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Confronting my family

I finally confronted my family and they finally agreed for me to get therapy, i INSISTED so badly and i got so angry and told them everything , all my symptoms, the constant panic im suffering every second if everyday and all the shirtness of breath, the death and health anxiety , feeling like constantly dying then feeling better then dying and it goes on , i got an appointment for next week and all my family knows, its very embarassing because now i feel , all the ocd tendancies, all the heart palpitating and the diziness and the derealization , the uncontrolable panic and anxiety from the moment i wake up till the moment i go to bed , i also told them that since im having exams and i camt focus on anything and im so panicky im just going to get a heart attack or a stroke, i get migraines and i cant live like this, i just want to get better ..i just panic even when im comfortable in my bed warm and good, i just try anything and it barely wirks anymore, the past 3 days have been horrible, i have been having non stop anxiety for the past 3 days even when i wake up from bed and go to sleep which ever happened that severe, i havent had the panic state but i always feel derealization and constant anxiety that is not as severe as a panic attack but it doesnt go away, so its bittersweet that im not having panic attacks but im having constant less severe but terrible anxiety where i keep getting heart palpitations and severe fear and feeling like im just dying ...i just dont know what is going to happen next but i just want to get through this week its probably gonna be terrible, but if i dont die ;) , im gonna start therapy yay ... my parents finally are more aware about my situation and i guess all that insisting and complaining and the many times i told them they finally understand , they got the appointment and they will push me to go so even if i try to back out or felt scared i will be alright and they will get me to go ;)

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AWESOME!!! Congratulations and I wish you much healing and happiness!

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Thank you , i just having been feeling no where near myself these past few days, apart of all the panicking and stress i just feel panic its my new normal which i dont want ...hopefully i get better , im embarassed that my family knows alot now, but i need this

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You just took a huge step by telling your family and insisting on going to therapy! I'm so happy for you that you were able to do that. In addition to therapy, have you thought about medication? Lots of people find a combination of both can be helpful. Of course, if you don't take medication, there are also tons of people who have used therapy successfully. Good luck!

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Im worried about medication , including the addiction if there is a possibility, (i dont know so dont judge) ..or the side affects ...anyway if i need to i will go for it, i have been living in non stop anxiey and panic since late december , and i know people had more stress for longer but for me its unbearable i cant take more, i feel like im close to death like that , i know its likely in my head but im soo overthinking im losing my mind and i dont want to think because i will panic and think of so much pressure and panic

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Congratulations with getting the help you need to begin to overcome anxiety. One important thing to remember and tell yourself when feeling anxious or panicking is that no matter how bad it gets or feels it CAN NOT kill you or make you go crazy. I’ve suffered from anxiety for the last 16 years. I’m still alive and have never gone crazy. As soon as I repeat those words to myself it usually immediately calms me down. Anxiety can not kill you or make you go crazy.

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It contributes to heart disease, it produced adrenaline and other hormones that over a long time will affect the heart, it also causes other conditions like hypertension, and depression and constant anxiety has been linked to many diseases such as cancer , ofcourse i totally believe u but i just keep feeling like im going to be the exception..the one who will die from it , i just dont know what to feel anymore i feel like im out of my body and i have jo control i just feel like im in a dream right now ...but i just don't believe myself when i tell myself i wont die and even if i do believe it i keep thinking that what if ..i keep getting these thoughts of being in a hospital..and smth bad keep happening

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What you’re experiencing is called catastrophic thoughts. Anyone suffering from anxiety suffers from these types of thoughts. It’s ok for your mind to think this way. Practice trying to change your mind about the thoughts. This is something you may learn in therapy too. Anxiety can not kill you or make you go crazy. Just practice telling yourself that. Even if you don’t believe it at first.

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Yes im trying and i think sometimes it calms me, that my number one fear, that stress will kill me which causes more stress its a terrible cycle that i couldnt break for the past 2 months , even before i had less severe stress and anxiety but it also revolved around my health , i mean just thinking about that it wont kill me makes me happy eventhough i may not 100% feel convinced because the physical symptoms are sometimes too overwhelming but thank you so much for the help , knowing that you faced alot of stress and anxiety for so long makes me feel less worried about it affecting me , however my anxiety has been constant for a couple months from the moment i wake up to the moment i sleep, even when im not worried due to distractions, i feel the shortness of breath and palpitations ...did you ever have that constant anxiety because if it comes and goes i would have been less worried about it

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They have so many different types of medications and Sam is non-habit-forming a lot of them are Good luck!!

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I will make sure to ask my doctors about them and see which one i could possibly use, i wasnt sure about meds because one of the main reasons for my anxiety was just being convinced that it will kill me , because i dont mind living with it but what makes it so much harder is that i keep thinking that im stressing alot, and i cant control it , what if it kills me , i would litteraly be killing myself with my own thoughts , its so embarassing to be wasting a life over this but its just panic on the inside and i cant control it, hopefully i will start to realize it wont kill me even if it feels like it. Because i get told that constant panic will never kill me but i dont know sometimes, sometimes im like yes ofcourse it wont it just normal, then other times when im oanicking i feel lthat how will this not kill me i feel terrible

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Yes even though you say it’s just a panic attack and a panic attack feels very horrible and it’s not only that is something that you are Feeling that as well don’t think that you should be embarrassed behind it is normal but it’s not a good feeling I’ve been suffering for over 20 years now

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Please dont feel embarrassed! You are only human. Nobody is perfect Kevin.

Im so happy for you. Getting therapy was one of the best decisions of my life!

It is work but with some time you will feel better and better!

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Yes but because my family members are all confident and can handle alot of things that i panic alot to do , even simple things, such as getting medical procedures without worrying, travelling, going out, handling stressful situations, i stress over anything and everything without any need even if something doesnt even affect me , so i feel embarassed because its a sign of weakness that i cant do anything without panic and fear, and that im not ok or normal , just alot of emotions come to me because i feel inferior to them

Also because im the youngest they never take me seriously and i know they probably laughed at me whenever i mentioned i need therapy and said im acting like a baby

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Ok I understand. So they embarass you bc they can handle everything & they make you feel bad about how you act. Similar to what Ive experienced in my family.

My advice to you is use the help they offer you and maybe one day they can come to therapy with you so the therapist can help them, help you.

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Yes i guess, its not so bad but its just frustrating that im always the one who is weak, i dont go a day without getting negative thoughts or feeling like im the less knowledgable one or im the less experienced one or less capable one of certain things.it sounds silly but it really feels bad

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It doesnt sound silly. If that's how you are feeling then honor those feelings. Your feelings are valid.

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Thank you so much, its just whenever i tell my family anything these dismiss it or make fun of it, and im not overreacting im serious, they make fun of it typically so im used to thinking that my feelings are not valid like u say,,thank you though

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Yea, no problem. Your therapist will help you with these things. Like I said eventually your parents should talk to your therapist.

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It's good that you're going for therapy. Sorry you weren't able to take on board any of the advice you were given here. Can't be helped. Personally I think from what you've described medication is essential. There is no addiction. There are no side effects. And Eva is absolutely right: anxiety doesn't cause heart attacks. Arteries clogged with cholesterol plaque from eating too much saturated fat causes heart attacks but I know you are unable to accept that. Tell us how it goes with the therapist.

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Yes i try to convince myself but its hard because of the physical symptoms, and my family who have no experience but are closest to me tell me if i stress i die and be “killing myself” and keep giving me these thoughts that are terrifying...its nit that i didnt get on board of the advices i was given, i learned alot here, about breathing exercises and meditation , i was introduced to many programs and apps and videos and just moral support from every single person including you , my problems with my health anxiety are just a bit too controlling right now, and i need someone close to me face to face to help me ;) thank you jeff for all the support , im slowly trying to convince myself that i wont die even if i get panic attacks from now till a decade later , without any breaks, but to be honest its not just the if it will kill me , i worry i will lose my mind or develop suicidal thoughts or stuff like that, i have alot of thoughts from this that are scary and i worry they will come true, howveer the main one is this killing me, slowly knowing it wont happen as time goes on will likely help , but i still need to take care of the anxiety ..

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When i start therapy i will update everyone ;)

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And its not just the heart attacks, i fear high blood pressure, pulse rate, strokes too , alot

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I've had anxiety for nearly 45 years but I'm still alive at 76. So will you be at 76, Kevin. I minimise it and am free from it 95% of the time because I learned from Claire Weekes not to fight it, not to fear it, to accept it for the time being even though in my case it's inherited.

If your therapist recommends meds do take his or her advice, you desperately need a break from your worries and bad feelings. It will restore your quiet mind and give you a chance to think about recovery options.

If you have diabetes you take insulin.

If you have glaucoma you take timolol.

If you have a bacterial infection you take anti biotics.

If you have vertigo you take Serc.

If you have high cholesterol you take a statin.

If you have high blood pressure you take a blood pressure tablet.

Anxiety is no different.

If you experience overwhelming anxiety you take an anti anxiety med.

Anxiety about taking anti anxiety meds is just another symptom of anxiety. Sincere good luck, Kevin!

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I really appreciate it .. im going to try my best to accept it and not fear my anxiety, im trying and i will start therapy, thank you for everything , im going to try to accept my symptoms and the fear, i know that u r right i just didnt know how to face it , but now i know because even if i had constant anxiety and panic ..i. Physically healthy and young so im fine and i will be ok :) im happy with what i learned and i have alot to go

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So glad to hear it! It takes a lot of courage to talk about all of this- especially with people who may not “get it”. You are braver than you know, Kevin.

As you go through therapy and start adopting new beliefs and attitudes towards anxiety, you will start to feel so much better😀 I’m so glad it’s a go, and it sounds like you are no longer on the hook for paying for therapy, right?

I agree with other posters re: meds. An SSRI or other antidepressant can provide a big “nudge” for many people. They are not addictive.

I am personally not at all surprised that you are still suffering. Changing our minds about things is hard and takes time. We become so married to our ways of thinking and to our interpretations of things. As you learn to cast away old notions and start adopting new ones, recovery inevitably follows. The therapist will help you with this👍🏻 Looking forward to your updates😀

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Im just feeling like im kidding myself whenever i try to believe that im fine

I get ideas like "oh im never that lucky"

"Nothing is ever that easy" "anxiety has to kill or it wouldn't be this horrible" ...and i just think its too good to be true that i would be anxiety free , its frustrating but im starting to believe because of all the people including u telling me they faced constant panic and anxiety for alot longer than me and turned out fine i feel a bit more relaxed because its the main fear, knowing im fine takes the fear factor away so i feel anxious but barely affects me ...

I will see what happens with meds i will consult when i start next week..its not that i dont want to believe things but i worry about believing things because i worry alot and overthink about all the negative side of anything i hear

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