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I thought I was invited by my brother to come with my mom to see him. Found out real quick it was my mom that asked me to go with her. Got to my brothers just to be treated like a second class piece of s..t! My mom told him and his wife to show me attention so then they over did it by being somewhat nice. My mom and brother have been lying to me for years!! My brother hates my guts but I found out my mom asked him to be loving towards me this whole time. I truly believed that we were close. Yea right. They are huge liars and extremely fake!! They only care about how much money you make and I'm poor so you know where I stand. They think love equals money. They've all helped me with money. Never show they love me. Just help monetarily. They despise me every last one of them. Learned that my family hates my guts. I never get a call from anyone. I don't call cause they don't like me. I've been lied to behind my back but boy do I know the truth now! It breaks my ❤ to lose my family. I feel lower than pond scum. Oh and my mom is constantly ashamed to be seen with me. She won't be around me in public but as soon as nobody is around its oh I love you sweetie. Unbelievable!! All I can do is go forward without a family and hope I can regain some self worth. Talk about my anxiety shooting thru the roof. Anyhoo, sorry for complaining but I'm just broken hearted!!

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How did you find all of this out?

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My mom never tells the truth. She lies about everything! Stupid stuff its ridiculous. I said I got to my brothers and was ignored pushed out of the way etc. Treated like crap!! My mom said thanks for coming with me. My brother never invited me. She did. I realized it when they started treating me like s..t!! I caught my mom whispering to my brother to be nicer to me. Then she did it with his bitch wife. Right after that it was the worst act of pretending to be nice. Total joke. They're fake, liars, money hungry and if your like me they treat you like a second class citizen!!

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I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this! It’s always been this way with your brother? I was so lucky to have a loving sister once we became adults. It was different when we were kids. What does your Mother have to say about it all?

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She just lies and says your brother loves you! I'm like quit lying for once in your life. She did say she told him to be nice to me. She admitted that but denies talking to Trish. I appreciate your messages! I thought my brother and I were super close. Boy was I wrong!!!! We are still texting each other to keep my mom happy. We both say I love you but its all bullshit! I could hear him complain endlessly with Trish when they went to bed. I was right below their room downstairs!! Unbelievable! I was so relieved when we left!!! On the way home every time we stopped for gas or bathroom she would keep lots of distance between us so she wouldn't be seen with me at all. She either walks behind me or goes and does something else. I told her the truth on the way home! Right now she's super pissed off at me. Don't care whatsoever! I will not be treated like s..t by anyone!!!

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Why do you think she’s ashamed to be seen with you? I can’t imagine feeling that way about my children!

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I can't believe it either but she always hung around the car until I'd go use the restroom and then go use it. We stopped to take pics of the badlands and she looked at others nearby and kept her distance until they left. When we're alone she's all I love you sweetie!! But if anyone's around she's all keeping her distance!! Its truly pathetic. Plus I have crippling anxiety but now I feel suicidal but way to mad to do it. I just deal with her when necessary! I can't take the I'm a second class piece of shit next to her!! Thanks a lot mom!! Ya know??

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It’s just hard for me to wrap my head around her behavior! I’m over the moon when my kids are around! Have you asked her if this is how she really feels?

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Oh I know its unbelievable!! I was crying to her yesterday on the way home saying your ashamed to be seen with me!! She just lies AGAIN and says I'm imagining it so her answer is to lie and accuse me!! Nice huh?? She begged me to say what was on my mind when crying so I told her exactly how I felt. Oh then immediately gets pissed off and accused me AGAIN and lied too. I just want to smack her into reality!! I'm keeping my much needed distance so I can try and find some self worth she took from me!!

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Sounds like a good idea...

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That’s a good idea to ask her how she feels... oh but if she’s a liar you may not be able to tell.

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lovedogs51511 in reply to Starrlight

You can't cause she never tells the truth ever!! She lies and says I love you. Well her actions say the complete opposite!! She says its not lying its just telling leaving out certain parts so its not lying. Can you believe that one??? Hiya Susie!! How was your day on the boat??

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Starrlight in reply to lovedogs51511

It was so much fun! I wish you were with us. You would have had a blast pedaling.

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lovedogs51511 in reply to Starrlight

Would rather be with you guys than my own money hungry family!!! Does sofund like a heck of a good time😄😄

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gogogirl in reply to lovedogs51511

Sounds like lying by omission.

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lovedogs51511 in reply to gogogirl

Yea its not lying and she's the one that calls me delusional! 😱 Are you kidding me? She's just a liar but won't agree that she is!! Ummmm hello dumbass mom what the he'll is wrong with you??? Lol

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gogogirl in reply to lovedogs51511

Unfortunately some parents can be like that - putting on a show so they "keep the peace" so to speak. Sorry this happened.

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lovedogs51511 in reply to gogogirl

I know its sad I'm actually related to these ppl. They've been there for me monetarily but show that they care about me as a person hasn't really happened. Maybe as a kid yes but lately this is how I'm treated. In totally shocked! My mom doesn't want to be seen with me cause it might make her look bad! Unreal 😱

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gogogirl in reply to lovedogs51511

Sometimes being there with money is all some people can do- it;s very unfortunate, but it happens. I hope you can talk to them, and tell them how you feel. In the mean time, I hope your dog walking enterprises at the shelter are going well for you.

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lovedogs51511 in reply to gogogirl

I can't talk to them cause they just continue to lie and accuse me I'm imagining this bullshit! Just cause I have depression and anxiety doesn't make me pyschophrenic! I mean my God how ridiculous!! I have to make a schedule with the lady at PAWS. But I hope to help out soon!!

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gogogirl in reply to lovedogs51511

How sad that they do not validate your feelings. I hope you get back to the animals really soon - they are the best. Money can be tricky especially with families. Hope you all can get out your real feelings some day and that your family can learn to accept you as you are.

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lovedogs51511 in reply to gogogirl

Animals rock!! 🎸 Accept me for me😞😳 Yea that won't ever happen! I can accept it for what it is. Just keep moving forward and try to find a way to feel good about myself if even possible. Take it day,by day. All I can do😄

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Yeah lovedogs. Throw all your energy into the fab work u do with our 4 legged friends - ultimate ly, u are doing it for all your fellow pooch lovers too ! U are wonderful 🐕🐈🐰🐑🐐🐭

Shadow xx

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Maybe you can have a family meeting and really tell them what’s bothering you. You don’t deserve any of that!! You’re a good person and you help so many of us on here. I’m sorry you’re going through this BS. We love you ❤️

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Awww Maria that means the world to me especially right now after my mom making me feel like scum of the earth!! So you are precious!! Made my week!!! They all just think because of having depression, anxiety and epilepsy I'm delusional too. Imagining all this crap! Yea I'm to stupid to make this up!! Lol but true!! They all blame me cause I'm not made of money. I'm not worthy of their love cause I'm broke!! Its like disown me and we are done associating with each other!! Simple as that!!

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I have two cousins who I always referred to as my brother and sister. When I got really bad a few years ago, they completely changed the way they treated me, like I was always doing something wrong. It made me feel like the black sheep of the family for a long time. I finally said F them. They don’t understand and I’m not going to risk getting worse because of them!!

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lovedogs51511 in reply to MariaLove123

Oh wow I'm so sorry they were like that to you! Your so much better off without mean shallow ppl taking you down! I've been the black black sheep of my family since well always! I've been dealing with their evil ways for a very long time. Still hurts to my soul tho!!! I totally understand what you said last! I agree with ya 100%!!

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gogogirl in reply to lovedogs51511

So much in life is grey or in between rather than the old "black and white." Families can be messy and complicated that is for sure.

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I'm just broken hearted that they hate me this much. This is messy and I very confused as to what I did to be so hated. I'm not rich so of course I'm a nobody. Not good enough for them! Oh freaking well. Thought we were all so close and to find out the opposite kills me!!

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Starrlight

Lovedogs!!!!! I want to hug you in real life! I’ts so sad what you are dealing with but you know you are strong and you are an amazing person. You don’t need their validation.

I love you sooooooo!

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lovedogs51511 in reply to Starrlight

Starr😄😄 I would love to hug in real life! I could use one today after all that shitty treatment!! Awww Starr your the one that's the best!! Your the amazing one keeping those boys happy as can be and healthy!! I do think your amazing doing all that for your family even tho some days it tough to do. Your very sweet and caring. Your family is blessed to have you😀😊 Love you too Starr☺

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Awww you are beautiful, love. Thanks for the compliment 😊 I’d do anything for my boys.

I love you!😘

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lovedogs51511 in reply to Starrlight

Love you back sista!! You can see it in their faces how much you care for them!! Its a beautiful sight😄😄

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Starrlight in reply to lovedogs51511

Omg thank you you made my day!

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Just speaking the truth!!

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Yes, especially in the USA money can equal love. And look at the tax breaks for the wealthy. I hope you can talk to your brother about this- he and you may have to make decisions about your mom some day. This is very sad. PM me, and I will tell you a story.

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Ok will do. Oh I started to tell him that I know what's really going on and he denied it and said huh? Like I'm that freaking stupid. As soon as I said that my mom flew thru the door and interrupted me so I changed subjects. She heard me so she had to jump in once again to keep her lies up. I couldn't believe it. I just said thank you to my brother to keep my mom happy. Was really hard to say that and even harder to say I love you cause I don't mean it at all. My mom has her delusional lies alive and her answer is to accuse me of imagining this nonsense! Why would I lie? I'm nothing like these ppl. Its hard for me to lie. I tell the truth always. I was laughing about what you said too funny. Making delusions for my mom someday😄😄😄 Ill pm you!!

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gogogirl

Sometimes , the body language belies everything- isn't that the truth? Like when you said your mom flew through the door. Wonder what the dynamic between you and your bro would be like without your mom? Interesting.

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Oh you said it!!! Just perfect how soon after I said that to him and boom their she was. I already caught her whispering to him to be nicer to your sister. She actually admitted doing that. I was amazed. Haven't seen him in almost 4 years and he talked to his bitch wife and their dog while sitting right there. I'm like fuck you man!! I just stayed downstairs away from them but then who comes running to check on me??? My mom of course. I'm like just go upstairs get away from me!! I wanted my bro to spend the time with her only. He was so overjoyed to see her!!! God I felt lower than shit the whole trip!! Real great felt like I was in Hell!!!

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Why? Do you think he Hates You? Hate is a strong word. Your mom is being a mom trying to keep the peace, that's what I do tell lies to keep the peace. It's upsetting to me when my kids don't get along. Have you ever tried to sit down with him to get to the bottom of it?

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I understand hate is a strong word but after the truth of we didn't invite YOU we invited mom. She even said she's the one who invited me! And I felt exactly that not wanted there at all!!!! I was ignored by my brother especially when I kept trying to talk to him about how proud I was of him. It was constantly uh huh. No interaction whatsoever!!! Haven't seen each other in 3.5 years!! He talked to his wife and his dog Bella and didn't even look at me once!! It sounds like I'm full of delusions I'm aware of that but this is how it happened. If you were sitting there instead you'd feel the same. Right now, to keep the peace like you said, I'm still texting him keeping the peace for my moms sake! Its killing me cause I hate lying but this has to be my lie. I tried to speak the truth once again but my mom come busting thru the door that stopped me. All their lying to me has devastated me cause I truly thought Kirk and I were so close! Man it hurts beyond words!!!😥 So as you can see I can't even talk to him cause he started to say huh? Soon as I said I know what's really going on here? Huh he says but mom busted thru the door. He just lies cause mom told him to be nice to me while at his house. She at least admitted to that! Shoc ked me to the truth. Sorry for my rambling its the coffee!! Lol. ☕

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Shadow123-

Yeah lovedogs. Throw all your energy into the fab work u do with our 4 legged friends - ultimate ly, u are doing it for all your fellow pooch lovers too ! U are wonderful 🐕🐈🐰🐑🐐🐭

Shadow xx

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