Job loss

Just got fired from my job because I didn't have enough experience, and they knew this when they hired me. Feeling pretty down trying not to panic. Not sure what's going to happen with the house I partipartially own or if my bf will leave. Took forever for me to finally get this job. Just took a bath with lavender scented bath salts and am trying to stay calm.

[CJ07]

I can relate. I lost my job a month ago. I allowed myself to withdrawal and the anxiety and panic reared its ugly head again. My stomach felt pitted all the time. I'd wake up with my heart beating out of my chest. I knew it was time to get up and do whatever I can to get healthy and move forward.

I found this place and reading others stories is what helps. The first time I felt anxiety free is when I ordered attacking anxiety and depression. I realized I wasn't alone and it was okay to talk about it. I've since lost my program but knowing I am not alone, w so many others deal/struggle w anxiety/panic attacks made me see how more common it is than not. Stay plugged in. Do the work to feel natural in your own skin. You will find a job soon. I'm pulling for both of us!

[Hidden in reply to CJ07]

I can feel the depression closing in. It's getting harder to fight cause I'm worn out.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Try to get out of bed at a reasonable time for you say 8am or 9am and get on a schedule. Apply for two-five jobs per week and follow up. You might be able to collect unemployment check with your state - google unemployment and your state name. Praying you will wake up refreshed- you've handled unemployment before you can do it again! I'm still learning to make and keep a schedule myself - I was let go in March (31). Peace!!!

[gogogirl in reply to CJ07]

What is ordered anxiety and depression? Thanks in advance!

[Hidden]

Good self care taking a bath! I'm so sorry about job loss. I'm thinking I'll go to a hiring agency to see if I can get on anywhere myself - is that an option for you? Hey you made it two months and you weren't the right fit but there is a job where you will fit even better - praying blessings and open doors for the job that needs you!

[gogogirl in reply to Hidden]

Anybody here an older person who experiences depression/anxiety/guilt? Or are all older people out there "all together" and have it all?

[Hidden in reply to gogogirl]

I am 54 years old 👵 How old are you Dear?

[gogogirl in reply to Hidden]

I am in my mid sixties. Good to see some older people here also so there are different perspectives. Sometimes, I wish we were not just "talking" on the internet.

[Hidden in reply to gogogirl]

No, you are not the only older person who doesn't have it all together. It may feel so when it seems that way to you.

[gogogirl in reply to Hidden]

Sometimes I wonder if we are too hard on ourselves although sometimes I think I was too "easy " at times in my past. Just depression talking. How do you deal with it? I have seen a counselor for the past couple of years.

[gogogirl in reply to Hidden]

My counselor who is even older than I am said that it is not unusual to review your life when you get older. Aha- so that's it.

[kathyncoke in reply to gogogirl]

I'm 51 and have struggled with all of that for years. I've been under psychiatric care since 1995. You'll learn how to work with/around it.

[gogogirl in reply to kathyncoke]

Has the counseling helped you? I hope so- you sound like a nice person.

[CJ07 in reply to gogogirl]

Just turned 53. Lost my job last month. Working on esteem & confidence to get back out there tomorrow.

[Hidden]

These days jobs come and go. It's not always your fault (I have seen egotistical bosses who are mentally sadistic), so don't let them ruin your life. When you are ready, focus on self-confidence building/ motivation and learning new skills etc.

[gogogirl]

If they knew this- that is strange. Sorry that happened. I hope if this is a career you want to pursue you can get furthur training. Maybe once you do , they will reconsider. Also, this is my opinion: Why would your bf leave just because you got fired? Maybe that is anxiety kicking in. I am an older person, and have lost jobs in the past. And the older you are the worse it is.

[Hidden]

I've found that loosing a job is the first step to getting the job of your dreams. You are meant for something better! Take time to think, what would you do without getting paid for it, yet still be happy...? That's the job you should be doing. Every bad event, can lead you to a better destiny. Believe that you are worth more than they knew!

[gogogirl in reply to Hidden]

If you are a young person- then time is on your side. Perhaps this is also a signal for you to do something different. How is the rest of your life going?

[Hidden in reply to gogogirl]

I feel like the rest of my life is somewhat falling apart. I was in a very good relationship but my anxiety made us fight all the time. He left, but we are trying to work things out. And it seems to be going ok. We both own a house together, he knows I don't have a job right now and said he will pay the bills so I don't lose the house while he is not living here and that he is going to move back. I've been doing what I can to control my anxiety/depression but sometimes it gets to hard and I accidently snap. I've been trying to do things that calm me down, but sometimes I can't focus on that stuff.

[kathyncoke in reply to Hidden]

You may want to ask your bf to go to a counselor or therapy group with you, so he can really see what you are dealing with. I think really understanding your issues will help him help you.

[gogogirl in reply to Hidden]

Sounds like he is supporting you , and wants to help. Do you have any other family/friends who really understand?

[Hidden in reply to gogogirl]

Just a few. I unknowingly pushed peoplpeople away

[gogogirl in reply to Hidden]

Sometimes that happens- but it doesn't have to be forever. Thanks for your post. I wish you well, and feel free to "chat" anytime.

[Hidden in reply to gogogirl]

Well today he told me he might be going on a date with another girl because he can't handle my anxiety and depression. And he hasn't taken me out on a date in almost a year.

[kathyncoke in reply to Hidden]

I'm sorry he's doing that. If he can't be supportive of you, don't waste your time and energy on him. You are more important. Focus on yourself.

[gogogirl in reply to Hidden]

What???? Sorry this has happened. Please focus on yourself and getting to where you want to in life. He is not worth it. In a real committed relationship people are there for each other. What if you developed a terminal illness- sounds like he is immature. In the mean time- I am here. I hope this also helps you reach out to the people you might have withdrawn from in the past as well as new ones like us here. Feel free to chat anytime.

[gogogirl in reply to Hidden]

I guess that is easier when you are young. Good advice though!