Sleep

[Starrlight]

How much sleep do you get? I get 8 hours but it doesn’t feel like enough so I try to get a nap in. Sleep is so important.

[LilyAnnepuppy]

If I get 6 hours straight I’m pretty good. I’m 70. I also can nap during day if I need to. When I was younger I needed at least 9 hours. Lynne

[dbeck128]

It varies. Sometime 5, the max is 8. If I could get longer I definitely would lol. Does something prevent you from getting good rest?

[Starrlight in reply to dbeck128]

I don’t know but I’m just so tired after my 8 hours.

[dbeck128 in reply to Starrlight]

Ah. I've always been one to want more sleep. Even after I have had a full night's rest. Everyone's different

[Starrlight in reply to dbeck128]

Yeah moooore sleeeeeep

[Rainbowflute]

I have ME and Fibromyalgia. I cannot remember ever waking up and not feeling tired!! I need at least 10 hours and at least a 2 hour nap in the afternoon and yet I’m still tired. I can tell you that suffering with depression is tiring!! The weight of all your emotions and concerns is tiring! We’re going through the worst time at the mo and it’s just the ending of 4 years of seemingly non stop troubles that we’re all struggling with! It’s exhausting!! We are at the point of struggling just to get through each day! If you can get more sleep I would give yourself the chance as whatever it is you are fighting will be easier if you’re not coping with exhaustion as well! Xxx

[Starrlight in reply to Rainbowflute]

Thanks Rainbowflute! Xxxxx

[quitter333]

I'd sugegst you try to set your watch at 1,5 hour intervals, which is about the average period for us to fall from light sleep to REM to deep sleep (where body fixes itself) back to REM and light sleep.

E.g. you go to bed at 23:00, you'd set your wake up time either at 6:30 or 8:00. - 7,5h or 9h sleep.

Point is - if you often wake up in the middle of your deep sleep, you will feel tired, as the body just had entered relaxed mode and now it is being woken up suddenly - imagine it like reving full throttle on your car you just started during a freezing morning. The feeling is often described as "groggy".

You can compare it with the often experienced hightened alertness and wakefullnes, when you for any reason go to bed/nap and wake up just 3 hours later and feel fully energized - it is because you have completed full deep sleep cycle and were having the "light sleep" phase.

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note - light sleep is what happens most of the night, it is when you dream and often can even think (you know those nights when you just lay down thinking random stuff and then open eyes and 6 hours have gone by), and can easily get woken up by noises or light (hence full moon often makes people weird as they don't get normal sleep).

Deep sleep is the heavily knocked-out state when brain enables many subconscious processes that help your body fix injuries, clean your liver from toxins, puts some growth hormone, testosterone, estrogen in your system, stores memories and clears your brain of meaningless processes (like worries). It actually lasts only for a short period of time, but it needs some light sleep to start and commonly it needs about 1,5hours for one deep sleep cycle. If you have seen ferrets sleeping - their high metabolism requires lots of deep sleep, and they are almost "dead" when sleeping.

[Starrlight in reply to quitter333]

Thanks for the info Quitter33!

[quitter333]

and answering your question - I usually sleep about 7 hours. Despite being 30 yo, I still do pretty good at sleeping just few hours and then being aware and alert during the day, with no consequences (like, I don't need to sleep longer next time).

[AlLeYkAt86-]

4 hours off and on

[JEG325]

I sleep about 8 hours my awesome friend. I used to sleep more and always wake up tired. That doesn't occur so much anymore. My sleep is better and I wake up feeling better. But if I sleep less than 7 hours I usually do take a nap. Sometimes I crash as I'm very sensitive to not getting enough sleep. Hope you you're doing well. Sue and I send you lots of hugs and love, S!

[Starrlight in reply to JEG325]

Blessings to you two. I’m not well today. I feel afraid, of what, nothing in particular ... it will pass though.

[JEG325 in reply to Starrlight]

S, we're with you in spirit and in love. Is there something I can do for you? My sweetie loves talking to you too!

[Starrlight in reply to JEG325]

Thanks awesome you. I feel like I need to get out my anxieties. Im scared constantly that someone close to me will die or like what if I die and leave my kids what if my husband dies I’m doing all I can which would not be enough if he died. It’s hard to concentrate and make decisions. I’m just scared. I feel so unhealthy. Terrible sensations rushing through me. It’s hard to simply take care. I feel like there is not enough time anymore to do it all.

[JEG325 in reply to Starrlight]

S, you're young yet. You have plenty of time! Take it slow and steady. Do the most important things first and everything else as time permits. When worry hits, ask yourself, 'Does feeling bad about this help me or might it, in fact, be delaying these things I need to get done even more?' Once you realize just how unproductive worrying is, you might be able to stop and become more action orientated instead. Remember I am always in your corner and I am pulling for you! Sue is worried for you too. We'll both be around to help you anytime you need. You are truly a treasure in my life, bight shining Star!

[Starrlight in reply to JEG325]

Thanks I hope to realize how to stop the worry pattern. I think ignore that nagging voice but then I’m scared I’ll miss something. I can’t think straight at the moment it’s just too much. I’m trying not to drink. 😑 ugh sorry I’m such a mess right now I guess I’ll let it go for now. No one can help me. I have to somehow pull out from the scary space I’m in.

[JEG325 in reply to Starrlight]

I think someone can help you. You love your friends here on H/U. Well, we love you too. Let our love wash across your life like a soothing blanket. It can comfort you and keep you safe in times of trouble. We're always just a text away anytime you need us. Okay? Love and hugs, my BFF!

[Starrlight in reply to JEG325]

No one can help this. Thank you I appreciate your effort. I’m in trouble. I can’t do this. I’m so scared of what is happening to me. I have to remember I’m coming off some strong medicine. I need to relax somehow. I need to believe I’ll be okay coming out of this.

[JEG325 in reply to Starrlight]

You will. I have 100% faith in you, S! I always have and I always will. In addition to being here for you, I will always believe in you. Nothing can be gained without making an effort. The greater the goal, the greater the effort required to reach it. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other on your way to beating this. Even the journey of a thousand miles starts with just a single step. We add another and another and another until one day without even realizing it, we reach the goal we were aiming at all along. YOU CAN DO THIS! I will be with you in spirit and in the love of a good friend for another good friend. Sue is there for you too. We will also continue praying for you because we both care!

[Starrlight in reply to JEG325]

That’s amazing thank you sooooo! I really need the support right now.

[JEG325 in reply to Starrlight]

You're more than welcome, my strong, awesome friend!

[All_alone]

I'm doing good get 5 most nights.