Triggers everywhere

[Kevin160]

I would be calm all day for many days, then some simple thing , like hearing something on the news , being startled , getting a cut on my hand , exercising , a friends birthday , a school day , having to rearrange my sleep schedule it suddenly triggers anxiety which sucks ,im so sensitive to fear , its been about 2 weeks of no to very very mild anxiety , but whenever this much time goes by , anxiety feels stronger because im not very used to it and its a bit overwhelming , and i dont know what to do , thankfully it modtly comes and goes not like before, its not constant , but still its very annoying and i just want to talk to someone

[Agora1]

Hey Kevin, it's me I am always amazed at the number of people on this forum who

say they can go months or days w/o anxiety issues. (some even for years) It's hard not

to be anxious in this fast paced world we live in. Put that together with over sensitized

nervous system and you have a body just waiting to respond to the unexpected.

Short of being in a bubble, blind and deaf to the world around us, we must expect anxiety

to rear up.

The difference after a while is knowing how to live in peace with these anxious moments.

We've hopefully learned enough about ourselves as well as anxiety to be able to rid ourselves of the symptoms before they have a chance to grow.

You've done this Kevin, as I have too. This doesn't mean that we shouldn't expect

to be sensitive to fear. We may always be because we were born that

way. Yes, it's annoying but you just have to look around at those less fortunate physically and with that remember our issues will pass. For this we are blessed. xx

[Kevin160 in reply to Agora1]

Im grateful everyday, but i just sometimes feel like falling apart , im blessed with a good life but overthinking and fear is affecting it , and even though its less frequent and milder than before , anxiety is still frustrating and makes me feel small and weak , anyway i believe it will be better again like always , im much better than before and im working to keep improving

[Wolfangel7579]

I can relate to that, especially recently. I will go about my day feeling fine and BOOM In trigged. Something as simple as a schedule change causes my anxiety to get out of control.

[Kevin160 in reply to Wolfangel7579]

Yes its annoying and frustrating because deep down i know im irrational and it's ok and im fine and safe , but fear just takes over and makes scenarios or just makes me overthink

[Wolfangel7579 in reply to Kevin160]

Yes! Yes yes yes! You said it perfectly!

[blackblack]

you are not the only peson with this kind of feelings ,there is alot of people like u and me!

[Kevin160 in reply to blackblack]

Im aware of that

[Hollick]

Let's not overlook the fact that when sudden anxiety hits us (me too), naturally the anxiety causes a mood shift too. There's always a trigger. Our 'thoughts' control our emotions/moods, physically, hormones can play a part. Thats why its crucial to try our hardest and control the thoughts, but as we all know, easier said than done. I once completed an in-hospital CBT course, it really helped, but you have to practice positive thinking religiously. For those that can and haven't tried it, I would recommend cognitive behavioral therapy. I'm sure there's also courses online. For me, it was like making a commitment, its lifelong, it doesn't work for all, however after trying, I understand the logic. Thanks for listening and sharing, good wishes to all, take care of ourselves.

[Kevin160 in reply to Hollick]

Thanks for the information and support ♥️

[NeuronerdDoaty]

Hi Kevin. I’d like you to step back through the time that is mild anxiety. What are the things that irritate you? What are the ‘little’ anxieties? I found if I don’t speak the small things one day I’m in the grocery store melting down because they are out of my bread. It’s not the bread of course. It’s that I didn’t pay heed to all the good and bad irritants to my nervous system for three weeks prior. It’s like a feather always tickling at you until you feel numb to that tiny feather. Unfortunately your body is not numb to that little tickling. I urge you to pay attention to those little feathers, good and bad, that aren’t triggers but irritants. You’ll soon learn when a lack of your bread on the shelf will blow up the store. All for your health my friend. Best of luck to you.

Doaty

[Kevin160 in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

I really try my best to always vent here , and say everything, to me its mostly health anxiety, physical symptoms due to my mental health, i have no personal support system , also i have A levels results, im a senior in school and to me these exams determine my future and im worried., I worry about everything and anything simple or big, even if it doesn't relate to me , if i hear someone i dont know just died . I panic .. simple as that ... these past few weeks i have been getting constant and heavy nosebleeds , i went to a doctor and i have to wait a while until i cautarize it because they is inflammation and an infection that needs to resolve ..i had a few heavy nosebleeds and i feel dizzy all the time and pale and tired , so thats another trigger, i have so many , family struggles , so much i can spend a whole day just venting

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Kevin160]

Oh Kevin I’m so sorry all that’s going on. That’s a lot for anybody. Do you do proactive things such as quiet time/meditation, gentle exercise, and watching your caffeine and sugar intake? If so I say add 10 minutes to quiet time or pink noise time and walking.

I’ll be honest with you my son got nosebleeds when his anxiety was high. I used a trick we used in the ER. Small tampons. Do you have sisters? Sounds gross but it’s great for pressure and healing. Be prepared to laugh at yourself.

I pray you do well on your A levels. You seem so advanced it sounds as if you won’t need it but I’ll pray nonetheless.

We need some boundaries for you so that things that aren’t yours to control you won’t worry about. We won’t talk about that now. When you’re ready.

Love and peace to you my dear.

Doaty

[Kevin160 in reply to NeuronerdDoaty]

hahaha thank you for the nosebleed advice, but hopefully i will go back to the doctor soon , My nose always bleeds especially in the summer after allergy season due to heavy sneezing, blowing my nose , the heat and maybe due to anxiety , i have a wound inside of there i guess , but i have been keeping it under control and putting pressure on my nose when bleeding to prevent blood loss because one time i didnt try to stop the bleeding and it just bled alot to a point i felt dizzy and cold , but hopefully in a couple of days i will go back and cauterize it if the inflammation subsided , fingers crossed

Im worried about A levels but thank you for the support, im just anxious about akk the suspense and anticipation , which is the main cause of my anxiety if its not health wise

I do try not to worry about things i cant control or things that are nit related to me or concern me but ever since i started this journey, im so sensitive to fear that any inconvenience or trigger makes me go into a spiral of fear , which is super annoying and frustrating

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Kevin160]

Try to watch the caffeine and sugar and realize you aren’t really worried about ‘those’ things. It’s just your general anxiety attaching to something / anything. Praise and prayers are free! You’re great and I want to know how you do. ☺️

I so underestimated how bad my kids felt through allergy season. I couldn’t change anything and I let them take sick days. Now I have lupus and I’m allergic to myself and overreact to everything with too much histamine. I apologize so much to people like there’s something I can do! Can you do the nasty Neti pot? My kids did it in the shower every day. I think things got about 50% better after everyone started rinsing out the mess. Hard to get used to but worth it. Waiting to hear good things Kevin 👍

[Givingup]

Hi, my therapist is teaching me to think a certain way. I'm trying, it takes practice... the point is to think what's the worst thing that can happen if this goes sideways? I'll deal with it even if its uncomfortable it's not the end of the world. And it's never too much ,we do end up dealing with what comes up whether it's with medication or not. As far as the news being a trigger, I dont watch the news it's very upsetting for me. Hope this helps somewhat. I'm teaching myself.

[Kevin160 in reply to Givingup]

Yes I tried that and its a great technique however to me i come up with worst case scenarios that are irrational... everything to me leads eventually to scenarios of death, disasters and such ...but im getting better at realizing when im exaggerating and how things would actually turn out..thank you ♥️

[onthetrail]

I've made some progress by accepting that fear will likely not go away as one of my big challenges in life. Other people deal with anger, ignorance, lack, oppression, injustice. I don't have those problems. But I have to deal with fears, mostly small ones, almost every day. I can get complacent, thinking I've got it all figured out. Then a big fear comes along and knocks me out of equilibrium, and I realize I'm back to figuring it out one day at time.

Be well. You aren't alone. There are lots of experienced and wise people to talk to here.

[Kevin160 in reply to onthetrail]

Yes thank you for all what you said, i know and understand that clearly .i hae been here since January where my anxiety was much much much much worse, i was at rock bottom when i came here , and throughout this year i went through hell and back constantly..panic attacks would last weeks over the simplest of things and the physical symptoms and death fears were much worse , i would not live , i was always feeling like dying ..i was in hell .. living normally on the outside but on the inside just panicking and thinking of the worse things .. dealing with the worst od feelings .. just thinking about my life at first ... being alone or not .. showering..school... driving.. moving out of bed was painful

But to me now .. I realized alot and EVENTHO i still have alot to learn and im not all the way out yet .but i survived what i thought i wouldnt . And now its much more mild ..i feel like myself again but just a bit more anxious...i just like to vent here because of the support i recieve mostly... thank you so much for your feedback and support ♥️

[HopeWithSmile]

I feel you, Kevin! I really do!

There are some periods when I feel like “finally, this stage is over, I can breathe and have no weight on my shoulders”. And then BOOM - a trigger where I didn’t expect it to be. And then all you think is “omg, not again”.

At this point my frustration turns into sadness and feeling of doom. But we should never give up on us. We can go through every hurdle!

[Kevin160 in reply to HopeWithSmile]

My exact feeling.. especially with whay im going through i just need to talk to someone but i have no support in my house , and here its ok but its not the same ..i just worry easily and sometimes its hard to feel motivated to get through my anxiety ..it feels like a constant battle amd a vicious cycle ...but hey...im not giving up

[Kevin160 in reply to HopeWithSmile]

Because even when i feel like I'm in hell..and im in constant panic ..fear. and just in rock bottom , i remember how it feels when i get better and i just feel free and able to breathe .. its sad but i mean people all have a problem in life .. this is mine .. hopefully it gets better

[itswolf34]

im almost just like that... the slightest thing will trigger my anxiety. Recently, it's been bad. I don't eat or sleep. Im always exhausted ... headaches and just don't have the energy or strength to do anything. I hate myself because as much as i try i feel like it's hard to overcome. I know it's gotten to the point where I can't take it because I wanna self harm sometimes.... like punish myself for being this way. Normally, i won't talk to people about this because i feel like no one can relate.... but now i actually want someone to talk too.

[Kevin160 in reply to itswolf34]

Dont be mad at yourself , this is totally normal , express yourself here, and talk to me if you need anything or anyone here , i have been helped alot here , when i first came here to this website, long story short a doctor mentioned something to me about my blood pressure and pulse and that i stress easily and eventhough i knew i had that problem , i didnt know about blood oressure affect, i became obsessed and fearful , and then it escekated to GAD , and panic attacks kept going , sleep was bad , no appetite and i was in rock bottob , never thought in a million years i would survive what i did in the beggining of the year all the way to now ...its very hard but as time passes you will start to get stronger , and then you will make progress ...i have so many stories that will make u feek better and see there is hope and advices to get better but we will get through that any time kater i dont want to overwhelm you but will get throuh this, you are a great human and you dont need to harm yourself , we all get through dark times and become weak , its inevitable, all people go through it and they get better , some are more sensitive to fear but thats not bad m we are more safe and thats ok , we can still enjoy life and make progress, you will get better trust me