Have I got a right to be angry?

[Meyer_Gdmnx]

Hi guys if you’ve seen my previous post you’ll know for the past year and a half I’ve been dealing with health anxiety and generalised anxiety disorder/ agoraphobia/ insomnia. And you may of seen my complaints about family/ friends well I found out that my brother has been complaining about me behind my back saying I quote “whittle all the time to him” first of all whenever I would go up to him in the rare moments he would act incredibly dismissive and aggressive and would belittle me saying things like “Shit the F Ben you’re being ridiculous” and he just uses the same thing every time I’m tired or frustrated or whatever. I understand it can be frustrating to deal with someone with anxiety I really do but every time seems a bit of a stretch. I now find out behind my back been saying how I use it to not have to do things and I put it on at times. Also my mother has gone on holiday and left me and my brother too look after three dogs and my brother for the past few months has said I’m going to sleep there then when the day comes he says he doesn’t want to stay at her house overnight now and waited for the dogs to fall asleep and came home (1:00am) I’m now freaking out something’s going to happen to them during the six hours we are t there. (not his fault by the way I understand he has work etc and I was there all day as well it can be stressful) but he said he would sleep there now he’s suddenly decided not too which has left me in a fit of stress and anxiety about the dogs and whenever I bring this up he laughs in my face.

[Meyer_Gdmnx]

To add context we live 5 minutes away from my mum but I’m still feeling terrible about leaving them alone even though it’s only for 6 hours when we’d be asleep anyway and we’ve been with them since 7am all day until now

[NeuronerdDoaty]

Taking care of another’s persons pets gives even me anxiety. It’s like someone just handed you a newborn with no accoutrements and said take care of this baby for two weeks. I’m a pet owner and lover and I can’t take care of other people’s pets so I share your anxiety.

You can’t change your brothers behavior. You can change your reaction to him. He’s sounds childish and afraid of not getting enough attention. I think I’d just start throwing one liners at him. ‘You’ll get your attention in just a minute.’ ‘Poor little big man feels left out.’ Now my brother would shave my eyebrows while I was sleeping if I did that so make sure if you go this route that the game is afoot!

Best of luck to you❤️

Doaty

[Meyer_Gdmnx in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

Thank you for your reply it was helpful fortunately I suppose he never seeks out hurting my feelings It’s more his reaction to when I’m in an anxious state. And thank you I’ll try that haha 😂 I’m just freaking out about leaving the dogs alone overnight even though I’ll be there in 5 hours

[Meyer_Gdmnx in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

And they’re most likely asleep

[Meyer_Gdmnx in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

I’ve felt really stressed and horrible all day about having to look after them for two weeks

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Meyer_Gdmnx]

I’m sorry you do. I would too. Can you stay there? Maybe just ignore what he says and take care of business. It’s almost over right? I’m so sorry you’re in this position. I’m sending you calming vibes💛

[Meyer_Gdmnx in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

Thank you for that you’re really lovely and well it’s nearly 3am where I am now so there would very little point in all honesty as I’ll be there in 4 hours but so you think I’m awful for leaving them alone for that amount of time just terrified I’ll hear they’re hurt or worse in the morning

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Meyer_Gdmnx]

They’ll be fine. Get some rest.

[Meyer_Gdmnx in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

Thank you for replying I can’t explain how much I appreciate it

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Meyer_Gdmnx]

You’re so welcome. 💛