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Sexuality Problems: again?

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Greetings,

It’s me, once more.

So, lately, I’ve been wondering if I’m homosexual/homoromantic.

For starters: I can’t really imagine myself with the opposite gender in the near future. I find the opposite gender really unattractive. I find the thought of being with one of the opposite gender rather unsatisfying. And I suppose I mostly see them as friends...?

In general; (I’m not sure wether this is stupid or not), but, I w a n t to be homosexual/homoramntic.

I can imagine myself easily with the same gender. The thought makes me feel really happy. I can imagine myself having a family with the same gender. In general; the thought is satisfying, it makes me feel happy, and excited—I think.

Alright, I want to know—is this selfish:

Not so long ago, I sort of tried.... being with my best friend. (Whom is the opposite gender), and— it felt odd. Perhaps, because we’ve been friends for so long. I’m honestly not sure.

The next day; I broke things off. I told them about me thinking how unsatisfying it was.

Was that selfish of me? To not give it a try? Despite what I was thinking and how I was feeling?

I’m unsure, honestly.

Hope you have a nice day,

Afternoon or night.

— A. ♡

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Hi A,

This is natural to explore and try things out like what you did with your best friend- I know sometimes those things can be messy, but it’s not selfish. You should listen to what your mind pictures yourself with, it’s not strange to want it even though there is a societal stigma because that’s not why we want these relationships it’s because it’s a part of who we are and it’s completely natural to be sexually fluid or anywhere on the spectrum of sexuality. I can’t give you a definitive answer about your sexuality, but I would encourage you to not stress about labels and go out and have fun and enjoy and think about any complications that arise with this identity as they come up instead of fretting in the before because I promise you won’t be able to sit at home and use formulas to calculate what your sexuality is and how to deal with it. Deal with one problem at a time if they even come up. Not everything will always be perfect harmony, but you’ll lear. a lot and have many great moments I’m sure. I’m always here if you need to talk❤️

Lots of good wishes and warmth,

PM

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Alright, so what you’re saying is I should try not to think about it much? Right?

Thank you. I’ll try my best.

I have a question: what if

I think, I sort of want to give it another shot? With this specific friend?...

Thank you, for your support! ♡

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Would it be fair on your friend if it didn't work out?

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I’m.... not sure.

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It's a tricky one.

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Alright, I think I’m almost positive I don’t feel the same way, so....

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Well you seem to know how you feel and that's probably the real you.

Are you finding it hard to accept, are you fighting it?

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I hope I do.

Fighting what? Accepting what?...

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Accepting that you are attracted to the same sex?

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Not at all. I’ve always liked the LGBT+ community. And I'm happy about being apart of it.

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Yes don’t think about it, but don’t risk it with the friend if you don’t think it’s worth the consequences and you don’t seem that into it try to move on and think about someone else

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Alright. I will.

Thank you!

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