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I feel so dumb for thinking I could do this cruise. I struggled so much in Nashville. I worked hard on myself but maybe this is too big of a jump. I did go to Miami with my boyfriend’s family for a long weekend. I was nervous and had a blast. But I have such of fear of throwing up that this cruise is really just making me so incredibly anxious. This morning I got up around 9:30am. I slept a lot last night as I was exhausted from my anxiety. I then did some work with a colleague for about 3 hours. Then I went to the store to get stuff for my trip. I leave Sunday (three days). I put laundry in just now. I need to clean my apartment and pack but the thought of that makes me so anxious. I also really just want to lay in bed and rest. I took an extra anxiety pill that I have prescribed. I was going to slow myself to lay in bed for no more than an hour and a half, and then work on cleaning or packing.

I want to go on this cruise and enjoy it. But I’m terrified. I feel stupid and hopeless.

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gajh

Well if you do want to go on the cruise and you do choose to go, you know you can connect here for support whenever you need to. You won't be all alone.

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Daisy425 in reply to gajh

I did decide I am going to splurge and pay for the wifi

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gajh in reply to Daisy425

Excellent!

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b1b1b1

See if you can get anti nausea pills. they may be available in CVS, otherwise call your MD. If you feel like you have to throw up, excuse yourself and go to the ladies room. If it lasts longer explain to everyone that you are suffering from seasickness and go to your cabin. This is a perfectly normal thing to have happen.

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Daisy425 in reply to b1b1b1

Have you been on a cruise?

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b1b1b1

No, I never have. I am also afraid, but for a different reason. I have a problem with Irritable Bowel Syndrome . I am afraid that different food will cause it to get worse and I will basically not be able to leave the cabin for fear of having an accident. I hope you are able to go and that you do enjoy it. x

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bethelbee

I've been on 2 cruises and most of the time you don't even feel the ship moving. The nice thing about cruises is you can do as much or as little as you want. What's your itinerary?? Both cruises I went on left from San Juan and sailed throughout the Caribbean. And as gajh stated you can always connect on here if needed.

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Daisy425 in reply to bethelbee

We leave from NYC Sunday at 6pm. Then. We are at sea Monday and Tuesday. We dock in Bermuda Wednesday and are there Wednesday Thursday Friday. We leave Friday at 3 and are at sea Friday night and Saturday. We dock back in NYC on Sunday morning at 7am.

I’m very nervous about rough seas and norovirus. I have a fear of throwing up

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bethelbee in reply to Daisy425

I've always wanted to go to Bermuda! Take Bonine(it's over the counter)with you to help with any possible seasickness. You can take it ahead of time. It's like Dramamine but doesn't make you drowsy. Hope you have a great time!

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Grammieoftwo

I to suffer from anxiety and fear of vomiting. I have been on many cruises. The advice about OTC Bonnie is good. I personally use sea sick patches prescribed by MD and also have Zofran an anti nausea medication by MD. Just having these available with my anxiety meds lets me relax and enjoy cruise. Have a wonderful trip.

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Daisy425 in reply to Grammieoftwo

Thank you so much for this response. I do have zofran but have never used it. Does it work? Also do you feel the ship moving? I’m so scared we will be in really rough waters

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Daisy425 in reply to Grammieoftwo

Have you ever gotten sick on a cruise?

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Grammieoftwo

Ships today have stabilizers and rock less. The Zofran works great. Just try and use it when you first feel nauseous. It will help ward off feeling really sick. Everyone is different and you may not need anything. For me just knowing I have remedies helps and I don’t need them. Also I forgot to mention that green apples and ginger usually available on board help. These are all tactics I have used.

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Daisy425 in reply to Grammieoftwo

I’m just scared about getting sick

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Grammieoftwo

Yes the fear of getting sick is worse than actually getting sick. I wish I knew the magic secret to tell you how to stop fear and anxiety. It is mainly trial and error. Many coping mechanisms you use on land work at sea. I hope you have a great vacation.

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Daisy425 in reply to Grammieoftwo

I’m thinking of backing out and not going

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Grammieoftwo

Backing out of the trip is totally your decision. For me personally I found that the more I avoided situations the worse I became with my anxiety and fear of being ill. Not just on cruises but all activities. It was an extremely long way back. If you don’t want to go on cruise it’s not a must, but if you’re avoiding it because of your fear you may want to rethink not going. What does your traveling partner think and do they know of your fear? I have gotten sick on a cruise but survived. We have now been on 15+ cruises. Our last one a couple of weeks ago. I began to feel ill early one morning. I took an anxiety pill then Zofran. I got myself ready to leave cabin and take a walk. Once outside the cabin I found many others saying it was rocky today. We were in the Pacific Ocean on the way to Alaska from Seattle. So it wasn’t just me and I allowed meds to do there work and went on to have a great trip. I’m sharing my experiences so you are able to make best decision for yourself. Cruising may not be for you or you may end up loving it.

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Daisy425 in reply to Grammieoftwo

Thank you so much for sharing I appreciate it! I take Zoloft and online it says I can’t take Zofran with that. Did you actually get sick (throw up) or did you just feel ill?

I went on a cruise about ten years ago when I was in high school and I remember being nervous and feeling the boat move a little bit I was fine.

Have you ever cruised to Bermuda?

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Grammieoftwo

Sorry for late response. Grandbabies 2nd birthday. I just felt ill. We have gone to Bermuda but from Fort Lauderdale. Good catch on Zofran interaction. I would not recommend using it without MD approval . My MD had approved use with my antidepressant . Their concern is both have serotonin . Not sure if OTC Bonnie has the same interaction. It works well also.

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Daisy425 in reply to Grammieoftwo

Thank you! Happy 2nd birthday to your grand baby! I’m terrified of getting sick from the food. I want to go on this cruise but I’m so anxious

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