Emotional drained. Ive been go...

[PoeticSoul34]

Emotional drained. Ive been going through highs and lows all day. I miss my wife n daughter would just come up. But it seems impossible. I need to get and be better. For myself and them.. I dont wanna be angry and emotional. I just want them to love me. I miss being apart of a family

[Fearoffear]

It will get better. You are doing a good thing for yourself and your family by getting help. Hopefully you will be with your wife and daughter soon and feel more like the husband and dad you liked being.

[PoeticSoul34 in reply to Fearoffear]

Thanx

[HearYou]

Hello. You have received some very good insight and advice for members of this venue , including hypercat54 and Agora.

A suggestion is to find a therapist who specializes in divorce, as some of the issue you are bringing up relate to the steps of death and dying, which is the same as a divorce is to a marriage. Working through the denial,, negotiating and finally, acceptance that the divorce is happening may be very helpful for you.

You keep looking to the past to explain your behavior, which appears to include verbal and physical injury to your mother. You don't mention if you treated your wife that way.

Regardless, appears you are at the beginning of the stages of a divorce, and haven't gotten past the stage one: it's happening. You haven't mentioned seeking assistance with a specialist that deals with divorce issues and looks like that may help your CURRENT situation as well as your past.

As you had been married a while before your daughter was born, appears your wife didn't leave out of anger or punishment, but out of concern for her and your daughter's safety from verbal abuse in particular. Your wife just couldn't handle being a good mother and deal with your issues of verbal abuse, etc. It was wise; she makes certain you and your daughter have a relationship. She knows changes need to be made and she did not have the power to do that. You do.

Finding a good therapist ,group or class in divorce could be very helpful as that would deal with the present as well as the past. I wish you the best, as I know how draining and eye-opening a divorce can be. But you still have a wife who understands you need a relationship with your daughter and she with you.

[Windy101]

It's hard being on your own when you're not used to it, but getting yourself healthy needs to be your first priority. Even in a divorce, your relationships with others improve when you're feeling better. Take care of yourself first and you will have more strength to deal with the other issues in your life.

[PoeticSoul34 in reply to Windy101]

THanx