Depressed Beyond Belief

Nothing seems to go right for me no matter how hard I try. I don’t expect much, so I really don’t understand why things don’t work out. I treat others with kindness and respect, but I don’t get the same in return. In fact, I recently have been made the butt of a horribly mean embarrassing “joke”. I really hate my life. I actually seem to hate every minute of my life. I can barely breathe sometimes. I see nothing but hopelessness and despair.

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That’s terrible you were the butt if a mean joke! People can be so cruel. This is a great community, stay with us

[Sillysausage234]

Is there anything you enjoy doing?

[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

I used to enjoy a lot of things. I do not anymore. All I want now is off this stupid planet.

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

Yeah I know what you mean,are you able to go for walks

[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

Everyone around here picks on me for going for walks. I have had everything imaginable said about me around here. If I could move I would. These people around here are very mean. I am 45 years old but feel like I am back in high school with the neighbors I have.

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

I’m sorry to hear that some people can be so heartless,are you in the us or uk

[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

US

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

Do you have any pets?

[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

Pets are not allowed where I live. A pet is not a replacement for a human. I have been alone for YEARS. The JOKE my neighbors pulled on me had a lot to do with that.

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

Society can be so cruel sometimes and neighbors should help each other in the ideal world

[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

I know. I am so done. I just really want off this planet.

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

Do you watch tv

[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

I am at a point where I cannot focus on tv much. I am sorry. I cannot stop crying today.

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

It’s ok ,I just put comedy stuff on and it reminds me not to take things seriously all the time it helps me cope with depression

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

Do you think you need to speak to professional people there are some nice people on here to talk to all you have to do is answer them,

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Talk to your GP it is important you get some help and encouragement.

Personally I feel some people can pick up on a person who is sensitised to others needs and they take these people as weak and soft. This can lead down to cases of bullying.

The problem is this can lead to the sensitive becoming withdrawn from those around them and in turn people can turn away. Have you sought advice.

BOB

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What do you think about telling us their jokes and we can help point out all of the lies in it? I had a good friend that I adored whose sister in law would say the most hurtful things. My friend would call and tell me, but all I could do was laugh at how ludicrous the hurtful things were. They were SO not true about my friend that I found it hilariously funny. I think it helped her put the words back into perspective and she could then disregard them. She kept calling me and I kept laughing. I think it was therapeutic.

Let me tell you that the people here are kind, so unlike other forums I've been on. We take encouraging each other very seriously and the "stinkers" get called out and end up leaving.

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I know the lies in it. It is very juvenile, but it still hurt just the same. Here is a synopsis: After I was attacked by a student (I had been a special education teacher) I gained A LOT of weight. Being embarrassed by this, I sort of kept to myself. This summer I was talked into socializing with my neighbors. In doing this I began losing that weight. But I also began noticing that, between working, going to college and raising my sons, I had put my dating life on hold. Well, a friend told me that this guy was interested in me. They all played along. I started to believe it. After all, he did a lot of flirting, especially as the pounds came off. I feel real dumb for believing it. Anyway, to make matters worse the guy got one of his friends to completely humiliate me in front of other people. This would not have been so bad if I had not been alone for 15 years. It would not have been so bad if this kind of stuff had not happened to me in the past. I guess it would not be so bad if I was not 45 years old, feeling as if I was 15. It would not be so bad, if I had not finally started coming out of my shell just to get slammed like that. I guess it would not have been so bad if, when I had an epileptic seizure outside I would not have been left out in the rain on the ground. It would not have been so bad if they would not have revealed it was all a joke the way they did. I felt horrible. I know it sounds juvenile but it hit me very hard.

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You're right about it being juvenile. Something similar about a boy pretending to like me, and sitting with me on the bus, but it was really a dare, happened when I was in 6th grade. I was just going to write, "What a bunch of crazy mean neighbors you have." But that just perpetuates the negative, doesn't it?!

It can't be true that ALL of your neighbors are mean. There may even be a few that already have more empathy for you because of what happened. Another positive was that being more social helped you lose some of the weight you gained after you were hurt.

I can't think of more right now, but I think this is how we are supposed to reframe our negative thoughts, right, everyone? I'm sorry that you have experienced such real hurt.

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Well, my apartment complex is very small. When I say “all my neighbors” I mean the ones I know. Actually losing the weight does me no good when I stay depressed and now know that the people I trusted, didn’t actually like me at all. They even left me in the rain after I had an epileptic seizure. I woke up in a mud puddle. My life doesn’t feel real at all.

[Doktor]

I learned the hard way that the way out of depression is being KIND TO YOURSELF. If you don't love yourself, how do you expect others to love you? And when you love yourself, you will start to see that there are many good people out there. How to be kind? Forgive, be grateful and merciful (to yourself first, then parents, then others).

But I still have problems with sleep.

[Hidden in reply to Doktor]

First, a sense of belonging falls under esteem needs in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Need. This step is before Self-Actualization. Second, I did the entire “love myself” thing, You must have missed the post where I talked about being alone for 15 years and realizing how alone I really was. You must have missed my post about being used and abused by others. Third, since you don’t know the horrors I have seen, this piece of pop-psychology advice is very dangerous.

[Zekette]

I try to always remind myself that when others hurt me and lie to me it's because they have something in them that is not well. It's easier said than done and I often still want to get revenge, but then I usually feel bad for hurting someone, just because they are not good people, we are. Kill them with kindness right. I'm sorry things are so hard for you right now, and I honestly hope they get better. And remember Karma's a b#***#! And she always comes around. Stay strong, stand tall, smile always.