Loss of Best friend

[CatDogLover]

My ex husband and best friend passed on Saturday. I’ve been doing really well with anxiety. I haven’t had an anxiety attack since November 19th but am now worried. I decided to take one of his many dogs left behind and I worry I’ve taken on too much. I’m having the dog specially transported from Minnesota to Florida and he arrives Saturday. I debated and came up with that it would be a good thing since it was originally my dog. My current husband was also friends with my ex and had actually proposed the idea. We have two other dogs at this time and I have two cats as well. But he loved his animals so much I didn’t want the dog to go to the humane society. I’m probably worrying over nothing and have already made the decision and paid for the transport. I think it will somehow comfort me to have a piece of his joy with us. Then I feel guilty over not doing enough because I left 3 other dogs behind that will probably go to a shelter but can only do so much. I loved him dearly and am in a grieving process. He had nobody in his life and was only found because I called and couldn’t reach him. He was very depressed but died of natural causes and part of me feels at peace that he is at least not suffering anymore but feel guilt over if he would still be alive if I hadn’t left the marriage 10 years ago. Sorry for the long post.

[Dolphin14]

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Guilt is part of the grieving process. I hope this part passes quickly. You did nothing wrong.

I think it's wonderful to take one of the dogs. There is only so much you can do and it's good you recognize that

My condolences

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[CatDogLover in reply to Dolphin14]

Thanks!

[LifeIsThePitts]

Saturday was a day of loss for both of us 😔 my condolences to you 🙏 I'm happy to hear that you're gaining custody of your original fur baby, though! That's really exciting. I'm sure after the transfer he will recognize you immediately. Dogs don't forget the people they love.

You're doing everything you can to make this an easier time emotionally for everyone. I'm so sorry your ex was all alone at the time of his passing. You're an amazing lady and your husband is a wonderful person for suggesting that you take on another fur child in an already full house.

Don't doubt your choice... you're doing the right thing for everyone.

[CatDogLover in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

Thank you so much!

[LadyZen]

I'm so sorry for your loss. The guilt is normal. But know that the past is the past, and for whatever reason, those things needed to happen. As much as we'd like to be in control of our lives, we're not. As for the other dogs, they will be better in a home where there is room for them. It sounds like you will reach your capacity after the addition. Also, some localities, like my area, limit the number of pets per square feet of home. One of my friends maxed out at 4, due to the size of her house. Take care of yourself today.

[CatDogLover in reply to LadyZen]

Thanks! Thankfully we have a fairly large house, 2200 sq ft. It’s divided in 2 so the cats have half and the dogs have half and nobody gets bullied!

[LadyZen in reply to CatDogLover]

Lol. I have my house gated in half. I use to foster, and my little 7 lb maltese is a bully. So I always kept the fosters and my doggy separated.

[Dolphin14 in reply to CatDogLover]

Awesome to have that space

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[AnxiousSilver]

I'm sorry.

[CatDogLover in reply to AnxiousSilver]

Thanks

[Starrlight]

So sorry. Wishing all the best to you.

[Cavalierrubie]

You sound a wonderful person. Don’t beat yourself up because of the past. I believe our lives are all mapped out and our destiny planned. There is a reason for everything. Enjoy your friend that’s coming and have good times ahead with him. Love, prayers and happy days.

[CatDogLover in reply to Cavalierrubie]

Thanks for your kind words!

[bonkers65]

I'm sorry for your loss and I think it's a good thing you did taking the dog

[CatDogLover in reply to bonkers65]

Thanks!

[Kat_21]

So, my ex husband passed away a little over a year ago. Before that, we had some issues and decided it would be best to split up. Neither of us were happy.He had cancer. And about 6 months after we split up, he passed away.

Sometimes, I regret leaving. I feel like maybe if I tried harder, if I stuck around a little longer things would be different.

You two didn't work out, and that's okay. As sad as it is, we can't really change what life already had in store for us.

But that's okay. You gave them good memories, love, things that in the end he was able to look back on.

I'm sorry for your loss. Remember, it isn't your fault. I hope things get easier for you. And I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm here if you ever need a friend or just someone to vent to.

[CatDogLover in reply to Kat_21]

Thank you so much for your helpful response!

[sobreviviente]

Sorry to hear about the loss of your ex husband CatDogLover

By the sounds of it, the dog is going to a very loving and caring home.

Best of luck with your four legged friend