Boyfriend

[Katelynjh77]

So me and my boyfriend have been on and off for two and a half years and he really likes his own space. I know after awhile of me staying there he gets bothered. His sister just moved out and there’s more room if he moved upstairs and we would have our own space but he didn’t want that. Getting into this he told me he didn’t want kids or marriage and I was ok with it but now as I get older I want that. I just don’t get it because I’m trying to get a house together and he is trying to get one alone. But then he throws comments out like if you pass school and are doing good maybe he will change his mind and then makes comments about our future. But why be with someone if you don’t want those things why waste there time. I don’t get it. Maybe it’s just me but he is a hit or miss one day he wants it the next he might not. But I don’t wanna just break up with him but when I try and talk about it he gets mad with me

[1989Bookworm]

Sorry but i think you should think about finding a partner that is more open to the things you want in life without conditions which are really just a way to manipulate you. I have only been married for 6 years but hubs and I have been together for about 10 years now. The part where if you finish school and are in a good place before he commits is a red flag to me.. my feelings are that he should love you regardless cuz life can be ugly at times and u wanna pick a partner who will stand with you through the tough stuff. Even pick u up and carry you through when its neccessary. ❤ Sorry your dealing with this kinda thing.

[hypercat54 in reply to 1989Bookworm]

I completely agree with you. x

[Katelynjh77 in reply to 1989Bookworm]

Yea I agree it’s just hard because I have so many feelings for him

[1989Bookworm in reply to Katelynjh77]

I totally understand that! That makes things very hard but you do need to look out for you first... and I know that's easier said than done too! I wish you the best in finding a solution that works for you 🙂

[Hidden]

I think it’s time to pack up and go... You should do things concerning your career or life if you want to, not because your partner wants to. I think it’s manipulative of him to hold the potential of moving in over your head your like that.

I know it’s hard to leave when you’re the one who cares but what I’ve learned is that if someone is telling you they don’t want something, believe them.

I think you’ll have a beautiful life with someone who consistently lifts you up and doesn’t make you question.

[Katelynjh77 in reply to Hidden]

Yes I agree thank you

[Hidden in reply to Katelynjh77]

You’re very strong! You can do it!!!

[Titan4757]

You're dealing with a narcissist. He flat out told you he didn't want children. He's hot and cold but will string you along with some good days but then back to being a cold fish. He's using you because he has no one else and you allow it. I've been in your shoes before. The whole situation is causing you so much stress and to conflict. You're probably wondering what's wrong with you when the whole time it's the other person causing you to feel this uncertainty. A year and a half of your life? You deserve to be happy and drama free, especially if you're dealing with any depression or anxiety. My suggestion is move on and don't look back. Time to start a new chapter in your life. Best wishes.