Exacerbating Depression....I cant help it

Few related feelings i have been having that seem to exacerbate my depression. Would love to hear people’s thoughts or approaches:

Time For Myself- 3 kids and a wife is hard to balance in a normal persons world, never mind a depressed person’s. I often go go go to be sure the house, kids and dogs are taken care of. I often put everyone before me and end up so exhausted at the end of the day that I can’t stay awake or function to do something for myself. Can’t seem to break this cycle. I either feel guilty if I take time or the things that need to get done don’t get done, which bothers me too.

Anger- I sometimes ask for a little time to myself each evening. Usually I am told “of course that’s fine with me,” but then it doesn’t happen and I often just get angry and figure why should I ask again...not gonna make a difference. This then exacerbated my depression and i sometimes spiral from this.

Do i just “deal with it” or stand ground and say sorry it’s my time now ?

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this is a difficult situation, as you have said having a family is a responsibility, but at the same time how can you be truly there for them if you are too depressed or tired?it may be hard to achieve but maybe if you could plan or schedule a couple times a week with some time to yourself? sometimes there may be to much going on but maybe if you set aside 2 or 3 nights a week to just have an hour to do the things you enjoy. if you think about it 2or 3 nights with about an hour is only 2-3 hours a week, and honestly that is not to much to ask for. some days might be too hectic to have your hour but it should help overall just having a little freedom from time to time. you have to take care of yourself and your mind to be the person your family deserves and to be truly healthy.

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Hi, I am so sorry. So many of us can relate to what you are feeling. I am a single Mom with three kids who works full-time and the juggling can be overwhelming. I have learned how important self-care is. We often ignore our needs and self-sacrifice to the point where we do feel angry, invisible and depressed. Things won't change because this is the season of family but YOU can change how you respond to it. You are the only one who can set the boundaries and be sure to carve some "me" time. You may need to take along walk, meet a friend, go to a movie. Talk to your family about working with you. Maybe you need to just get an hour every night to yourself where the family spends time without you. If the depression persists, consider talking to a counselor and getting some support. It makes it so hard when each day feels almost unsurmountable. Reach out to a trusted family member or friend to support and love you. If you are a person of faith, talk to your pastor or someone in your community. You are not alone. There is help and there are small steps you can take to start to feel some relief. Think about what would make you smile and try to give yourself tghat gift at least once or twice a week. I wish you the best. Think of you too!