Guilty and ashamed

[MK1978]

I have a good life- a good job, a beautiful daughter and I still feel anxious all the time. A knot of fear sits in my chest constantly. I feel hopeless. Knowing it’s not logical, I find reasons to excuse my feeling low and anxious. I feel pathetic. 😔

[Sober2007]

Try looking up the work of Claire Weeks and/or visit anxietynomore.co.uk/ - Both of these resources are helping me understand what's going on and why I continue to suffer from anxiety and the depression that goes along with it. Hope this is helpful to you.

[MK1978 in reply to Sober2007]

Thank you. I’m reading this. Have even ordered the book. I hope it works.

[Gabsy]

Don’t feel ashamed anxiety doesn’t care if your life is good now. I am the same, I am blessed in my life with a wonderful child and loving husband and just all around good life. But traumas that happened before the good life is what has given me anxiety. My talk doc had told me the reason I feel this now and not when my life was a shit show is because I am safe and can feel the fear and look at the wound that is causing it and recognize it and help it heal. It time for you to heal lovely, so take the time to heal since you are safe.

Happy healing!!

[MK1978 in reply to Gabsy]

Thank you for this. When I think back to the hell I’ve been through, I can’t seem to get over it. The emotions I experience are so strong that I just consciously put it out of my mind. And then the fear stays- constantly. How do I heal? How do I get over this?

[Gabsy in reply to MK1978]

What has helped is therapy no doubt. But what I have learned from therapy is don’t push them away, they need to be recognized. Usually in a safe environment like therapist office. But when I do my homework, I take some time to myself in a quite room with some aroma therapy and talk it out loud. Think of it like a little kid who is hurt, you wouldn’t push them aside to deal with it never. But when you recognize the trauma, you must recognize the triumph that you have grown and life is better. Self care is a big priority I have learned. Even if it’s a small portion of the day, it needs to happen. Your a treasure and need to be taken care of as one!!

Happy healing!!!

[MK1978 in reply to Gabsy]

Thank you. I just find it hard so I read or watch tv just so I don’t have to think. Can’t think anymore. Tired of thinking.

[Gabsy in reply to MK1978]

I understand that, it’s so exhausting. But I had the best rest in my experience after the tough self talk. It takes time to get in that safe space.

[MK1978 in reply to Gabsy]

I will try for sure. Thank you.