Before 5th of January 2018 i was living joyful happy life until i got a flu in the same month when i sat one of the beds of the clinic i felt like i am dying then i took 40MG Cortisone after that my routine changed for worse weeks ago i started again taking my seroxat 20mg everyday i wake up i say my health gone i wasn't like that years ago why this happened to me after 33 years even my mom want me to get job and get marry i feel afraid how am i going to live with my wife i feel like i will ruin her life and her children i am one of the people can't stand kind toys i magine if i told her i have ocd she will hate me
Can you help me people ?
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My OCD was handled easily with my treatment of depression and anxiety, despite which drugs I've been on. Is the Seroxat/paroxetine helping at all? I do have to use self control to handle a little of my OCD. It's not hard in my case.
My husband took my OCD, depression, & anxiety problems in stride...he didn't abandon me nor, amazingly, did he complain! My sister admires how her husband tries to not let his OCD (germs) interfere with common sense. She has no mental health issues. One of their kids inherited some of the OCD and she handles it with aplomb. People accept this stuff all the time...I don't think you have to worry, but you do have to be honest with any potential wife. Remember, she's probably got some problems of her own she's worried about YOU minding. It's a give-n-take.
Having said that, are you saying you can't stand toys? I'm not sure that's what you said. Toys is a huge category. Whatever your problem is, it's just another call for compromise and understanding worked out between you and your intended. You will have many compromises not related to OCD to have a happy and successful marriage.
Having said THAT, I hope you don't seriously take your mom's desire for you to marry as a reason you SHOULD marry. That's a terrible reason to marry and please don't do it for her...it's not fair to the person you marry. YOU must want to marry and YOU will have to live with your wife and work out your differences. Marriage is very challenging and takes work from both persons, so don't enter into something you don't want with your whole being, please!
Like I did with my husband until his death after 42 years of marriage and 3 children.
Vows were made before God and I honored them despite my husband's illness...he acquired dementia and became abusive verbally and emotionally but illness isn't a reason to abandon an abusive spouse who is unaware of what he is doing due to sickness of the mind. ...And he accepted my extreme illness when I became depressed and anxious well into our marriage. He nurtured me through the difficult periods where I had to depend on him so very much. And more than 1 time...
in my country we allowed to see girl once face to face then the mother of the groom asks girl if she liked the appearance of the groom then if she accepted the guy the two families can talk about about money and gold arrangements then she will give her mobile phone number on to her fiancée they will start talking on the phone sometimes girls in my country asks sensitive things are on the phone after days the groom will do a small party with his family such as aunts then the mother of the bride will point date for the wedding here the groom can drive by himself or somebody drives him home with his bride
for me i told my family that i need SUV to drive my bride home
Do the guys sometimes ask sensitive things, too? You could possibly say you will accept that she probably isn't perfect and you accept her the way she is...anything can be worked out if you're both willing. Then tell her you'll let her know 1 way YOU aren't perfect so she'll not be afraid to be open about her imperfections. If she's amenable, you can tell her about your OCD but don't make it worse than it truly is. This you would be doing in the spirit of wanting to be open and honest with each other up front. Or something along these lines. Food for thought?
It sounds like your parents will be part of helping to make a wise decision for you...knowing the demands of marriage and parenthood and knowing you...and trying to find a good, compatible mate.
in my country we allowed to see girl once face to face then the mother of the groom asks girl if she liked the appearance of the groom then if she accepted the guy the two families can talk about about money and gold arrangements then she will give her mobile phone number on to her fiancée they will start talking on the phone sometimes girls in my country asks sensitive things are on the phone after days the groom will do a small party with his family such as aunts then the mother of the bride will point date for the wedding here the groom can drive by himself or somebody drives him home with his bride
for me i told my family that i need SUV to drive the my bride home
I have so many...I love and am interested in many things, so I'll limit what I write. I love to garden, read, help other people like on HealthUnlocked, research just about anything, watch really good movies, I am extremely creative and currently enjoying mixed media (painting + just about anything) and attend art class when available, love to listen and dance to Christian music (because that's my faith), swimming, shelling, interior design and major home renovations, giving gifts to people...all kinds of people, loving God's people (which means everyone), visiting new places, learning about people's lives in places I haven't been, going to museums and National Parks and educational places of all kinds.
What are yours, please?
And I'd love to learn more about your homeland! :o)
Fun!! My 3rd and youngest son was born in 1983; you are close! Do you want to PM (private message)? We should get off this thread, and then we could write whatever we want for as many days as we want. I'll send you one.
Good morning pal. I live with my fiancee and my aniextys cousin of aniextys is OCD and intrusive thought came out of remission after 11 years.That should give you hope that aniexty ocd can go back into Pandora box's.Is it better to say I could've got married or is it better to say I am married or try..... I am big believer in working achieving as normal life as you can.its better then having a sad story of a guy who lives with his mother hiding from life.i can't do this because of my OCD or can't do that missing out on life.
I admit it's hard for me difficult but I can say I try.
I give you a lot of credit for your courage and determination. I have a lot of experience with disabilities and limitations in myself and children but I really like your attitude!! ;o)
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