Alone

[Carmen810]

I have read posts on here where people have felt alone. I totally relate. I have kids and married but with stress if life, work and raising kids in sports I fell disconnected with anyone. No family or close friends that I stay in contact with. Have nothing I do for fun. I tend to work. Care for home. Take care of kids and that is all. I take out frustrations on my family and I yell sonetimes. I see the pain in my kids and I can’t go on doing it. I do have depression and ADD. Treated for both. Not sure how to get out of this slump.

[Hidden]

That's my life to a T. Feel better soon.

How about exercise at a gym alone?

[Carmen810 in reply to Hidden]

Yes I have a treadmill that I do. Also suffer from stress eating and have gained weight. Trying to do diet and exercise. Thank you for your response 😊

[gfranklin12]

Hi... I totally understand your situation!!! Reaching out to others is so important... it took me 9 years to ask for help outside my marriage, doctors, and friends!!! I learned that I am not along, and neither are you!!! Our families loves and understands when we are having one of those "moments" and it not them, but our disabilities that triggered our negative behavior. You, me, and everyone who are going through this is not out of control or crazy but... very normal!!! Reach out anytime, and we will be there for you...

God Bless You!!!

[Carmen810 in reply to gfranklin12]

Thank you so much. Your kind response means so much. It seems crazy how you get on a blog such as this for encouragement but yes we all are in this crazy soup bowl of life together. In the end all the same no matter our gender age walk of life ethnicity etc. We all have struggles and we all have our own story. God Bless you in what you are going through as well. I did see some of your posts. Pray for piece of mind for you. Chat any time

[Hidden in reply to Carmen810]

Hi Carmen you know the cause of your feeling of loneliness but you don't realise you have put yourself at the bottom of the list. Your health both physical and mental is important to not only you but your family. I know how easy it is to gain weight when you are preparing food, and eat the wrong sort of foods as a type of comfort eating.

When you eat those satisfying foods, your appetite is satisfied, but it can increase your sugar levels and fats. Another thing is that some antidepressant drugs can make you gain weight. They make you feel hungry. May be a diet group professionally run might help. My daughter went on her own, and lost a good half a stone last year. She has a demanding family, and over the winter found it hard to stick to a diet. If there are any

classes you would like to do the Workers Education Association run courses. Local colleges may do practical relaxing skills such as cake icing - but other subjects such as learning a language might be fun. It may take courage to find yourself. Trying something like a ramblers club, book club might help.

Your family love you to bits - so take care of yourself - enjoy having your hair done, and buying new clothes. When your family see you taking an interest in yourself, then they may feel you are more optimistic. If you feel too depressed and anxious to go out, may be the medication has not helped and might need changing. I do hope you feel better soon.

[Ann10]

I agree that self-care is important. What did you like to do as a kid? Maybe you could add a few minutes of your favorite activity into your routine.