I married the wrong person

[dee_bells]

I’ve been married 30 years this year. I can’t see my grandson, my eye hurts for some reason and my husband takes our grandson to lunch and see some trains. Lunatic grandma is never invited along. Finally I told my husband I married the wrong person. Not sure what to do because I’m disabled, depressed, anxious etc.

[masa2333]

I’m so sorry because of your situation. Do you have other family members you can trust to help with your problem? And to help you with seeing your grandson more often! Your child? Have you talked to him/her?

[dee_bells in reply to masa2333]

No I don’t have anyone else. Once I was strong and that’s all they see. I’m a pretender.

[dee_bells]

My daughter, the mother of my 5 year old grandson told my husband something that she worries about my grandson being with me. So they’re in agreement against me. It’s hurtful.

[masa2333 in reply to dee_bells]

I’m so sorry about that. It’s not fair and you deserve to spend time with your grandson. You also deserve better understanding husband who will allow you to see grandkinds. I hope you will find solution.

[dee_bells]

I’ve had it with them.

[dee_bells]

I’m in a panic ——

[Lazy_dog_lover]

Ok, wait, need more info. What does your eye hurt from? What makes you think they think you are lunatic grandma? Why don't you plan your own excursions with grandson? My grandparents divorced after 40 years, many of which were unhappy.

[dee_bells in reply to Lazy_dog_lover]

I have a stye on my lower lid. Because I’m depressed and I speak my mind so my husband has hinted that I’ve upset our daughter. I guess I have no feelings. My daughter won’t allow me to be alone with our grandson. I called them yesterday and my five yr old grandson said “I love you Grammy!” He’s so sweet. I’m disabled with a bad back too so I’m not sure where I’d go. My room is my sanctuary. 😟🌸🌸

[rtscd8]

One of those issues by itself would be stressful, so I'm so sorry that you're dealing with all of it. Have you considered looking at just one of these scenarios and starting with that? Perhaps your health? I wouldn't be surprised if physical pain makes emotional pain that much more noticeable.