I know some of you have dealt with this but my boyfriend doesn’t understand my depression and anxiety. He comes from a very dysfunctional home, his mom suffers from anxiety and depression and ocd also and my boyfriend or the family does not take her serious. She has always had panic attacks and they just blow her off. She is taking medication and that’s how they keep we calmed. So for my boyfriend growing up in that environment he thinks is nothing. He thinks I exaggerate and i can be “stronger than that”. He has actually called me weak. We own our home so is not like I can just dump him. I have never experienced anxiety until December of last year and has been hell. My doctor even wrote him a note saying to keep me stress free as much as he can.
Today he was driving, and I’m a responsible driver and throughout my anxiety , roads and highways increased my symptoms. He knows when he drives recklessly I get very anxious and today it caused a panic attack . We had plans and I couldn’t get myself out of the anxiety. He got mad and left without me.
My question is how to help him understand? After the whole ordeal he just said he doesn’t know what to do and he knows he makes things worse when he doesn’t mean to. He is otherwise a good man in many aspects and when we started our relationship I didn’t have this. He says I have changed and I’m not the same person .
Of course we all want to be good and not suffer from anxiety but is not that easy as we know. I would like for him to be more empathetic. And to know I’m not making it up. I feel so alone and broken, I feel as though there are people around me no one is there. I just would like him to understand. How have you helped your partner understand your diagnosis? Thank you