Ashamed

[ALTOV]

I am afraid to let my family and friends know of my deep depression. I don't want them to think that I am a wack job. I finally told my husband that I suffer from depression and that my doctor prescribed me medication and I feel so ashamed after letting him in on my BIG secret.

[Marshall64]

There is nothing to be ashamed about. Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. Would you be ashamed of something like diabetes?

It is good to tell your husband. There may be times where you don't feel like talking and now your husband won't be wondering if he did something wrong. I'm being serious because I have been there.

[ALTOV in reply to Marshall64]

Thanks

[hurtingheart1]

well soo sorry you're feeling like this!!! but definetly no reason to feel ashamed!!! but I know that's a lot easier said than felt in certain circumstances in life!!! but I personally love studying & learning about health and particularly brain health and 1 things for sure is depression shouldn't be something to cause Shame!!! would you tell someone to be ashamed for having diabetes, heart disease, or other disease??? No!!! if depression is a disease that has to do with the brain and brain chemistry than why in the world should anyone make them feel ashamed? really it makes no sense! And people need to get a clue and wake up!!! What you and others on here need is care, compassion love and kindness just as much & sometimes even more in some instances!! Anyway I'm ranting now maybe but I'm soo tired of these stigmas and ways of distorted thinking!! I hope the best for you!! Love yourself be hopeful and keep trying to reach for better☺️💞🌸🌻🌼

[ALTOV in reply to hurtingheart1]

I will definitely try. Thanks for your response. It was much needed positivity.

[Hunbun10]

I totally agree because it's like if you tell someone you are depressed they automatically assume you are suicidal when in reality you've just had a bad day and want to be heard.

[hurtingheart1 in reply to Hunbun10]

I just wanna say though to your comment- if some are suicidal though this is very serious& always being be taken very very seriously!!!😣😖if they are this way should be treated also with great care as there disease must be progressing to very unhealthy place!!!No joke!!!!

[Hunbun10 in reply to hurtingheart1]

Suicidal anything is a very serious and important topic; I'm sorry if I offended you or anyone if they took what I said as being negative in anyway towards suicide. My fiance just got out of a mental hospital recently for having suicidal thoughts brought on by some bad news he got about not graduating college along with him not taking his bipolar meds in a month. Alas, I was just trying to say that sometimes when I've told people in the past that I'm depressed they automatically assume I am on the very deep part of depression when in reality I just am having a bad day with my depression and need support. It may just be me this has happened to before idk.

[hurtingheart1 in reply to Hunbun10]

thank you for that!! appreciate you responding back!! Sorry about your fiancé!! yes just concerned and protective- but no not offended!!☺️🌻

[Hunbun10 in reply to hurtingheart1]

I love how you said protective. Makes me think there is a superhero ready to fight the bad thoughts 💗 and thank you. He realized really quickly that he has people to help support him and that next time something big and bad happens, to just call on one of us and we will help. Also, don't worry too much 😊 he will soon be able to take a test to allow him to get the 2 remaining credits he needs to officially graduate.

[hurtingheart1]

Also please please don't ever refer to yourself as "a wack job"!! That's a terrible label to refer to yourself or anyone- be kinder to yourself please!!!🌼

[ALTOV]

Thing is that I have multiple bad days.

[Hunbun10 in reply to ALTOV]

Depression is something that sneaks up without warning

In the dead of night.

When we are at our happiest

And full of good energy

It takes the little happiness we find

And steals it away from us

Like a person stealing away a dog's bone

But it doesn't mean we can't steal that happiness back.

Fight it.

Try to find one memory that makes you smile. For me it's the memory of my cat, Flash. Find the good and it will find you.

[hurtingheart1]

You are so welcome!!!! Please take care & have hope!!! I think many people really need more education on this health topic!!! it's really so important!!☺️

[MsGelfling1]

Would you be ashamed if you had a head cold? Depression is a medical problem. Billions of people suffer from it. Your a bigger person for admitting you have the problem and trying to take something to help. I hope it helps you so quickly and you feel better fast.

[ALTOV in reply to MsGelfling1]

Thanks a million