girl, on an online dating site and after talking and texting for a few dates, I told her about my depression. Her answer was, everyone goes through days when they’re sad. Obviously she didn’t know the difference between some bouts of depression and severe clinical depression. I didn’t want to get into it with her, till she asked......You’re not on any meds are you? To which I said, yes I am, is that a problem??? She told me that taking meds for depression is not a good idea cause they have to many side effects etc etc. That’s like telling someone who has diabetes not to take their meds cause of the side effects. But anyways, I knew that with what she was saying and her lack of compassion I had to cut her off. My thing is, if I start chatting with someone, should I tell them about my depression from the beginning or should I wait? I feel like I don’t want to hide anything, so I rather tell them. SAMSON

[Rubystones]

Hey Samson, I personally think it’s a good idea to be upfront in some cases and she might have just asked out of curiosity and it quiet easy to read Tone to Text. Maybe a chance to at least meet and enlighten her if y’all clicked. Being upfront definitely works for me and definitely saves everyone’s time also. Best

[Strongest123 in reply to Rubystones]

Thank you very much for your response

[AlLeYkAt86-]

I'd wait. If things doing work out then you haven't put too much of yourself out there. The person may not be worth opening up to.

[Strongest123 in reply to AlLeYkAt86-]

Thank you. I do believe that putting to much out in the beginning isn’t a good idea.

[Hidden]

I would wait also. She's gonna have her own baggage and I assure you won't see it for a while. When I went on the first date with my husband he told me that he had been on meds since he was a child. Since I hadn't yet experienced anything myself I was worried and wondered if I should take that on and wondered what the details were but too early to ask. Luckily I stuck around but I almost had second thoughts.

It has been a difficult life together dealing with depression between the two of us. So I do think you should be honest but not until you really see a future with her and you know you loves you no matter what. These things you don't just put out there so soon.

[Strongest123 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you very much. I appreciate your feedback. I believe that waiting in the best bet.

[Hidden in reply to Strongest123]

Your welcome.