My life has blown apart

[alygrieco]

I have always had pretty severe anxiety but 5 years ago I got into a relationship and put all my reliance in him and my anxiety got better. We’ve moved with each other all over the country and things started to unravel. I followed him to Vermont for him to pursue an MFA in writing but as soon as he started to get busy, he stopped trying to make time for me. Because of this my anxiety came roaring back and he now says he can’t handle it and wants us to break up. But I am isolated up here with no support, he’s my everything and the only relationship I’ve ever had. Now my anxiety is so bad that I feel like I’m losing my mind.

[Celtic27]

Sorry things have worked out like this you gave up so much to help him follow his dream! You now have to decide if it's worth pursuing your relationship or for the sake of your health to return to your home town as your health is more important than any man! Please get better help with your anxiety get better then if he's still there only time will tell if he's really there for you! Take care david 🎉

[6ixtyon1]

I am sad to hear that you are in this corner, now...but there is that old saying, out there, and most times it is true: it's impossible for one rider to ride two saddles. Your boyfriend is now moving on with his career...you helped him get there, and that is a fabulous gift that you gave to him. Is he grateful to you? Has he said so? Were there any gestures that he made to thank you? If not, give this time...some people are so slow to "realize" that big picture. But in the meantime, what about your own self? Perhaps this is the time to look into helping your heart, by asking what else you want to do with your life--do you want to hone an occupation, just for you...like the life-gift that you helped your boyfriend obtain? Is there a passion that you've always wanted to follow, but never had the time for? Does it involve interaction with others? If not, then perhaps this "separate-but-not-separated" phase is just your time, too, to express your own creativity...even if the catharsis seems uncomfortable, what you discover about yourself can be valuable, in the long run...if you can find a therapist out there, who will work with you in-tandem during this phase, then all the better! You are not alone...I have been through this, myself; many people I have met have also gone down this corridor. There can be a lot of light at the end of it, but you need to give it a guided chance...you are worth it--and never let a situation short-change you. We are all given hearts for a reason...sometimes, the hardest lesson is to give that love back to ourselves. Let us know what happens, and love and light, always.