This is a venting session. I may ramble on here and not make much sense. Ill express true feelings but everyone must know I won't hurt myself. I wouldn't do that to my kids. The thoughts are intense though. The anxiety is worse. I'm so overwhelmed and I feel like I can't take it anymore. I hate these feelings and I wish I could make it end. There's only one way to do that and that's not an option. It just sucks so bad.
My father in law has been deemed unable to care for himself with a dementia diagnosis by the state of Massachusetts. His wife is being charged with physical abuse against an incapacitated person. Alcoholism (and probably depression/anxiety) has taken control of her life and she is unable to care for him let alone herself, though she is not incapacitated by dementia. Their deplorable living conditions are causing them to be evicted. They don't have anywhere to go. This has been an issue for a long time. Father in law can't drive anymore. He's now legally blind. Instead he's been found wandering around town in shorts and a t shirt in the very cold trying to walk to places (like a doctors appointment.) He gets lost and the police pick him up. Even though he's not supposed to drive he's been found at the waterfront park sleeping in his car after arguments with his wife and she kicks him out.
So early in the morning (Thursday) yesterday my wife and I drive 16 hours from West Virginia to Massachusetts. He was removed from his home by the state and she's not allowed to provide care for him. He waited for us at the hospital. We withdrew $13,000 (half) from his bank account. We went to the doctor and got his medical records and my wife was appointed health care surrogate. We picked up some things from his apartment that were not covered in feces. We looked for his car (unsuccessfully) and went to the DMV who said he does not have any vehicles registered to his name. No idea where the car might be.
Now we are taking him back home to West Virginia with us and we feel AWFUL! His wife calls constantly but we don't let her talk to him but once a day because then he gets upset and we have to deal with the aftermath. We strongly suggested she goes to treatment and then if she wants to move to West Virginia near us we will help her find a place and she can visit but made it very clear that we now have control where he is living. This is her husband but she absolutely did the man wrong.
End of rant. Thank you. I feel better.