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So it gets better?

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20 years ago..I'm sure I was told it gets better...10 years ago again I was told the same..10 years later, I'm still being told it gets better..now..it goes in one ear comes out the other.. life passes by me and doesn't care about my efforts, my happiness, my peace, or about me...so tell me, with a broken heart and a lost soul, why should I care about this life which has abandoned me?...

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fauxartist

oh I do know that despair.... and I'm sorry your feeling this way....we can feel defeated with all this... but the reality for me is.... my depression is never going away.... I have good days and I have bad days.... and it's been that way my whole life...and will be till someone invents the 'Magic Pill'.....all I can do is ride out the blues when it hits me and remind myself that I'm feeling this way because it's this disease, it's not my fault or anyone elses fault..... and it will pass .... and then I will have some good days.... it's not fair, we don't deserve this, and there's no cure... But we can live with it.... no.... I don't want to some times.... and get pretty PO'd I have to keep fighting the same battles over and over.... but I am not going to let it beat me.... cause I do have some life that is worth living.....

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Atimetoheal in reply tofauxartist

So true

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You are worthy...

Aww 😔 unfortunately I understand what you mean ...sometimes it starts to feel like a never ending cycle doesn’t it... it has come to the point now when there is happiness I know my mind won’t let it last because I’m almost waiting for the depression to take over... which I’m aware is such a bad way to live and I’m working on it .

That’s all we can do really.. just learn how to live with it and get through it x

We can all do it together 💕

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We are one..we need one another..

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fauxartist in reply to

you got us pal.... hang on tight when the road gets bumpy and when you fall ...reach out and we'll catch you....there's always someone on here as there are different time zones....

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I really do love this place! Everyone is so sweet and caring !!! Thank you Ellinaki and Faxuartist for lovely replies x

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I'd rather be honest than impressive..

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fauxartist in reply to

me too.

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I'm here too...

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Starrlight in reply to

... because you are a light for people...You have had a profound affect on me. You have a way about you even in your suffering. I care about you so much and I’m sorry you suffer so. I’m sorry I suffer too and I think that it is not in vain. I am trying offering up the sufferings for souls who need it most although I don’t know if it can work that way but might as well try as God knows our intentions. May God bless your beautiful heart and soul.

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I believe in you..

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Starrlight in reply to

It does get better and I believe in you too. Well for me it eventually gets better until it gets bad again...do you ever get a break, ease after your difficulty?

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So lovely x you’re such a sweet caring person.. and I do hope you’re doing okay x 💕 I care a lot about everyone on here also ... i find myself thinking about you all in my days hoping everyone new and regular is okay xx 😘

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I care about you too and you are in my thoughts..i am by your side like you are for me..you are beautiful just the way you are..

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Starrlight in reply to

I will carry your words with me today, thank you. You are so loved here.

I understand the frustration. It can feel like a never ending circle. The reality that I’ve come to terms with, and have to over and over, is that it doesn’t just get better. I feel like that is something people would say to me to fill in space. The truth for me is that it doesn’t get better unless I work at making it better. That looks different for everyone. I don’t blame you for being frustrated with it though.

Your words cut me deep. This is one of the truest statements I’ve ever read on this site. I’m so sorry that it hasn’t gotten better long term for you. 😔 I try to think about the fleeting moments of happiness that comes with life. Instead of thinking that someday I won’t be feeling the way I am now, I am beginning to appreciate the small things that can make my day easier to deal with. We are all here for you. Stay strong, my friend. <3

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Strength to all of us...

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SillySally43

After reading over some of the other responses, it sure sounds like you've been able to be a support to others in this forum. And as you wrote to someone else "you are worthy", it applies to you too. I'm sorry that you feel like it hasn't gotten better over the years, and I surely can't promise that you feel like it will, but I certainly hope and pray it does...you are worthy.

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Thank you ...

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You are very welcome.

Oh my how sad this makes me, just breaks my heart. Do you have any happy times, a smile, a chuckle? You mean so much to me & how I wished you knew how special you are. Remember there is only one you. Reach out if you have to. I'm here for you my friend. you have to fight the good fight, I know you have this in you! Love, peace, light, joy & hugs!!!

I do wonder where the light at the end of the tunnel is. But like someone above said, hold onto the happy memories you have. I hope and pray that it does get better for you. It will for all of us. <3

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Fatima_sh

Looks here’s the thing about life, life’s a bitch. Life loves playing with your emotions, life wants you to lose sometimes, so what do you do ? Prove life wrong, try to live your best life and win the race.

Don’t wait for life to get better, YOU make it better !

I believe in you, you can do this and so can I ! ♥️

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