Need to vent

[CCRae13]

So this morning my son came into my bathroom while I was eating ready to ask if he could “take a sick day”. He said his stomach hurt and his head and he had the sniffles. At this point my ex came in the doorway as I told my son he would probably feel fine once he woke up and got moving and probably needs to go to school. Then my ex said he was thinking about staying home already because he was feeling nauseous. Literally backed into a corner and set up to be the bad guy again I said he could stay home. I’m sick of him making me the bad guy and undermining me and not backing me up. It’s ridiculous.

[TalulahGrammar1989]

Curare I’m almost 49 years old. I’m an decent looking woman with a good head on my shoulders, well now! Did you say ex? I’m a little confused. But, I still feel the need to say something. First of all I haven’t been on this in so long I had to reset my password. What you are saying is no JOKE! Ok, listen my sons are not children anymore obviously but I did what you did with my ex all the time do you want to know what it equals you losing all respect from your children you losing the ability to discipline your children and worse case scenario is what I received after 25+ years as a good wife to a man who was unfaithful undermining and narcissistic! I received a TEXT that said I was dismissed no longer needed and my job was done! He LEFT me after I ate shit with a fork and knife for over 25 years and took my sons with them! I sat down getting ready to write them as I do everyday (I never give up) ! He left me for a woman who was a toddler when we married she now lives in my house swims in my in ground pool and uses my pots and pans. I haven’t seen either of of my sons in 3 years! This is my life! I cry for an hour when I wake and I cry myself to sleep every night. Listen to me I don’t know you at all or where you live or what nationality you are because it doesn’t matter! What matters is get up, stand up tall and use your voice! Tell him I’m his fucking mother I carried him (if you did) I know what’s best spring vacation is coming up! You ARE GOING TO SCHOOL! Take him right now. Get him or have him get dressed. Take him late! PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN OR FOREVER HOLD YOUR PEACE! I tell you this with everything I am because that’s how mine started. Slowly and before I knew it! I was sitting 45 miles away from my sons crying! My ex is a powerful man in a very respectful position in the world he belongs in jail. He used to beat my ass! He is smart as hell and could sell an Eskimo ice cubes! He sold me shit to eat! I did! I was sitting to close to the TV and it was a blur! It’s not anymore it’s crystal clear! It’s not too late either I’m a fighter and I have faith in God! Unless you or your son can be in physical danger I pray you do this and hear me! If you love your son be strong he’s not your friend he’s your child! Be strong! I’ll pray for you! Girl you got more strength than you know! Believe me you do! You just don’t know it! If your ex is undermining his sons mother it’s disrespect and disgusting! RISE UP AND FUCKING ROAR! He’s your son!!!!! I wish you luck and my God and prayers are behind you honey! Be strong in everything that comes up it’s tough but I was led and compelled to write you! Idk why? Maybe I do! I follow my heart and my God! Go get what’s yours! SOMETIMES WE DONT GET ANOTHER CHANCE!

In an odd way Sincerely,

CG

[CCRae13 in reply to TalulahGrammar1989]

Yes my ex husband and my sons dad. I moved into his house 6 months ago bc we were friendly and it would help us both financially while I get back on my feet. But while financially I’m not as tight I haven’t been able to save or pay off very much and now all this with co parenting. I always shut down when we were together and would disagree and now I’ve fallen right back into the habit. I want to move but don’t have money saved and feel that he wouldn’t let me live rent free for two months so I could get the money. I haven’t talked to him yet because I feel like I already know how he’ll react. When I told him this morning bothered me and he didn’t back me up and made me the bad guy he just said “whatever. Next time I just won’t ask thought it was the right thing to do”

[TalulahGrammar1989 in reply to CCRae13]

That’s exactly what I’d do at this point nobody needs confrontation if not needed next time lay down the law!! Be strong! I’m sorry about the financial situation when I hit the lottery I’ll look you up! Lol

[CCRae13 in reply to TalulahGrammar1989]

Haha thanks I appreciate that.

[CCRae13 in reply to CCRae13]

He did just apologize for being a jerk when I asked if we could talk later so I guess that’s something. My mom made a good point that he didn’t have great parents and has a dysfunctional family and a lot of hard stuff growing up. Not hat it’s an excuse but that he didn’t have a good example and maybe doesn’t always know what’s best. Just something I didn’t consider.