Feeling like everyone leaves me

[Skylar_swims]

Everyone freaking leaves when I try to explain to them what I’m going through it freaking hurts and then I have no one to freaking talk to because I’m just a worthless person.

[hypercat54]

Why do you need to explain to them what you are going through? What do you expect to get out of it? Sympathy? Advice? Help? Allowances made for you?

What exactly?

Not being funny or having a go but thinking about why you do this so this could provide you with some answers and help you. I hope so anyway.

[Skylar_swims in reply to hypercat54]

hello, I am so sorry for the late response I feel like I need to explain what I’m going through for them to understand me.

[gajh]

You are not a worthless person. You can talk about what you are going through here.

[Skylar_swims in reply to gajh]

Hello, so sorry for the late response. Thank you I really appreciate it.

[Kayaker73]

Your worth is incalculable. It isn’t dependent upon how others perceive or treat you. I’m sorry you have had so much abandonment. Don’t abandon yourself. Things can be figured out given the right resources. Maybe working with a therapist could be helpful?

[Skylar_swims in reply to Kayaker73]

Hello, sorry for the late response. Thank you for your suggestion.

[ArtDogs]

it can be so painful, I know. Keep sharing here. I believe we can understand and support each other. I have been abandoned by people who told me they cared, and I have isolated from people who care.

[Skylar_swims in reply to ArtDogs]

Hello, sorry for the late response. Thank you for your share.

[Ryanlion]

You are NOT a worthless person, there is no such thing. Everyone has value & worth. Even the lowest of the low could be contributing to some one without knowing it. I think you are just talking to the wrong type of people, it is hard today in this world to find compassionate & caring people except on this lovely site. I am amazed at the kindness & compassion of all individuals that respond on this site it warms my heart. Choose carefully who you disclose too because some individuals can get scared by other people's stuff. The amount of people I have lost if I mention my depression is many. They say the right things then make a cash for the door even my own sibling.Your so young, I'd kill to be your age again but that doesn't help you now does it. Worse thing you can do is feel sorry for yourself it doesn't help you. Stop saying horrible and untrue things to yourself. Say beautiful things to yourself and see how much better you feel. Even if you don't believe them they are true. I was told by a Guru once, if you try loving yourself, your world will change. Here is a truth from me. You are a beautiful young individual who will have much to offer in the future and much to gain. God am I jealous!

[Skylar_swims in reply to Ryanlion]

Hello, thank you for your response. Sorry for the late response.

[PeaceNeed]

Your not worthless. Its the illness in your mind telling u that stuff.As to people .....no one who isnt dep or anx can appreciate the pain we're in.

[Skylar_swims in reply to PeaceNeed]

Hello, sorry for the late response. Thank you for commenting.

[Hidden]

I understand how you feel. I've experienced similar struggles, exacerbated by abandonment within my own family. The way our family treats us can deeply influence our perspective on the world, love, and people in general. I've confided in individuals very close to me in the past, seeking support due to my parents' absence, only to find that it either drove them away or led to the person offering assistance with strings attached. The concept of help with strings attached is complex. For instance, a friend once flew down to 'help' me, but it turned out she wanted to control the situation, dictating what I should do. When her advice didn't yield the expected results, she became angry and passive-aggressive. She inadvertently engaged in all the wrong behaviors around someone dealing with depression and trauma, spending the entire week criticizing me. At 52, I've come to realize that we live in a world where genuine care is often lacking, and there's pressure for everything to be positive (what some call toxic positivity). It's incredibly disheartening, and I empathize with your experience. Depression is a real challenge; it's not something you can simply 'snap out of.' I assume the people you confide in are friends rather than family. Have you considered sharing with your family? Do you think they would be supportive? Having a supportive network is crucial. Again, I'm sorry for what you're going through. one tip is to dip your foot in the water with people without them knowing about depression. If you are having a down day because of a job, or school, or something small - let them know wow, it was a bummer today, because xyz happened- can we go out today or tonight so I can get my mind off of it (again an example). If they are constantly saying no, if it constantly their agenda, they are not a friend in the first place. Jusa thought.

[Skylar_swims in reply to Hidden]

Hello, sorry for the late response. Thank you for replying.

[Hidden in reply to Skylar_swims]

I hope everyone's ideas have been somewhat helpful or just writing to us knowing you are not alone. You definitely are not alone. Hugs.

[Midori]

You are Not worthless, we all have our place in this world, without you there would be a You shaped hole in the world. we just need to help you find it. Why don't you start by telling us about yourself? What is happening?

Cheers, Midori

[Skylar_swims in reply to Midori]

Hello, sorry for the late response. Thank you for replying.