Today I felt like w everything was just crashing down on me. It seems like nothing is going right in my life. When I feel like I have no one I can turn to. No one truly understands, and when I try to explain i just her told to pull it together. Or worse, people try to compare what they’re going through to what I’m going through. I want to scream, cry, throw things......
I just want to disappear.
I can relate. It's so sad that we live in such a selfish world where everyone is so busy and unwilling to reach out to people like us. I feel rejected by everyone because no one ever takes the time to reach out and try and spend a little time with me. No pill is going to cure depression, and I believe the best therapy for all of us would be to have one special friend who thought of us as special enough to spend time with on a regular basis, not just a few times per year. I know it would make me happy to have just one person who made me a priority so that I wouldn't be home alone every day of the week. Maybe we can encourage each other to get out and meet new people and search for that special friend ? I'm going to look for a new church where I can meet others my age who could also use a good friend. Have you tried church ?
I agree, it would be nice to have someone I could open up to. I haven’t tried church. That is a good idea. I fear opening up to people, because I’ve opened up to people in the past who I thought were friends and it turned out bad. They actually used what I told them in confidence to hurt me. I pray all the and ask for guidance and relief of these feelings.
Sorry to hear about your bad experiences with people who pretended to be your friend then turned around and betrayed you. I know exactly how that feels !! Been hurt many times in that way. Well, although it's not easy to trust again, I feel it's worth taking the risk; as a matter of fact, I'm starting to feel angry with my current so-called friends for being so uncaring and unthoughtful. I've just decided to trade them in for new ones..or just one..we owe it to ourselves to find a companion whom we can confide in, although it means we may have to leave our comfort zone, venture out on our own and make the effort to meet new people and go new places. Church is full of friendly faces. I'm going to start checking out some this weekend. Maybe you can do the same and we can compare experiences ?
You’re right, it’s a terrifying thought to open to people but I know it’s probably best I do. Sorry to hear you’ve been hurt in that way as well. I know it’s a truly hurtful feeling. I hope you do find a good church that you feel comfortable with. It going to take your advice and try to venture out. Hopefully we both have good experiences.
Yes its horrible to have so called friends say things to us that do more harm than good. I have been told "that's life " , I'm prickly, what do I do all day and on and on. I thought I was the only one.... I'm sorry that your hurting.
The sad thing is most people think that people with depression are just whining, or want attention. Which is not the case at all. You’re not alone. We all need someone, or some type of outlet.
How many times have I heard that over n over...I’m being childish or just trying to cause drama. When it’s real life depression. Now I’m not a church goer or anything granted that doesn’t mean that I don’t believe I just don’t feel that I only have to worship him on sundays and only in a church. But there are some genuine people at church that could really help...just have to weed them out away from the not so genuine.
So true..I finally broke up with my boyfriend because he would say hurtful things like " my problems are bigger than yours, so I don't wanna hear it " or he would shut me down the minute I tried to discuss anything that was bothering me, saying " there you go again, building yourself up over nothing !" ..I'm lonely right now, but I'm getting rid of all toxic people which will improve my mood in the long-run.
I can relate! And I will be a friend to you all 💛
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I’m a strong believer in don’t put all your eggs in one basket. We need networks and communities to help with social isolation. I like the suggestion of going to church. If that’s not your thing find a volunteer group or use the website meetup.com to see if you can find people who like to do similar things. I like concerts so I joined a meetup group for that and made 2 friends. I’m of the mindset of spread out and get a support network if you can. You’re already doing the right thing by opening up in this community. I wish you all the best
I too can relate. I'm struggling to find my way. I feel as if I've lost my edge, my passion and my ambition. I've worked hard all my days working feel like I was just working to get a check. I like the place I work at but not the people in my department. I recently lost my husband a few months ago and I am over the top with sadness. My children are grown and I feel all alone. I go to church and love worshipping, studying the word but I've not gone to my church in awhile because when I get there I feel as if they pity me or something. I have a few good friends but I hold off from talking to them because I don't want them to feel I'm always depressed and emotional. Even though I am but I can tell sometimes the way they look or respond to me that they don't want to engage with me because I may not be fun to do things with or always talk so sad. I do go to talk therapy on a regular basis and take my meds and write in my journal. That's all I can seem to do. I lost my best friend and soul mate and it hurts every day. I miss my husband soooooooo much. I don't know how I will make it without him. I wish I could have died with him.
I’m so sorry you lost your husband. I can only imagine the hurt your feeling. It’s go that you do go to talk therapy and you write. Having an outlet for your feelings is always a good idea. If you ever just need to talk I’m here. Even if you just need someone to listen.
Thank you wileykitt for your kind words. I really appreciate that. I'm working hard at it but feels like I'm getting nowhere. I fimd myself becoming more isolated and tired. Just dont know what to do anymore. I see so many others that are doing great and living life but i dont feel like mine is worth living. Every thought is just that a thought or dream. Im supposed to be getting ready for work but i cant pull myself up to do it. Im so lost and alone.
I sure can relate to what you are saying. Thank you for sharing. Usually I am and I do feel isolated and alone.
As I've said dozens of times on this self help group site, if I don't understand what is happening to me how can anyone else understand it.
Are you researching on Google to figure out how to help your friends to help you?
The stuff there is generic. However, you can always rewrite, combine and share them with others after you have written and proof read it a bazillion times to make sure it says what you want it to say.
Include being grateful for their willingness to help you.
I haven’t tried to google it. I’ve tried taking to the few friends I have, but I haven’t gotten positive responses.
Scary stuff. Mental Health has always been scary. The brain is part of the body. Somehow it has the reputation for being all weirdo and scary (well, it is).
When computers first came out we were drilled with the message of "Garbage In, Garbage Out."
Seems to be the same with anxiety/panic/depression. The more we feed it the negativity, the more it thrives.
Customer Service Reps are taught to smile while talking on the phone. The positive shines thru in the voice.
Now I understand all that advice. As long as I continue on the path of negativity, that's what I'll get in return. What we send out to the Universe comes back to us.
Hummnnnnn!!!! So, how do we accept and make those changes?
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