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I haven't been here for awhile, but I'm really struggling right now with my self confidence. It has always been an issue with me, but has been ramped up as of late. I feel like when I meet people that they can see right through me to all my faults and sense that I am weak because of my anxiety. It doesn't help that I am so thin and constantly notice people talking about my weight. I feel weak inside and out. Anyone have any suggestions? Please?

[Agora1]

Hey toddt2, haven't seen you in a while. What do you think caused this spiral up in feeling low self confidence?? Do you actually know for sure these people you meet are focusing in on your faults, weakness in having anxiety and your low weight? It sounds more like these are issues you are struggling with and so feel everyone else does too.

You know toddt, people are so self centered and consumed with their own lives that for the most part they hardly notice anyone else exists. I think what might help you is working on your self confidence through the many videos on YouTube or books. Think of some of the things you do like about yourself. Are you a nice person, do you have any talents, do you play sports etc etc. Focus in on your good qualities and make them the basis of being your self confidence.

Remember if and when you are meeting new people, they have no idea what you are all about. You can be anyone you want to be with them. Walk tall and straight, don't keep your eyes down, the walk and look of a confident man will project just that.

After you start working on yourself thru those videos, you can become a different person.

We all can find things about ourselves that we don't like but turn that negative around to

a more positive approach about yourself and see what you get. You can do this.

Take a look at this one video, it may help in giving you a start..

"How to Build Self Confidence" by Michelle Phan (on YouTube)

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

Thank you Agora1! I will try anything at this point. I'm absolutely sure this is the root cause of my social anxiety. Hope you are well! Thank you!

[Orangeblossom85]

I am thinking about you loosing weight no matter how much you eat, and just came up with the reflection that you should check your thyroid hormones! When your thyroid is hyperactive you can feel anxiety, your body runs faster, you have faster metabolism, feel overwhelmed, hot, all the time alert. Maybe it’s this?

[Hidden in reply to Orangeblossom85]

My sweet friend! I have been thinking about this since you mentioned it about yourself. I think I will be asking a doctor about this for sure!

[Orangeblossom85 in reply to Hidden]

Don’t forget :))

[Hidden]

Hey Todd, I have been wondering about you & wanted to make sure you're okay. I am sorry to hear you're struggling with self confidence. After I lost the baby & tried to commit suicide, I felt the same way & still find myself doing that at times. I try to "fake it til I make it"... I wake up & look in the mirror, I try to tell myself I am pretty & I am worthy of amazing things. I keep repeating it until I believe it within myself. Some days it works, & some days it doesn't... It's a journey that I believe you will achieve someday, my friend. I am always here if you need me! <3

[Orangeblossom85 in reply to Hidden]

Fake it till you make it can do wonders!!!!!

[Hidden]

Thank you! I am trying very hard and need this support! I'm glad to see you are still here! Hope all is well!