HOPLELESS

[DREAMYGIRL]

I AM NEW HERE AND I JOINED THIS COMMUNITY BECAUSE I DO NOT HAVE ANYONE WITH WHOM I COULD SHARE MY LIFE, MY THOUGHTS.NOW A DAYS I AM TOTALLY HOPELESS. I AM A INTROVERT PERSON, BUT MY PARENTS DOES NOT UNDERSTAND ME. WHENEVER I ATTEND ANY PARTY I DO NOT TALK TO ANYONE AND MY PARENTS THINKS THAT I DO NOT HAVE ANY MANNERS. TODAY I HAD A FIGHT WITH MY MOM BECAUSE, SOME SALES GIRL CAME TO MARKETING ABOUT PRODUCT AND MY MOM TOLD ME TO INDULGE IN CONVERSATION WITH THEM ,BECAUSE SHE THOUGHT I SHOULD BE SOCIETAL .BUT I DENIED AND SUDDENLY SHE WAS FUMING AND SAID BITTER THINGS. THOSE WORDS WERE BITTER BUT I THINK THOSE WERE TRUE. I AM REALLY UNLUCKY. HONESTLY , NOW I DO NOT HAVE ANY FAITH IN MYSELF AND HOPE.I AM THINKING ABOUT SUICIDE.

[JEG325]

DG, you are not hopeless! There is only one of you in all the universe! Think about that. Out of nearly 7 billion people on Earthm there's only 1 you! That's make you a rare, special commodity. You do not need to measure yourself by how other feel anyway. They are who they are and you are who you are. You cannot be them and they cannot be you. Once you realize that you can then concentrate on being the best person YOU can be. Stop focusing on the negative aspects and start focusing on what you can do to help yourself and others. You don't have to meet people in person to help them or be helped by them. You have a whole forum of people here who will help you. I am here for you anytime you want. All you have to do is PM me. If you don't know how to, I will be glad to explain it. I will also be glad to explain all the reasons this world, this community and even your family, still need you. But, you must learn to deal with yourself before you can deal with others. Okay?

[DREAMYGIRL in reply to JEG325]

THANKS, BUT U KNOW MY MOM CALLS ME UNLUCKY. AND I AM TRYING TO BE POSITIVE IN DIFFICULT SITUATION BUT SOMETIMES I CAN NOT.

[JEG325 in reply to DREAMYGIRL]

Have you ever heard the expression, 'we make our own luck'? Even your mom is not you and cannot be you. You cannot measure yourself by her words either. I bet you are a smart, caring person who would just like to get on with your life in some sort of a meaningful way. Perhaps talking to others would help you. I left you a message on your PM. Your chat light should be lit up. Tap it and it will show you my message. Click onto it and it will take you to the pm. Once you see my message you can respond by typing in the message box underneath the message. Click the blue send button to send the message. You can talk to anyone on here that way if you wish. Okay?

[DREAMYGIRL in reply to JEG325]

THANKS AGAIN

[hypercat54 in reply to DREAMYGIRL]

Hi nice to meet you and welcome to the site. You have a whole forum here to talk to so just talk away and we will all help and support you. x

[DREAMYGIRL in reply to hypercat54]

THANKS HYPERCAT54

[abbeyainscal in reply to DREAMYGIRL]

Try to tell your mom how that makes you feel. She may be trying a tough love approach because she thinks you’re feeling sorry for yourself but she’s not understanding the true nature of feeling anxious. Can you ask for help in a calm manner? Mom I’m having trouble dealing with my anxiety and it’s preventing me from being able to interact in a lot of situations can you help me? I wonder how she would respond.

[DREAMYGIRL in reply to abbeyainscal]

Well she doesn't understand me so it's not worth it.

[Runningfargal]

Welcome Dreamygirl, please, please talk to someone about what you are feeling and thinking. A friend, another trusted family member, counselor, pastor. Use us here too, but also finding that support close to you is important. Please know you are not alone, you are worthy and valued and you are not alone.❤️

[DREAMYGIRL in reply to Runningfargal]

Sure, thanks to you all. It's really strange people who r close to us , they never understand and support. And here is all stranger who are helpful. Really thanks

[Runningfargal]

It took me so long to open up to a couple of friends I trusted. They were close friends yet I was still terrified. I do not have a close relationship with my family, mother, even my husband. So it is friends I finally relied on. It is so scary opening up but also so helpful to know you have someone in your corner. Even if they don’t fully understand, hopefully you can find someone around you that you can trust and confide in. Don’t stuff all these feelings down. From someone who stuffed for over 30 years, it is so much more difficult to open up now than if I had looked for someone when I was young. But I too was an extreme introvert so I also understand how hard it can be. Hang in there.

[DREAMYGIRL in reply to Runningfargal]

Thanks for understanding me, but u know I am also a failure. I got rejection almost in 8 interviews. I know it's normal for people but for me I have lost my all hopes and faith in myself. Am I really unlucky and loser?

[Kat63]

I think it would really help you to see a therapist. Is that possible?

Do you have any family members other than your mother, or anybody else you could talk to?

[DREAMYGIRL in reply to Kat63]

No, no one.

[Runningfargal]

Could you go on your own to a therapist? Not sure how old you are, if that would be a possibility?

[AuntBee]

Some people mistake what they perceive as shyness for rudeness. It doesn’t occur to them that shyness could be be social anxiety. That’s because they don’t know what social anxiety is. They can’t recognize what they don’t know. I urge you to talk to your mom about being very “shy” (because people know what that means), then tell her you’d like help with it. I don’t know how old you are but if you could ask your mom to take you to see someone like a therapist, that would be helpful for you. Also the therapist could educate your mom on anxiety and how best to help you.

Im very sorry your mom was so harsh to you. Please don’t mistake her ignorance about anxiety as a sign she doesn’t love you. She just doesn’t understand right now so she’s frustrated.

Please don’t do anything to harm yourself. I hope you can feel the love from this forum family. You matter and we are here for you ❤️

[DREAMYGIRL in reply to AuntBee]

Thanks.

[Redfox9]

It's not bad to be an introvert, your mom need to understand this.parents can be hard at times. My parents too said same things, to be open, to talk to people. It depends on mood and the person you're talking to.

Try not to mind all things, try to ignore may be?

And why did you say that you're unlucky? Why aren't you having faith in yourself?

You're perfect of your kind, you're great, you are courageous enough to come up with your problems here. You're confident enough to accept facts about you. Don't think yourself as lesser then anyone. DON'T EVER THINK ABOUT SUICIDE.

Always Here for you..

[DREAMYGIRL]

Thanks, I'll avoid this thought of suicide. And I'll be strong to face more challenges.

[Walkathon in reply to DREAMYGIRL]

I hope you are feeling better today ❤️

[DREAMYGIRL in reply to Walkathon]

Yes I am , thanks

[Walkathon in reply to DREAMYGIRL]

That’s good to hear 🌷