Jealousy

[Downandout123]

Does anyone else suffer with problems related to jealousy? It can be anything-in relationships, with people who have more than you do, etc. If so, how do you deal with it? How do you STOP the incessant thoughts? It's definitely not one of our better emotions.🙄😥 Im having a very hard time.😥

[butterfly2121]

Well, I think you have to look at the context of the jealousy. Is it a good friend that is a good person that has things you are jealous of. Or I it a person who has a lot of things and flaunts it in your face? My good friends that have things and enjoy these things with their friends who are truly good people I never have jealousy about. I am happy for them. However I have one friend that flaunts it very blatantly. Always talking about money, what she just bought, how much she spent on the Louie Vouton purse. Always acting like she has better, knows better, is better but deep down I think in her core she is lacking very much. I guess when I think about this friend though I am not really jealous just kind of disgusted. I guess I don't really consider her a friend anymore. Money has changed her very badly from when I first met her a very long time ago.

[Downandout123 in reply to butterfly2121]

Right now it is a relationship issue. Well, it's not really a relationship. It's complicated. But I do find myself jealous of even good friends. BUT I am not the type of person who wishes anyone ill will. Never!! I am glad for them, but hey-I want it too! I think relationship issues sting the most though.😥

[butterfly2121 in reply to Downandout123]

We live in a materialistic society, that is for sure. It sometimes can be hard when we can't have things that others can have. Some days I wish our society was less materialistic. It's easy to look at others and compare ourselves. Never a good thing but we all do it to some extent. Keeping up with the Jonses. Lately I have been trying to simplify my life. Been trying to bring less into my home. Sometimes too much stuff makes life just so complicated. I totally get what you are saying though. Sending you a hug.

[Downandout123 in reply to butterfly2121]

Thank you!

[cocobeth]

“Comparison is the thief of joy”

[Hidden in reply to cocobeth]

I agree with you 100%! I could not have said it better! Love, peace, light, joy & hugs!

[butterfly2121 in reply to cocobeth]

Yes, that is spot on!

[cocobeth]

Maybe try to examine the way you process feelings of jealousy - remember everyone experiences jealousy at some point! There’s nothing wrong with wanting better for yourself, but by comparing your experiences/strengths/accomplishments to someone else’s is completely discounting your own triumphs. ❤️❤️❤️

[Downandout123]

I literally feel sick with these feelings. Nothing I tell myself helps.

[Hidden in reply to Downandout123]

Look in the mirror & tell yourself ...I love me & am very special, there is only one me! Love, peace, light, joy & hugs!

[HopeinGod]

Hi Downandout123, jealousy truly robs us of our joy! Have you tried writing down all the things you are grateful for everyday for about a week? I woke up this morning! I have a job! I have food in the frig! I have a roof over my head! I’m so glad I have friends who…I have two eyes to see the beauty of (you fill-in the blank)., and on and on. Will you consider trying this and writing from the small to the big, from the insignificant to the significant? Try this and then when you are done, reflect and see what you think. Will you let us know if this helps with the things that you take you down the road of jealousy? Blessings