Sexuality Problems. (?)

Greetings,

It’s me again.

It’s been awhile, — how are you all?

Anyway, so, — recently, I identified myself as Bisexual. I’ve only come out to my best friend, and— luckily, it didn’t go completely downhill. They seemed to accept me for whom I was.

Lately— I’ve been thinking about coming out to my parents. (Mainly my mother and someone else in real life), — though, I feel unsure, of rather

I should or not.

I’ve also been feeling unsure of rather or not,

I actually like the same gender.

The thought of being with the same gender feels odd/wrong in some sort of way, but... the thought also makes me feel happy.

What should I do?

Should I come out to my teacher that I told

my anxiety and suicidal thoughts about?

I don’t know what to do.

Hope you have a nice day,

afternoon, or night.

— A. ♡

[Stilltrying_]

Hi, I can really relate to what you have said and to be sure when one likes the same gender (as well as the opposite maybe in your case? )it can be difficult as society ( I don't care what anyone says) is not entirely accepting However as you so well expressed it in another sense it makes you happy to be like that on a personal level so you become torn in your mind.

I would not rush things. It is a personal decision over who to tell and whether to tell . Do you think that your low feelings could be linked to this ? If so then it is a positive step for you that you are recognising and accepting your sexuality as hopefully that may lessen your depression.

I'm sorry this isn't a really long reply and I probably haven't expressed myself well but I was sorry to see you hadn't had any replies . I myself am lesbian and I have suffered a lot of confusion. I am not "out" to the majority of people I know but some people do know. That is what I feel comfortable with but I am definately very much older than you and in a different country very probably though UK is relatively very liberal compared with many countries. This is why i say it needs to be a personal choice.

Your post really helped me in the way you expressed yourself - When you said "The thought of being with the same gender feels odd/wrong in some sort of way, but... the thought also makes me feel happy." that is EXACTLY how I feel. So you are not alone.

Sending good wishes your way, gemmalouise x

PS Having just re-read your post I don't think it would do any harm to tell your teacher but you need to decide this for yourself. If it were me that may be something I would do if I really trusted my teacher and the parent thing it would depend very much on your relationship with them. Let us know how it goes if you do tell. x

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Thank you so much.

I’m glad to know it helped you. <3

And— I do trust the teacher; though, I’m not sure if I should or not.

I will let you know how it goes.

Again; thank you for your support!

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And maybe it is because of my low feelings??

I’m not sure, though.

[Hidden]

Hey there & congrats for coming to terms with your sexuality, maybe? I’ve recently discovered within the last few months that I am bisexual. I’m dating a woman now & I am the happiest I’ve ever been. I told my family pretty much immediately because I didn’t want to hide my girlfriend from anyone, & it was the best decision I’ve ever made. Only you know when you’re ready. Like the person above said, don’t rush it. The time will come when you’re ready for it to come. You may be scared to deal with it, or maybe you don’t need to label yourself. I’ve tried for many years to label myself & bisexual is the best term for me to use, but it might not be the best term for you. I wish you luck & happiness in your life whatever you choose to do! Everything will be okay! I am here if you ever need to talk! xo

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Thank you! — I’m glad to hear that you’re happy.

Thank you for your support. ♡

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Absolutely!!! You’re not weird or bad for feeling like this. It’s completely normal & more common than you’d think. I’m always here to support you! Just be happy! 🖤

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Thank you, I appreciate it a lot.

And I will. <3

Thank you, once more. ♡

[Hidden]

Hi, I can relate to your struggles. I've been in and out of the bisexuality closet for years. I'm 32 and I'm still in the closet. I think you'll know when you're ready to come out. Just take your time. When you're ready, you'll know. Please don't think that you're "weird" or "creepy" for having these feelings. They're completely normal. You're not alone. There are so many people out there who struggle with their sexuality. Good luck. <3

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Thank you.

I’m glad to know that I’m not alone. <3

And, alright. I’m assuming only I will know when the time is right.

I appreciate your support! ♡

[rachel913]

Congratulations on coming to terms with who you are! Realization and acceptance of myself was the hardest part for me... You should come out to whoever you want, whenever you feel the most comfortable. There is no pressure and you have to do what feels best in your heart. Take it slow, you have your whole life to tell people if you aren't ready. And if you are? Well all the power to you girlie Bottom line is never, NEVER be ashamed of who you are regardless of other people's opinions about you. ❤️

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Thank you.

I appreciate it. <3

Thank you, for your support! ♡

[Delanna]

Asserting your own individuality is a key to happiness .

You know who you are and you do not have to tell anyone you do not want to . You could be expressive as much as you want and that is ok

Wish you well.

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Thank you.

I appreciate your support. ♡

[Hudgins150]

Remember this: at what age and time in life do you CHOOSE what sex you wanted to be attracted to? I have yet found anyone who can honestly answer that question because you don’t choose, it’s natural and if anyone ever tells you otherwise just ask them this question...be who you are and never be ashamed or feel guilty...

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Thank you.

And I will try my best not to.

I appreciate your support! ♡

[Cassie2178]

Hey, I stumbled on this post and it sounds a lot like my friend. She has conflicting thoughts and dates both men and women. After she decided to start a lesbian relationship she has gained 50+ pounds. I now wonder if she is being true to herself or if she just decided to go for it after being encouraged by some other friends to embrace her true identity as a lesbian. When she was in a relationship with a guy she was talkative, active, happy go-lucky, and friendly. Now, she's rude, arrogant, and always talking about political agendas that are against "people". Watching her has made me question the legitimacy of her persuasion. I've never seen anyone as unhappy as she now is, although she "shouts" that she has found her true self. Looks the opposite to me. I would encourage you to find a neutral sounding board who would help you decipher your emotions.

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I’m sorry to hear about your friend.

And perhaps.

Thank you, for your support! ♡

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Why do you feel like you have to tell anyone?..

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Because, afterwards— I can finally express how I feel. Or rather— how I want to express myself. Show how I feel. Scream at the top of my lungs how I feel.

Just, be free.

That’s why.

[Ricardo70]

Remember this, your mother loves you whatever your gender identity or sexual performances are! Be honest with her and your family and friends. If people or friends can't accept you as you are then it's their problem not yours.

I'm not an expert by any means so speak to online support groups there will be millions of people who have faced the exact same issues and they will be able to help you.

ITS NOT WRONG TO BE ATTRACTED TO BOTH SEXES IT'S SIMPLY NATURAL! Love and attraction is a normal human trait. If either of my boy's told me they were gay or bisexual I wouldn't love them an ounce less and it would upset me if they suffered in silence. I love them no matter what and your mum loves you. Your sexuality is part of who you are but not everything about you.

Be honest with your mum and friends, they WILL be there for you. As a parent my heart goes out to you, please, please speak to your mum, she loves you. Bless you we are all here for you love. 🤗