Another tough day

[one-love]

So today was another tough day for me. I was diagnosed with a tumor in my parotid gland (Saliva gland) a few days ago, a 2cm tumor in my parotid gland. My doctor referred me to the Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville for my treatment and surgery. There are of course risks involved including paralysis in parts of my face and constant dry mouth as a result of removing a section of this gland. I can't even put into words how upsetting and scared I am to have to grow through all of this. My wife and I are having our first baby due in March so this is the last thing I want to be doing or worried about. My Anxiety and depression are at an all time high, I have been crying off and on all day just a billion thoughts going through my mind, worried about my wife and baby on the way and if I'm going to be able to see her grow up and stuff believe me I'm beyond stressed right now. I trust in Jesus and know he's with me through this he's got me through so many other tough times but I'm still so scared. Please keep me and my family in your prayers.

[Agora1]

one-love I certainly will keep you in my prayers. Please let us know when you will be having the surgery at Mayo. I wish you my best. Good Luck and stay positive

[one-love in reply to Agora1]

Thank you I need all the prayers I can get right now

[Agora1 in reply to one-love]

You've got them my friend.

[HearYou]

Hello, you have the possible bad news for the removal of the tumor. You did not mention cancer. Would that be the goods news? I have nothing to offer regarding but hopes and prayer for the potential of partial paralysis doesn't happen.

The chronic dry mouth is an easy adjustment with various dry mouth losengers and keeping plenty of fluids available, and sugar-free cough drops to during the day and at bedtime. I had to adjust to this decade ago. You may need more frequent visits to a dentist for preventive care and special toothpaste, as saliva reduction reduces the natural prevention of decay, and the more frequent dental checkups are considered a medical, not dental, a matter that insurance should cover. That is a bit a good news. And the Mayo Clinic in Florida is excellent and you will have best surgeons available who are skilled to avoid the nerve and muscle damage if at all possible, the issue of paralysis. That is the best news of all.

So I and I see that Ahora1 appear to be your team cheerleaders and are here through everything.

[one-love in reply to HearYou]

I'm just trying to stay positive and keep trusting in the lord for strength and healing. The surgery is to remove the tumor I won't know if it's cancer until they test the tumor once it's removed. I'm just really scared going through all of this and then my wife being pregnant with are first kid I just really wanted this to be a happy time for us and enjoy these moments not us thinking about stuff like this. What makes this all even worse is that my wife just got released from the hospital a month ago after spending 6 days in the hospital 3 of those days in ICU because she developed pulmonary embolisms in her lungs from being pregnant and almost died. She currently has to take blood thinner shots in her stomach 2 times a day for the rest of her pregnancy. It's just been a really stressful couple of months

[HearYou]

Ah, don't know about cancer until it is removed. I so sorry. I thought because you hadn't mentioned that, it wasn't a concern. I respect the man you are dealing with the life you currently have, instead of the life you were expecting. You are earning your "red badge of courage." I am still here and still your cheerleader, all through this.

[Justswimming]

You are in my prayers..my brother in laws father had his paratoid gland removed on one side ..he did always have dry mouth but always carried water bottle..He didn't die from it though his had a little dent in face but nothing horrible..he lived another 38 years..wishing you the best

[Ddorne]

onelove, I’m sorry to hear of your problems. My Mom had oral cancer. She had surgery and radiation and she is now 88. Are you one any meds for anxiety or depression? They will help. When I’m really anxious I try to keep busy. Ruminating can be bad for you I am a believer and I will pray to Jesus for you. LD

[one-love in reply to Ddorne]

Yes I have xanax I use when my anxiety gets really bad I'm also a medical cannabis patient and currently use that for anxiety and depression as well. I trust in the lord for healing and I appreciate any extra prayers and support