Why do adult children, think they know everything ? However, they leave a parent all alone ?

[seamonkee114]

I was raised, to be polite, curteous, and with respect for elders. The past three years, I have solely taken care of my father with dementia. I have several sisters and brothers (ex). My dad was hospitalized numerous times. My father physically moved three times. The only time, I saw family members, was in court. They refused to see my father. They where there to take his money, even though my dad was only one working. My mom is old not well. I have talked with her. So sad...to throw 72 years worth of marriage away for one of your kids attention. I think this is a very sad dilema. Everyone eventually will pass.

[kenster1]

sorry to hear that.i am in a very similar situation as you caring for my aunt with dementia.its absolute shocking the level of lies been said about me my sister and niece.absolute shocking and its came from other aunts and uncles.

[Rick1on1]

It's sad to hear stories like these. It shows the greed and disdain our society has fallen into.

All the strength to you - you will be rewarded!

[kenster1]

yeah my family are contesting guardianship of my aunt and want her in a care home even although the same family granted guardianship for another aunt to my sister.my aunt is wealthy so my aunts uncles have been manipulated by social services thinking my sister is only after money.my niece lives with her and the council are trying to evict her and force my aunt into a care home.its all rather messy.

[seamonkee114 in reply to kenster1]

Thank you for responding .

I am amazed goverment does not do more for elders. This refers to medical insurance, laws to protect elders ect. I have people saying nasty things about me and dad, yet they are cashing in certificates of deposits, in my dads name, for a new auto for themselves. OMG. What evil people !

[kenster1 in reply to seamonkee114]

council tried getting my niece in today to serve her with an eviction notice and section my aunt.they said they don't believe she lives at the property and cares for my aunt.i gave up 5 grand in wages to help out for free when my niece was at college.if this is what kills me then at least I done it for my family.my niece moved in 18 month ago signed a document 1 year ago today but it mysteriously went missing meaning they only have her down living at the house since april.

[Txaps]

I work for adult protective services and I see this ALL the time. The adult children aren't involved but they come around when they think that the parent is going to die. Then they start making all these demands and wanting to be included in all the decision making when they never lift a finger to even check and call on their parent. I have had children who have told me that they just want the state to take guardianship of their parent, even though they are more than capable to do it. A lot of these children just don't want to be bothered these days.

[kenster1 in reply to Txaps]

well how are we on the opposite of what you said.we are desperate for my aunt to stay at my late dads.my aunts uncles do nothing we have been lied about by social workers and mental health workers taking statements from my uncles both with dementia but that's been left out of the report.

[Txaps in reply to kenster1]

I am talking about what I personally see from day to day on my job. No case or situation is the same. I am speaking on what I commonly see on my job.

[hard2say]

I have been in a similar situation, coming from a family of 7 kids - taking care of my elderly mother with dementia. It is very hard. She passed away 3 years ago. All I can tell you is to do what makes your heart and soul at ease when you sleep at night. Do not allow negative vibes from others change what you are doing or how you have been caring for your dad. In the end..it will be you who will feel peace when he is gone. Some of the others...not all....will have many sleepless nights knowing that they really didn't assist the man who was their life line.

I miss my mother immensely but find comfort in knowing that I could care for her in her later years in life - as she did for me in my early years. God bless you.

[pam4him]

It is sad and I'm sorry for what you are dealing with. Family should come together at difficult times, but some like to avoid stressful situations, or perhaps see what they can get out of it. Kudos to you for all you are doing for your parents. Hang in there, and just keep doing the best you can. Prayers for peace and wisdom.