Stressed

[BrownEyesBlue]

It’s hard enough dealing with an elderly, bed ridden father within the first stages of dementia......

It’s hard enough dealing with an alcoholic sister who is sick with Graves’ disease......

It’s hard enough dealing with a breakup with someone you still love and ache for but who clearly has an issue with addictions and can be mentally and emotionally abusive.....

Then you have family members (3; a sister and 2 nieces) who just like to stir the pot. Make you feel worse about it. Just like to stick their noses in and find out information just so they have something to talk about.

My now ex, who I still care for and will probably always love, made a comment on a post on Facebook. He worded it wrong and made a mistake. They pounced like hyenas. All 3. They don’t realize that if anyone gets backlash it’s me; not them. How do I approach this, or do I even bring it up?

I’m not heartless. I still care about him. And I want him to get better. And doing what they’re doing is only going to aggravate him and I’m afraid cause a set back. He’s in recovery for addiction. He has mental health issues that have been recently diagnosed. And a head injury that he is still recovering from. They should just leave him be. Am I right?

I’m just so sad about all this.... so so sad.

[mallfalcon]

Hang in there. Don't listen to the hyenas and put yourself first. If you aren't well you can't help others. Take time for yourself.

[BrownEyesBlue in reply to mallfalcon]

Thank you.

[mallfalcon in reply to BrownEyesBlue]

You're welcome. Have a great weekend.

[Tealribbon]

I agree with Mal...don't listen to the hyenas so sorry. It's a lot.

[LilyAnnepuppy]

It sounds to me that you have enough on your care plate with your father. I don’t know how old your sister is, and what kind of care you have to provide. But your ex’s interaction with the wicked witches may be something best left between him and them.

I’m sorry your compassion is causing so much pain for yourself, but maybe “Let Go and Let God.”

Take care of yourself. You can’t take care of others better when self care is a habit.

[BrownEyesBlue in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

The wicked witches lol that made me laugh.

I do have a lot on my plate. And it’s hard. And I just thought I had someone to share my life with..... and he just walked away; twice. It hurts. And I’m frustrated because I can’t just walk away from him because I truly care for this man and love him.

[LilyAnnepuppy in reply to BrownEyesBlue]

Walking away and letting him make his own choices are two different activities. You can say a prayer for him and send good energy into the universe for him but watch out making more misery for yourself. He’s your ex. Love can exist with boundaries

[BrownEyesBlue in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

Thank you.

[BrownEyesBlue in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

I just miss him. Really miss him. I wish he could be different. This is twice now he’s broken up with me.

He has his own demons I know.

I’m having a really bad day where all I want to do is cry and sleep.