I need an advice

[vanessi]

I need an advice, i don't wanna be With people. I feel bad. When i am around people or people is around .e i feel fear and so much anxiety. Is that normal? Is it cos my depression and the anxiety attacks? What can i do? People, even my mother thinks im mean and moody with ppl but it is not on purpose. I simpy don't feel ok when it is too crowded.

[Hidden]

Hi Venessi 👋🏽

Yes, This can be because of both depression or anxiety x have you been diagnosed or talked about this with a doctor?

For me, if there’s a big gathering or social situation, I like make sure every 15mins or so I retreat from it (even if the only place to retreat to is a bathroom) just to catch myself and breathe. This helps me be less irritated by people x don’t feel pressured to be social either . Take small steps x

Hope this helps x

[vanessi in reply to Hidden]

Honestly I have basically lost contact with everybody. My mom gets mad at me because she thinks I'm very antisocial and not talkative but I cannot force myself with that because I feel very bad anxious. It is like I was 3 yrs old and I was scared of everybody. I have explained here but she doesn't understand how I feel. One think is to be depressed, the anxiety another one and other is to feel panicked. I don't wanna be like that she thinks it is just apathy but it is not that. I don't think someone would love to feel like this

[TheMeg]

I'm the same way. Whenever I go through a down period I cut everyone off. Techniques of meditation help but in my experience there's only so much you can do for yourself and seeking professional help is the best option to figure out what works best for you

[vanessi in reply to TheMeg]

Thanks I feel the same. I have become very antisocial but it is not on purpose. I was in a party with me mother I didn't want to go but she force me to do it. At the end I went and it was a mess I wanted to get out of there immediately. I didn't want to talk to anyone and I was just polite saying hi to some old friends. I started to feel so anxious and scared and she got mad cos I wanted to back home and she had to leave the party. Now she doesn't talk to me due that. She is mad but I didn't want to go and she got mad cos I was not going so at the end I had to but the same again. She won't talk to me the next couple of days

[vanessi in reply to vanessi]

If she wanted to go she could have gone alone but here is me the bad daughter who never want to spend time with her. Anyway

[Aymara]

Have you spoken to a doctor? Sounds like Social-Anxiety to me. I have been diagnosed that too.... some call it Avoidant personality disorder. Seek help. Or before you know it, you'll wonder where decades of your life have passed without you doing ANY of the stuff that's considered pretty normal in life.

[vanessi in reply to Aymara]

I was seeing a psychologist but it didn't work out. And right now I cannot afford seeing a doctor. I feel very down today

[Joanne1972]

Hi

Not sure if this will help but it could just be you are an introvert personality. There are quite a few good books or advice on the Internet, just google introvert. I'm introvert and over sensitive to the feelings of others and pick up the energy of the environment when I go out. Sometimes I go out and the energy just feels wrong.....I have noticed different places have different energies....maybe find a place that feels nice. I like spending time alone...well I have 3 cats for company, so I don't feel totally alone. I like spending my time in the garden feeding the birds and the hedgehogs at night. I don't feel alone as I talk to the animals so I have someone to talk to.

Not sure if you are spiritual but what I do before going out is pull an imaginary bubble of protection around me so I don't take on the energy n feelings of others, reach up to the sky with both hands and pull the energy you feel around you creating a bubble of protection, Or maybe put on an imaginary cloak on....pull the hood up, maybe it has a steel lining to stop other people getting to you...when you start feeling anxiety, remember your protection bubble or cloak.

There's nothing wrong with being a introvert personality, or empathic of others around you. There are benefits you have from being introvert. It makes you a good person to help others, you feel there feelings but You just have to not take on their Energy so if doesn't overwhelm you. When negative people are around you remember your cloak or bubble and you are safe and protected.

If you do feel quite spiritual you could look up highly sensitive people. ..there are books and websites with advice.

Anyway just thought I'd mention it in case it sounds like you, an imaginary bubble or cloak worth a try before medication.

I do understand what you say could be social anxiety I just thought I'd mention an alternative to this.

All the best to you

Jo

[vanessi in reply to Joanne1972]

Thanks. I wasn't introverted in the past but all this has made a different woman. I have a little bit of anxiety now. Last night I imagined that bubble around me and let me sleep.

[car103]

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