Job interview

[Hudgins150]

Went for a job interview the other day, well I got the job and was ask this morning to come fill out paperwork. I was fine until I got there and then here comes my uncontrollable shaking, the management ask why I was so nervous, and I just replied I was cold...felt like a fool and embarrassed. Anyone have suggestions on how to control this. It just sneaks up and I can’t control

[Hidden]

I think everyone gets nervous and we all do something like shake, turn red, sweat, it’s ok. Congratulations on getting the job!! You will feel more comfortable in time.

[Hudgins150 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, felt good to accomplish this.

[_amabelizzario]

Congratulations on your new Job! I've been doing breathing exercises to help with moments like this. This may be the most chliché answer, but it is working for me. Besides I'm so concentrated in my breathing that I don't have focus to worry about anything else, even when I'm doing normal day to day things like going to the bakery, when I get home I notice that I was so distracted on breathing that I didn't notice the way back home. I hope it helps.

[Hudgins150 in reply to _amabelizzario]

The breathing definitely sounds like a great idea. Unfortunately the shaking is uncontrollable and I’m always looking for different ideas. I personally think a lot has to do with meds...

[_amabelizzario in reply to Hudgins150]

Meds make sense, have a talk with you doctor, maybe?

[Benny3221 in reply to Hudgins150]

Hey you might be right when I stopped taking my meds the symptoms became worst then it was before! Best of luck!

[b1b1b1]

Is it possible that you actually were cold? Next time wear a jacket, as it will also help to hide the shaking. Did you shake at the interview? If not, Why do you think you are shaking now? Exploring this question might help produce a hint or an answer. Also, keep in mind that the first days and weeks of a new job are quite stressful and prepare as best you can.

[Hudgins150 in reply to b1b1b1]

I was not cold...lol...its 94 here in Georgia, and no I was not nervous during interview thanks to Ativan, but my shaking is unpredictable and comes sudden...very frustrating when it happens and embarrassing

[Agora1]

Hi Hudgins150, I started responding to your post several times but then kept deleting it because you may think it's weird. But here goes. When I am highly stressed, I notice that

my hands may shake while carrying my purse, using a pen or holding a glass of milk. There is nothing wrong with me but an over wrought nervous system. It is embarrassing. I found something that works for me. I do deep breathing which helps calm down the adrenaline response. In addition to that, I concentrate on the part of my body doing the shaking and actually "will it" to stop. One of the two or both together has stopped the shaking for me. I told you I deleted my responses several times. But it's free advice

[Hudgins150 in reply to Agora1]

That’s great advice, and I never thought of that...my shaking is unpredictable and sudden so I always need a quick way to solve it and your idea is something worth trying without being noticed what I’m doing... thanks

[Agora1 in reply to Hudgins150]

Just remember, mind over matter. Your mind is powerful enough to control your emotions so why not try to control an emotional response. Good Luck let me know

how it works out for you.

[hypercat54]

I think something else which could help is try and stop feeling embarrassed by it. If you could work on seeing it as 'something that happens to you' rather than dreading it and seeing it as a problem this might help you to remain calmer. The more you worry about it the worse it will be.

I have asthma and notice that being stressed triggers an asthmatic cough and the more stressed I feel the worse I cough. It is embarrassing but by accepting and knowing this can happen makes it more manageable. It's not my fault and nor is your shaking your fault. At least yours is quiet rather than noisy like mine! x

[Hudgins150 in reply to hypercat54]

Thank you, you definitely have good advice on thinking that it is something that happens to me...not an embarrassment

[Sandyxoxx]

Congratulations on your new job !! I think everyone gets nervous on a job interview! ! Just don't worry about your shaking ,it gets worse ,been there , I just say I'm happy n excited to be on this interview! ! Thinking positive! !

[Hudgins150 in reply to Sandyxoxx]

Love that response....lol

[Sandyxoxx in reply to Hudgins150]

Yw

[rachel913]

congratulations on the job, you should be so proud! it is definitely uncomfortable to be in a new situation but i think it'll get easier once the environment and routine becomes familiar to you. have you ever considered benzos or anti anxiety medication to calm you during stressful situations?

[Hudgins150 in reply to rachel913]

I take Ativan but that still don’t stop the shaking...The lithium I take for bipolar is known to cause shaking

[rachel913 in reply to Hudgins150]

I tremble like an earthquake everyday I swear haha. It is a classic anxiety symptom that even with medication it might not go away until the root causes of the anxiety are addressed. ❤️

[Hudgins150 in reply to rachel913]

Definitely frustrating at times, especially when your feeling comfortable and safe yet still hits...thing was I didn’t feel nervous or notice until he pointed it out...lol

[rachel913 in reply to Hudgins150]

you can thank your subconscious mind for that one..

[Rlich]

It’s ok. You are brave enough to face your fears & interview etc. . You could try a med for specific times such as that. I like the idea of deep breathing mentioned in another post. Breathing is key & centers us. Good to see guys post on this site. Keep fighting & keep positive

[Hudgins150 in reply to Rlich]

This site is definitely a help. Being a private person and keeping a lot to myself, it’s comfortable to be open and discuss things with others, too read other post and comments really hits home that hey, I’m not a freak or the only one who has issues. Unfortunately I’ve spent a great deal of my life thinking that way, that it’s not ok to share or so emotions, especially for men

[Sandyxoxx]

I use to take meds for the anxiety ,like ativan ,and others ! I would have to take one right before I would go out or face everyday things like ,making phone calls ,just taking care of business ...and just to relax .They took them away wow withdrawl badly ! It passed now taking vistral ,hmm ok takes the edge off ,took time !! Only take paxil ,sleep med ,and a vistral if needed ! Wish I had others sometimes ,but I'm coping ,And very good if I may say lol !! Oh staying away from ppl who stress me ..hard sometimes , it my daughter, she knows how to push my buttons !! Not so anymore !! She's unhappy so no one around her is happy ,shame !!