Anxiety about the future and psychic addiction. What should I do?

[sirensong22]

How do I deal with anxiety related to the future? To be honest, I am so scared of the future. I keep asking myself, is being a doctor the right path for me? or Will I ever find love or someone that cares for me? or Will my family ever allow me to find my own place so that I can spread my wings and finally fly? Yes, I have gone through a heartbreak recently and I struggle with different career paths because I am scared of the impossible. My parents are also not allowing me to move out of the house because they are afraid of losing me apparently.

All this anxiety and concerns for the future has caused me to turn to psychics and therapy but I still feel very empty with all the stress. I probably spent a few thousand dollars on psychics to find answers and therapy to help me in the long run. I am trying to quit seeing psychics but it's almost an addiction. I know it sounds silly but I really have anxiety about the future overall. Please give me some words of wisdom. Thank you.

[rach1402]

I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time at the moment. Sorry to pry but do you mind if I ask how old you are? It might be a bit easier for me and anyone else who wants to give you relevant advice if we know a bit more about your situation x

[sirensong22 in reply to rach1402]

Yes sorry, I’m currently 22. Thank you

[rach1402 in reply to sirensong22]

I'm British so I'm not too sure how the education system works in America but I'm guessing that at 22 you're a good few years into medical school. From what you've said, my advice to you would be that you need to find your own way in life but that's going to be difficult if your parents are controlling you. When you say they won't let you move out, do you mean they're threatening to disown you or just laying a guilt trip on you to make you stay? Do you depend on them financially to help you through college? They need to understand that by making you feel trapped they'll either lose you because they'll force you to break free or at the very least it's not good for your growth as a person to be treated like a child when you're a grown woman. If you're going to be a doctor, that's a huge responsibility, you need to learn to take care of yourself if you're going to be taking care of patients. How will you get a chance to build your confidence if you're never in a situation where you have to organise your own life and home? If at all possible, I would recommend making that your priority, independence.

Was it your idea to become a doctor or did your parents push you into it? It's a vocation, not the kind of profession you can do with half a heart and if you're having doubts about it, it's better to find out sooner rather than later. Is there someone you can get careers advice from? If it's just self doubt talking and medicine is what you want to do then don't give in to those negative thoughts creeping in but it has to be what you want, nobody else.

Personally, I don't think going to a psychic is any different than going to a minister in a place of worship. It's one of those things that can't be proven either way, you either believe it or you don't, so I wouldn't let something like being in the minority bother you. The financial impact and the obsession/addiction is more of a concern I would say. What does your therapist think about that?

Obviously I only know what I've read in your post so I don't know any other relevant factors, but from what you've said I would suggest moving to your own place. If your parents were asking me for advice I would tell them to ask you for your therapist's phone number because they need to learn to let go, it sounds like they've got control issues. I'm sorry for the long reply, I was trying to cover all bases. I hope you find some of it useful x

[sirensong22 in reply to rach1402]

Thank you for your reply! It was actually my choice to become a doctor and yes I totally agree with you. Your words has helped me a lot.

[rach1402 in reply to sirensong22]

If it came from you then you should do it. It's your life and you should trust your instincts and be a doctor. I wouldn't be surprised if your parents controlling you is half the problem. If you've grown up never being allowed to make your own decisions and never learned from your own mistakes, you probably fear the consequences of getting something wrong because if you don't know what it feels like to be in a sticky situation and have to problem solve to get out of it, it's fear of the unknown and lack of experience causing your lack of self confidence.

If you get this psychic compulsion sorted and take control of your own life, nothing else is standing in your way as far as I can see. Hypercat has imparted some of her wisdom upon you below as well, she's full of good advice x

[sirensong22 in reply to rach1402]

Also with my current situation, I know many people experience this many times in their lives but I fear the future and I am so afraid to face it. I know it is a part of life but I can’t help that I have really bad anxiety from it. I have so many questions that I want answers for which then makes me want to turn to psychics for these answers. I go to a psychic about once or twice a week to the point I think I have a psychic addiction. I didn’t know this was a real thing but it is. I have spend thousands and thousands of dollars from my work paycheck to get these readings to the point I can’t stop seeing one. It’s a matter of fear which then turns me to be an addict. I just wanted to share that because I know I’m not the only person facing this problem and psychic addiction is a real thing.

[rach1402 in reply to sirensong22]

It's good that you're being honest with yourself that you've got a problem and you're able to open up about it. I don't have the knowledge or experience to give you advice on dealing with addiction and although plenty of people will have an opinion, only a fully qualified professional with experience in treating addiction can help you with that. Does your therapist deal with that kind of thing and if not can they recommend someone reliable who can?

[LadyMa123]

Hello, maybe I can't help you a lot, but in some way I can relate to you so much... You said you feel fear about your career, I know, I'm a student who is almost done with college and I feel the same... And also, as your job is to help people, which brings a responsibility, mine is to... I know it's really scary because you now feel like you can't help yourself and how can you help the others?

That is one thought that is constantly in my mind also... But you know what? You maybe feel that you are not doing anything and that you cannot handle this, but look at you, you joined this group and you're honest about your insecurities and ask for help anyway. That's brave and not easy. And sometimes I also think, okay, now when I know how I feel during my worst days, someday I will relate with my patients and can be a better help because I will see them as a whole and know what to say, what would I wanted to hear when I needed it.

I will give you no advice, I think you're doing a great job already because you're trying to help yourself and find solutions to your fears and problems. I think that is a big quality and that is very brave of you. Your feelings are yours, good or bad, it is what makes you a person. You can't escape from them, but you can work to deal with those that make you uncomfortable. And you're already doing it.

[sirensong22 in reply to LadyMa123]

Thank you so much for your words of advice. I very much appreciate it. 🙂

[hypercat54]

Hi your parents can't forbid you moving or doing anything you want at your age so why are you letting them stop you?

Don't worry about the future as that will take care of itself. Very few decisions you make are irreversible so why not start training to be a doctor? You need to start living for today and enjoying it instead of spoiling it with things that might or might not happen in the future. Also don't forget you can't really plan life as it happens to you anyway.

Google mindfulness as this will help you live in the present and enjoy now. x

[rach1402 in reply to hypercat54]

Excellent advice 👍

[hypercat54 in reply to rach1402]

Oh thank you. x

[rach1402 in reply to hypercat54]

No worries, you always give good advice. You're very wise and I always agree with your advice x

[sirensong22 in reply to hypercat54]

Thank you 🙂

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I wouldn't see a psychic if I were you. I listened to my star sign on you tube a couple of times and they all say different things. Now when I go on there I'm bombarded with predictions for my star sign. Anyway happy Christmas

[Susan512]

Hello this is just my opinion, first of all stop going to Physics there is nothing they can do for you but take your money. Try not to worry about the future, live day by day, see a doctor and or a therapist, and try to find to keep your self calm which can be hard at times. Do something you like to do like, listening to music, read a book, take a walk or just simply relax with deep breathing, just breathe,