Frustrated

[Oct7skye]

Good afternoon everyone! I have been on many interviews trying to obtain a good paying job that will allow me to be at home with my children at night. Please don’t get me wrong I’m very grateful for my job and for the support system I have but with everything that I have going on I prefer to be home with my children and raising the way I want and see fit. Unfortunately, the job I have is not flexible and with me having a son with Autism and other issues I’m bound to quit or either be fired. I choose my children before anything or body. It’s even more frustrating when you have a adult relative that’s supposed to be helping out with the kids while I work at night that’s not doing their part. And the deal was that they have a place to stay with the rule of clean up behind yourself!!!! That’s all I ask. They have access to food, all utilities and internet but yet my kids doing what they want while I’m working. I just want a job that will allow me to have the flexibility I need to guarantee I’m taking care of my babies and their needs accordingly.

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I hope you find the right job!

[Oct7skye in reply to Hidden]

Thank you

[onthetrail]

Your goals certainly sound reasonable to me. And I can tell how much you love your kids. Job or house-hunting can be very draining. In my experience you just have to keep on going through the disappointments. Sounds like that adult relative is not keeping up their part of the bargain.

[Oct7skye in reply to onthetrail]

That’s exactly what’s happening. Kids basically watching themselves and come home to a unrecognizable house cause the kitchen nasty and the bedroom they sleep in is 🤢. I have to make them get up and clean. These days are numbered. Just praying that I get the right opportunity where I don’t need anyone to keep my kids at night.

[YouareBeloved99]

I also have a son with autism and I love to meet other ASD moms! I think it's awesome that you are doing whatever you can to allow yourself to be with him more. I've recently spent some time going through the resume and interview process myself. I've also helped friends with resumes throughout the years.

First, when it comes to your resume, instead of just writing what you do... quantify your work. By that, I mean talk about what you did and what the results were. For instance, my teacher friend recently decided to apply for a new job and asked me for help on her resume. When I looked at her current resume, it said things like "Write lesson plans. Grade papers. Schedule parent meetings." Yes, all teachers do that. I told her to think about what sets her apart from the dozens of other applications they are probably looking at. She told me about several kids she taught in the past who had improved three grade levels in reading during the course of a year. I told her, "Great, add that in there!" You have to show what makes you stand out. By the time we were done, her resume looked great and she actually got a call the very next day for a teaching job and she just started this week!

Another thing I do, is compare the job description I'm looking at with my resume. You will need key words that they are looking for added to your resume. A lot of companies use software to pull resumes and if you don't have the right keywords, the hiring manager may not even get to see your resume. I use jobscan.co. It's a free service and it scans it for you. You upload the job description you are looking at, as well as your resume and it will scan them and tell you which words to add more of. It's awesome!

In the meantime, consider each interview you've been on, practice for the next one. Although you may not get the job, you are sharpening your interviewing skills. Think about what you did well and what you can improve on for the next one. And always try to sound confident in your work.

You've got this. The searching part is just temporary and one day you'll find the perfect thing that allows you the flexibility you need. You sound like you have a great heart. Praying that you'll find the perfect fit.

[Oct7skye in reply to YouareBeloved99]

Thank you! Will definitely be using your advice