Divorce

[andrewmarino85]

My wife left me me earlier this year and since then I’ve been questioning my self worth. I live alone in the home that was supposed to be our first place together and now I’m left here with no real friends or anyone to reach out to. I thought I had everything figured out and now everything feels empty

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Hi.

I’m so sorry for your struggles.

It’s such an awful place to be right now.😞

I know you can’t see or believe it but life will feel better with time and healing. Right now that’s no consolation I know

I hope you can find a place or person/s to talk to. To help you on the way...coming here and saying how you feel is a great start. I know it helps me to write things down. Reach out for the help you may need along the way , whenever possible..

I wanted to send you some good peaceful wishes 🌺🌹🌺🌹

[fauxartist]

I've been there too....about 13 years ago I had my marriage of 15 years end. I was sitting alone too in the house we were supposed to grow old together in. But after about 4 months of licking my wounds and realizing that this situation isn't going to change unless I change it.... I painted the walls the colors I wanted, bought new furniture the kind I liked and could never have, and changed the flooring. I started going to museums, concerts, and libraries that my ex- never liked to do, and started doing some social stuff with groups I was interested in.

But that wasn't the happy ending for me either....I had again suffered another huge blow as my health declined, I could no longer run my business, so I had to put my house up for sale, my two best friends passed away within 3 months of each other, and my so called group of friends sided with my ex- who had been cheating on me with someone else in the group for the last year of our marriage.....

So again....I hit the wall running.....the lesson learned is....there are no easy answers....no guarantees.....just that it takes time to overcome our hopes and dreams of the past to allow new ones to come in.....and they will if you let them....I am now happily living with someone who loves me unconditionally....I live where I have always wanted to live....

So make new dreams when you’ve had some time to grieve and process, get help to go through this, I did, it helped....but be prepared for the bumps in the road.....you can survive those too.

[Omghelpme in reply to fauxartist]

Wow. I really needed to read this. Thanks.

[Omghelpme]

I’m sorry you are going through that. Is it any better now? My husband left me just a few months ago and I am devastated. I need some hope.

[andrewmarino85 in reply to Omghelpme]

I’m so sorry to hear your husband left. To be honest things are so much better now that the divorce is final. Sometimes it takes something drastic to make you realize how much better life can be. I’m socializing more, getting out more, meeting new people, and in general laughing and smiling more. It may seem hard or even impossible, but there’s always silver lining to whatever dark cloud is looming over you at the moment. The first steps are the hardest, but you’ll be so much better once you’re past those.

[Omghelpme]

That's helpful.l, even if I can't see it right now.

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I had to leave my husband 6 months ago, i loved him deeply but he had a whole other secret life. We had been together 30yrs and married 25yrs. Ive been staying with friends but now

I am moving into my own brand new house next month but suddenly i feel so emotional and very low again, just when i thought i was recovering.

My supervisor has noticed a change in me and is concerned. 'You are very quiet & withdrawn these past 2 wks, are you ok?'

I'm not sure why im suddenly feeling like this when i should be happy with a new house, a new chapter.