Feeling a little hatred toward...

[berad]

Feeling a little hatred toward my soon to be ex wife. One minute she loves me and can’t live without me and the very next minute she tells me I need to shave my head and I am too fat and that wishes she never met me. But she puts all the blame on me and she involves our children in her madness. It’s comical until she involves the kids and then I get mad because they don’t deserve an ounce of what she is involving them in at 15 and 6. Need someone to talk to before I lose my mind.

[Agora1]

berad, We welcome you to a safe and sane place to come to. It's very

emotionally difficult in dealing with divorce especially when children are

involved. The up and down of emotions between husband and wife should

never spill over onto the children. I am sorry that is happening. Please use

this support forum as a venting place so as to keep some sanity during this

trying time for you.

[berad in reply to Agora1]

Thank you. I will definitely try. I took my daughter out for her 15th birthday and then took her home. Later her Mother texted me and told me the gift I got her was very ugly and I should have consulted with her first. My daughter loves it though. I am tired of the blame, the victim playing by her and the jabs. I have never been so angry or felt hatred in my life.

[Agora1 in reply to berad]

I'm so sorry. You are being emotionally abused by your wife right now. She wants to

hurt you by putting all the blame on you. It takes 2 to make a marriage and 2 in

owning up to the fact that something went wrong. I worry about your health in feeling

this anger right now. It needs a release either through some medication and/or therapy to get you through.

Don't allow her to take control of the situation between you and your children. Be responsible and don't allow the anger to get you into trouble. You cannot control

her actions or her words but you can control how you react to her abuse. Take it with

a grain of salt and let it go. She is speaking from her anger right now.

I'm glad you took your daughter out for her birthday and that she liked your gift. That's

all that counts. As her father, there should be no reason you would have to consult with your wife first.

We are hear to listen but also to try and understand and support you.