Me venting and ranting...again.

[sb_10]

You seriously do not have to read this if you don’t feel like it. It’s not beneficial and I understand that, but this is the only place I have right now to get these feelings off my chest to people that at least try to understand. I am so appreciative to everyone in this group, it lets all of us know we aren’t as alone as we feel. WARNING: RANT BEGINNING haha

I could tell someone straight to their face why what they said hurt me or tell them what I am struggling with, but I still get treated like I’m stupid and crazy for being who I am. I do not have hardly any friends because when I am around others I usually feel even worse. I just wish people cared more about how they treated others and that people understood mental illness instead of making me feel even worse. I guess I just need to keep looking for the right people🤷‍♀️

[teemo1]

I completely get you. People who have not experienced anxiety and/or depression are often unable to understand what we go through, even in cases where they sincerely want to understand. And so I come on here and get helpful advice and support from people who do get what I'm going through, because we're in the same boat.

This online forum has been the one and only place where I have been able to confide in others regarding anxiety, and it's helped me enormously.

[hypercat54]

Hi rant and rave away as sometimes this does help I find the best way to deal with people like that is to avoid them wherever possible. If you can't then when they insult you agree with them and say 'So'? You just have a quirky personality and there is nothing wrong with that. If they want to think you are stupid and crazy then that's up to them. You can't ever control what other people say and do, but only your reaction to it.

Don't talk to other people about your problems and issues unless you trust them implicitly so limit this to good friends and family. It's an unfortunate fact of life that if you tell the world your troubles half will ignore you and the other half will laugh. Don't let these kind of people get a reaction out of you coz some will if they can, and they are doing now. Give them the cold shoulder and set some boundaries.

I will give you an example. When I was at Uni many moons ago I was talking to someone in a group and they were a bit funny with me. I didn't say anything but immediately turned to the people on the other side and started talking to them instead. Later on she asked if she had annoyed me and with a big wide eyed look gave her a 'No of course not' with a little smile. Ergo she didn't try that again!

Some people will always bully you if you let them but you need to have the courage of your own convictions, and often body language lets someone know they have been out of order and you don't need words. x

[sb_10 in reply to hypercat54]

I agree..it’s just hard for me to have the co confidence to not let their words get me down sometimes, ya know? Also, I don’t really confide in anyone, it’s just when I get anxious or depressed I get distant or act “different” and people tend to not take that kindly, but it’s what gets me through it. But I appreciate your advice and definitely need to work on the commenting back haha...I love your example! I think it’s awesome you had the courage to do that!

[hypercat54 in reply to sb_10]

Well I must admit it wasn't until I was a lot older that I was able to do that. When you are with these people (try and stay away as much as possible) just tell them you are tired or have things on your mind. You haven't got to explain or go into any details you know. If you ignore or show you don't care about their unkind remarks they will soon turn on someone else to get their kicks instead. x

[Hidden]

Totally hear you! When I first started feeling this way I lost most of my friends. People that haven't gone through this aren't equipped to help, listen nor give advice. I would often hear "get over it", "get a handle on yourself", "shake it off". Which made me feel even worse. As if what I was feeling was not real or justified. They made me feel weak. Though to be fair, a few people did try to understand but how do you explain everything you feel? And as Teemo1 said, this forum is absolutely amazing. I have never received so much support as I do here. I have never felt so comfortable confiding in people. The first post I shared here was scary for me but as soon as I started getting responses of support and love, I cried. I hadn't felt so good in so long! Thank you my virtual friends! Sending lots of LOVE!

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Exactly...how does the saying go..treat others how you wish to be treated

[crowningglory19]

Yea, some don't know how to treat others, healthy or not. Also, it might have much more to do with them than anything to do with you at all. They go their own sickness and problems and those who act like they got it all together can be even worse inside than those of us who admit we can be a mess sometimes. It's tough for them to keep the facade and it becomes a major control thing so they don't want anyone around to burst their bubble. Find new friends, it's not worth continuing if there is now joy or acceptance from them. Taking magnesium can help calm you, a lot. Ginseng helps get rid of negativity too. =) You are doing great, keep on keeping on. =)