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I start my new job on Mon and am a nervous wreck. So worried that I will fail again. I don’t want to mention it to anyone in my family bc they will just tell me to knock it off and that I am just setting myself up for failure. Need true words of wisdom. My last job was not a good fit and although this one seems way better it is not what I’ve always known myself to enjoy. I always worked with the pediatric population and this one is with adults again. The last couple times that failed for me but I can’t let it this time.

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Wow i just went through this, last week I started an internship and the nights leading up to it I was sick to my stomach with anxiety. I competed thought I would fail. Last year I left my previous job due to anxiety issues and I felt like a failure then I quit the next job because of anxiety and insomnia, but both jobs really weren’t good for me. I have since gone back to school and retrained to go into a different career field. All I can say is, tell yourself that You are Enough, and that the people you work for and with are Just people who have problems too. I bet if you took a survey of their lives you would find anxiety disorders, addictions, financial problems, health issues etc. once you get through the first day it does get a bit easier everyday.

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it is understandable and the best thing to do is just keep going and accept the fact that you would be a nervous wreck for the first week or so for sure. You can not avoid that: i could not. Talk to yourself, do breathing exercises but don't expect the feeling to go away. and tell yourself : it is ok, i am ok, i will do what i can, not more and not less. One step at a time, one task at at time, one day at a time. It is very stressful to start a new job, and especially if you have bad experiences before. But it is OK, it could be much better than before, you just need to get thru this beginning with anxiety. I am saying this from many of my experiences. Good luck to you and i will be thinking of you!

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I just started a new job and whenever I get really stressed out about work, I just tell myself that they hired me for a reason. If they didn’t think I could do the job, I wouldn’t even be here. Your employers saw something in you that made them want you. Now you just have to see that thing in yourself.❤️

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There is a perspective of each situation that will serve you. The job is not good or bad, it is the view that you wish to take of it that will make it so. It does sound like you are taking some views that could lead you to failure. Remember that negative emotions are difficult to reverse. I think that you will do well and find contentment with your new job.

Hi Turtle!

I just started a new job about 5 weeks ago and I understand how you feel but, worrying about the future is pointless because it hasn’t even happened yet! I too have always worked in the Pediatric population and have switched to the elderly population. I wanted to do something different. I certainly got different!! It’s working for me but I have to stay positive and not worry about the past or the future. You got this! Don’t worry...that will build this up to be something that it’s not! Try to relax and don’t create a self-fulfilled prophecy that dooms you to failure! You’re capable and willing...leave it at that. Trust your talents and wisdom. I’m right there with you thinking positively. Wishing you peace of mind...🙂🌷🙂

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Thank you. It’s interesting that you switched populations as well. My big issues surround that I left a job that I loved that year because I was in a bad place and coping inappropriately. I then sought treatment inpatient which I had never done before. It just so happens that where I landed this recent job is the same hospital that I sought treatment at. I don’t know why but it bothers me that I could potentially run into people that treated me. I was in a really bad place then and thinking that that could happen makes me so nervous. I just invision people talking about me and thinking I am not effective. I know it is not a realistic thought but I keep going there. I just want to let it all go and work hard to be successful. I can’t fail again. It’s been a rough road and I’ve put my husband through hell dealing with me having difficulty at other jobs. He gets upset when I even bring up these fears because I am very lucky to have landed this job. I am doing my best to stop thoughts and focus on the positive. I appreciate hearing from you and any advice u have. Thanks so much

I totally understand. I just started a new job that makes me uncertain and nervous. I quit my last job because it gave me severe anxiety and it was a toxic workplace. It's nerve-wracking to start a new job but it's a chance to start anew again. I wish you lots of luck with your new job! It's a learning and growing experience.

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