Hi again...

[TairlaMae]

This is my second post and I have been reading posts. I cannot answer back because I don’t have any advice that would help anyone. My words in my head makes me feel that I cannot help myself so I cannot begin to help others. I’ve always been there to help everyone else and I am so burned out I am numb. I’m to the point of not even knowing how do I ask how to get past the thoughts that I am just allowing people to use me. This thought then makes me feel guilty that I’m not helping others. People say for me to take care of me but then I feel that I’m being selfish. Then I just get frustrated and say... To hell with it all... I don’t give a crap about anything. Uuuugggghhhhh

[Hidden]

Helping yourself doesn't make you selfish, in fact you should be helping yourself before you help others, put yourself first!

Always make time for yourself, other people will just have to wait.

[Sprinkle1]

I learnt I had to put myself first, and it is healthy, one cannot give from an empty cup, so I keep my cup as close to full as I can. I figure out who will use me if I allow it and keep them at bay. So be good to yourself, love yourself and only give what you can to non users. That is the healthy way to live. It is OK to say "No", women have been taught to give n give, it is time to stop that, we are creditable people who deserve love and respect. So first give yourself the love and respect and others will see that and love and respect you. I send you strength and love......Sprinkle 1........xxx

[Florida1959]

Look after you, then you can look after others, let them wait, take time out fir you xx

[Hidden]

I understand that struggle. I hope you find it easier to make time for yourself eventually, I know how difficult it can be.

[Hidden]

And keep in mind, not all posts offer advice.

Some simply say "You are not alone" or "I have been there."

A kind word goes a long way on a dark day.

Take care of yourself...and help when you can.

None of us are strong everyday.

We take turns falling and helping each other up.