Empty mind

[OtterChaaos]

Hello, I been struggling a lot with having a 'blank' mind. I always have nothing to say to people and I over think and stutter. It is really exhausting. I had this for years which made making friends impossible in the end. And than there is this long silence and my mind racing trying to come up with something to say but when I fish out a random topic it makes me sound stupid, awkward, and feels I am 'having' to say this or feels forced. I am unsure how to be myself. I don't do much and feel like a boring person.

[Byelka]

I feel like this a lot too. I’m willing to bet other people don’t find you boring or as awkward as you think you are. Do you have social anxiety? It sounds like that’s the case. Do you have any old friends who could help ease the tension with new people/groups.

[OtterChaaos in reply to Byelka]

I don't have any friends. I had social anxiety since elementary and it has just been me and my sisters and nobody else got into our circle. But I been feeling lonely, wanted friends, just difficult to talk to them. Other than family I have 0 friends irl. And I'm afraid of people and going out. I been trying to talk to people online but it is still very hard to know what to say.

[OtterChaaos in reply to OtterChaaos]

Every time I feel awkward I tell them I have a mental disability. And make it more awkward, lol.

[jesca18 in reply to OtterChaaos]

You’re fortunate to have sisters that are friends. I too suffer from social anxiety and I always imagine I would feel less alone if I had siblings

[OtterChaaos in reply to jesca18]

Yes...I'm glad I have my sisters or I'd be nothing. They been with me more than anyone else could.

[whirlybird5]

I know how this feels ☹️ lots of times I'll try to come up with things to say and end up sounding very timid and unsure or come across as uninterested when really I just have no clue how to speak! You're not alone, social anxiety sucks

[OtterChaaos in reply to whirlybird5]

It do..sorry.

[AntiSocialSocialClub]

I've had social anxiety for a pretty long time now. The awkwardness and the embarrassment used to be unbearable but now it has less strength due to exposure. The more and more you put yourself in those situations the more those feelings will dull. Let yourself feel the awkwardness, the anxiety, the embarrassment, and know it's OK to feel this way. Ask yourself what You would say not what is the right thing to say. There is no right thing to say. But above all try to be kind to yourself. "Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." - Oscar Wilde

[OtterChaaos in reply to AntiSocialSocialClub]

Ok.. Thankd. I tttry. I'm feeling in shit mood this morning sorry guys, thank you gfor your all replies I appreciate them.

[maggief9812 in reply to OtterChaaos]

It’s ok to be in a shit mood sometimes. I’m in one myself.😜👍🏻 (persistent need to joke to mask discomfort is a coping mechanism of mine- yay!)

The shit mood will pass. The shut mood will pass.. The shit mood will pass...

Take care of and be kind to yourself in the meantime.

When you feel strong enough, tell your doctor about your anxiety. Even if you can’t bring yourself to really dig into it with them. Just saying “I think I have social anxiety” is enough. A good practitioner can work with that as a starting point to getting you better help.

[baileyf14]

I am sorry you are dealing with this. Being comfortable with yourself is sometimes very difficult. Just remember, there is only one you in the world and that is amazing! Being yourself will be so rewarding to you and the others around you because you are great! I hope everything gets better.