I joined this community today after having a day suffering anxiety and finding no one to talk to. I am 27 year old, and still I feel tired whole day without even doing much. I have recently understand, I have social anxiety. I am finding it so difficult to talk with anyone even on phone. I am searching for a job, and finding it really hard to communicate. I fear, what if I fail, what if I say something stupid, what if I fail to do that job correctly? All this overthinking keep hovering in my mind. I was diagnosed with OCD few years back. Though its still with me but not that severe. But right now I am really finding it hard to socially interact with people, especially with strangers. All this anxiety is eventually making me depressed. I can feel my heart beating so fast today. Is there anyone who also feels the same? How you guys tackle with such situations? Please help me too.
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Thank you for the welcome. In such a short time, I have found here people who is understanding my situation so well. Hope we all can help each other to go through it. Share some of the advices with me too. 😊
Yeah I've been struggling with extreme social anxiety since I was 12 I think. It really is bad, I can't be in a group of people without panicking or talking to one person and try to hold a conversation more the 5 seconds. My anxiety always destroying me from within, the overthinking, thinking if I had a conversation with some one I over analyze it after words hoping I didn't say something stupid or I looked stupid, I'm thinking everybody hates me or thinks I'm odd. I seem unapproachable but that's just my anxiety making me very nervous , so I end up looking really nervous or have serious face on my face. So yeah overthink and panic real bad. I'm trying to improve but it's very little by little. It's really tough. So I understand.
Thank you so much for sharing your feelings with me. Sometimes it feels quiet a relief finding someone understands your pain so well. Thanks for your encouraging words. Wishing you lots of good health 😊
You have just taken the first step towards healing by joining a community that understands and cares because we've been there. It's difficult for people who have never struggled with Anxiety to know what it's really like and how it impacts your life. Yes, it can become very tiring to struggle with these issues everyday.
The first thing we need to do is get rid of the "what if's". The "what it's" kept me trapped for many years. Why was I different than others?? I wasn't. I had learned to train myself to be doubtful of what I was truly capable of. The more I focused on what I couldn't do, the more I would not do it.
-You are at a beautiful age of mental growth now. Experiencing life and learning through it. Many of us here including myself went through these stages of uncertainly at that age. There was a time that I wanted to hide behind everyone socially just like you. As I worked on myself, I gain confidence and self esteem as to who I was. The more I pushed forward with the idea I had nothing to prove to anyone but myself, the more I grew emotionally.
One step at a time and you will get there as well. It's time to blossom into who you were meant to be and that is a "shining star".... We've Got You xx
Welcome to HU and glad that you have chosen to step out, reaching for help! This is a huge step forward. You just got over one of the biggest hurdles!
One of the best things that I have found that helps me is praying! "I can do all things through Him who gives me strength." Philippians 4:13.
Do not be anxious for nothing but by prayer and petition with thanksgiving present your requests to God. 7. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and mind in Christ Jesus.
Yes and the past few years made everything so much worse. You can find a job if you look for one in different ways, out walking, on line, head hunter, and through net working w friends. My son got hired a while back and he admitted to not liking people, it was a night job minding an office with expensive equipment and he would be by himself. They hired him.
I can understand what you feel like. As surprising as it can be, my anxiety is most of the time about things that are not that important of things I can solve by myself. For example, I will be afraid to go somewhere new for a week-end but not to leave for a full month.
My solution - not sure it is the good one for everyone - is to make lists and lists again of what has to be done and check each thing once it was done. I do not feel well before each list is fully checked.
I am sure we are lots here and many will shard their "tips" to fight this anxiety !
Hi and welcome, In this community you will feel safe and unjudged I were in your shoes and I found CBT help me a lot it's tricky I'm still suffering from my anxiety but I always said to my self " I went through a lot I can overcome this "
My Allah help you in your journey of healing best of luck 🙏🏼
I suffer w bipolar depression and I can relate w all your saying, been long 60 yrs suffering w severe anxiety n social phobias,it's a very long rough road but getting good Dr may help.tjst choice is yours,it's a individual choice,as I'm no Dr or pretend to be..this is a great group n has been God send to me to read and share....stay in touch......
Hi job searching alone can be stressful! It kicks up a lot of self doubt for me which in turn anxiety. I try to reduce feeling that way by walking a good pace. I will drive to a track a good size area. While I walk I tell myself that " walking reduces stress and anxiety" because it does and it's proven. I don't wear head phones! I listen to my mantra😊
Hi. The best way to get over anxiety is to face your fears head on. If you're afriad of talking on the phone, you must talk on the phone. If it's money you don't want to talk about, talk about money. If it's money problems you don't want to talk about, talk about money problems. The difference needs to come from you!!!
Try writing your biggest fears down on a sheet of paper. Write the fear down over and over until you look at it and think, this is no longer a threat to me. Re-read the fear on the page. If a new fear springs up, write that down again and again too.
Whatever it takes. Send me a private message if you need guidance. I got over my anxiety and I know you can do the same!
Thank You for you advise. It really sounds helpful and as you have tried this yourself, it must be working too. I will try it and connect to you if I need more help. 😊
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