Getting over ex

[kitkat0502]

How do I get over my toxic ex? I loved him for three long year ( in high school) and I broke with him because I was becoming into a “ monster” but my heart hurts everytime I’m around him I just wanna be over him but the weak side and weak spirit won’t let me so any help?

[JP6714]

If you don’t need to see him don’t. Our hearts make us weak but human. Love is a beautiful curse

[kitkat0502 in reply to JP6714]

I see him everyday unfortunately

[hypercat54]

Hi I don't really get this as you say he is toxic then in the next breath that you were becoming a monster? x

[kitkat0502 in reply to hypercat54]

Ik like he was toxic on constantly fighting that turned me into a monster like constant attitudes

[hypercat54 in reply to kitkat0502]

Well unless you want to become a 'monster' again I would avoid any thoughts of getting back with him. Nothing will change will it and the reasons why you broke up will be the same. Best to concentrate on looking for a new bf - one that doesn't want to fight all the time. x

[kitkat0502 in reply to hypercat54]

True

[NeuroticSanity]

Do you have local friends? If so, whenever you think of him, call your friends and make plans to do fun stuff with them instead. If you have good things to look forward to, you have less cause to look back. If your friends are far away, make plans to visit them and try to find fun things you enjoy in the meantime. You might take a class (painting, baking, CPR, computer programming, etc) go to the movies, play a game, get lost in Pinterest, try finding a hobby (knitting, joining a local sports group, starting with a class as mentioned above), join a new social group (meetup.com is a great resource. Remember too that you can always call (with or without video), text, or email your friends whether near or far. In short, find emotionally and socially fulfilling things to do.

[kitkat0502 in reply to NeuroticSanity]

True I could do all those couldn’t I? I mean him and I have class together but the whole time I draw so that’s something right?

[wishifeltbetter]

I have been there! I was engaged to a guy that was absolutely awful. It’s easy to get caught up in think that things will

Change or that it’s not as bad as it is. Best decision of my life was ending the engagement. 4 months later I met a guy that wasn’t my type and that I didn’t even think twice about when we met. Of course we are now married. Once you meet the right guy you will be so thankful that you stayed away from the wrong guy.

[kitkat0502 in reply to wishifeltbetter]

I think I have tbh he’s been my bestie for a short time but I feel loved and special by him and he thinks bout our future already when we not in a relationship