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Feeling pretty hopeless and down

Redheaded-girl
Redheaded-girl

Good Morning. So, I have been dealing with a lot of anxiety and depression lately. I have always had it, but it has been happening more so recently. I found out about a week ago, that my high school sweetheart, is now engaged to a girl, that he basically left me for. I wasn’t aware of it then, but he definitely used emotional and mental abuse towards me. I have got back into seeing a therapist and I take antidepressants, and actually just got my medicine switched. I have a lot of good things in my life, but I can’t even focus on anything like that, because of how emotionally scarred I really am and trying to deal with myself. Does anyone have stuff they do when they are feeling really down? Maybe any suggestions on stuff they do to help their mental game?

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Lol laughs on him, over 50% of marriages end in divorce, ugly divorce. You can look at it that way or you can wish them the best. Good karma, good vibes, positive vs negative, up to you. Negative usually fills you up with yuk, positive will fill you with hope, happy, uplifting, smiles. Life is too short for yuk.

Redheaded-girl
Redheaded-girl in reply to Hidden

He actually comes from a divorced family. I’m talking not just his parents, but all of his dads side. I try my hardest to be filled with the positive, but it isn’t easy. We started dating when he was 13 & I was 15. So, it was over 8 years and he hooked up with this girl, not even two weeks after he broke up with me. He also hid being her friends with her behind my back, for about three years when we were dating. I was a very immature and insecure girl, so I did have problems with him having friends that were girls and sometimes I struggle with a lot of guilt and regret. I only met this therapist for the first time on Friday, but she told me that none of this was me. It is his character and this is on him. It just sucks when you take care of someone, try your hardest to be the best you can be, and get crushed.

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Hidden in reply to Redheaded-girl

Your therapist is right, it's on him. He is bringing his own karma, her too. You just need to keep being a good, sweet person. Don't let this make you, break you. You are young, figure out your likes and dislikes. That means, get out there and do stuff, in your wheelhouse, out of your wheelhouse. When, you have a pretty good understanding of you. You will be ready to settle down and take your chance on love and if marriage is what you are hopeful for. You will be ready for a mate, you both having things in common with :)

Redheaded-girl
Redheaded-girl in reply to Hidden

I actually am in a new relationship, which is another reason I got into therapy. My ex and I, have been broken up for two years, but it still feels like yesterday. When I’m having my really good days, with my new boyfriend, I am happy. We laugh, joke and are the same person. But lately, sometimes I feel like I can’t trust things because this anxiety/depression is such a demon, that it wants me to think the worst.

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Hidden in reply to Redheaded-girl

Relationships are work, fun and boring at times. They say in every relationship, you have the newlywed stage, first 2 years. Those are the getting to know one another years. After that, it's realizing reality. Life is life, we live this life once. Focus on the positives!

Casewest20
Casewest20 in reply to Hidden

Hi! I just wanted to say that I really respect the posts of yours I’ve seen so far. It seems like you really understand many of us and definitely seems like you care. So yeah, you are appreciated😊

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:)

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Music...put those upbeat tunes on and jam away..so good for the spirit..at least for me, why not give it a try? I wish you a beautiful day! Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy and hugs for you!

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Oh my goodness...I see you just joined..welcome to the site..if I can help you in anyway just let me know...I'm here for you! Make it shine today! Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy & hugs for you!!!

Redheaded-girl
Redheaded-girl in reply to Hidden

Hello! I did just join, I have always been interested in finding a support group but I never really knew where to look or what would be better. There are times I feel like I am dealing with PTSD and obviously anxiety disorder and depression and it is definitely a demon. The last week I have been feeling like maybe my boyfriend doesn’t love me or he doesn’t care about me or that he doesn’t want to be with me even though he tells me that he loves me and he told me that we can face problems together as they come, It is just hard because my mind is in such a bad place that it’s telling me everything in my life is a lie and that I am just more of a burden than anything else

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Hidden in reply to Redheaded-girl

Okay do you have reason not to believe him? If not not then feed all the positive into your mind that HE tells you...it will breed more positive for you..the what if's aren't here yet...why waste your time on them? Don't..live in the NOW! I wish you all the best. May you have a beautiful day! Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy & hugs for you!

Not really. I mean, I ask him if he loves me and he says yes and he responds very positively. I guess I just get scared that he thinks I am so screwed up, that why would he want to deal with someone like me.

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Hidden in reply to Redheaded-girl

See you're looking at the negative...please don't...focus on he says i love you...we have a tendency to be so hard on ourselves..it's so not worth it...dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy and hugs for you!

Redheaded-girl
Redheaded-girl in reply to Hidden

You're right, it is extremely easy to be hard on myself, but yet so hard to be kind with myself. I take a lot of the negative words that were said to me and I make that into the only thing I see or hear. My best friend, of 19 years, is even currently my ex-best friend because she started hanging out with my ex and this new girl behind my back. She is actually the one who posted it and that's how my other friend saw it. I feel like there is so much wrong with me, because it wasn't just one person that I loved who broke me, it was the two who meant the most....

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Ya know people come into our lives for a time and reason...at least you are able to say...YOU were kind..take that with you and focus on that..see turn the negative into a positive....I wish for you peace of mind. I'm here for you. Be kind to yourself...wrap your arms around yourself..now squeeze hard..that's me giving you a hug!!! Love, peace, light, joy & hugs!!!

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