Tough times

[countryboy1]

My wife and I hit a rough spot and right now we are emotionally distant. We have been for about a week. It is a struggle but we are still trying to reconnect. My anxiety is getting better, I am still not on the interstates, but I love driving my small vehicle. All in all I am ok.

[Hidden]

I think all marriages go through the ups & downs, I'm hoping this passes for you & your wife soon, maybe bring her home a surprise! Wishing you all good things! Love, peace, light, joy & hugs!!!

[countryboy1 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you

[Hidden]

Only a week? That's great. Though it is obviously painful for you. Have you ever read the book "Love Languages"? It helps me think of ways to show my husband that I love him in ways that he really takes to heart.

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[countryboy1 in reply to Hidden]

Yes! We reviewed that book in therapy. I probably should buy it and read it as well! Thank you

[Hidden in reply to countryboy1]

Good. It has made a huge difference for me in my marriage. My husband and I have opposite love languages. His highest is my lowest, etc. (Service and Physical Contact) So, when I realize that I'm feeling a little unloved when he forgets that I need physical contact, I remember that he shows love by his service. So I multiply the love I feel when he does things for me by 10,000 at least because he serves when he feels loving. When he gets bugged by my touching his face or hair, etc, it reminds me that to be effective, I need to do some things for him. My touching isn't being translated as deep affection.

[countryboy1 in reply to Hidden]

Wow, I receive love by affirmations, my wife typically doesn't give them and I show love by providing, i.e. i will cook dinner to ensure that my loved ones are taken care of. My wife shows love by dressing me up, i.e. I look good in public. We are opposites as well. At least we know each other traits. It is difficult sometimes to remember them.

[Kaez]

I can relate. My husband and I go through times when we do not sleep in the same room. Usually when my anxiety is really beating me up. He tries to understand, but is frustrating to him and definitely adds to the tension and anxiety. Hope for better days!