Update

[LittleDucky]

I’m feeling 10% better. Tomorrow I go to clean out my office which will be humiliating but I hope it will give me closure. Then I will focus on my mental health for a few months before looking for a new job.

[Itzallgood1]

Good luck littleducky. I know you will bounce back from this and get yourself well and come back good as ever.

[Agora1]

I wish you well. Your mental health comes first. xx

[ElephantsHear]

I know it’s easier said than done but keep your head up, be proud of your accomplishments, and be kind to yourself. We all f#ck up, regret it and feel embarrassed by our behavior at some point in life. I think through self reflection you’ll figure out how to avoid making this type of mistake in the future. I know it’s scary, but this will be an opportunity to focus and better yourself. I have a question for you Little Ducky what do you tell your patients when they mess up?

[LittleDucky in reply to ElephantsHear]

I tell them the same thing I'm trying to believe myself; that we are not our mistakes, mental illness symptoms are not personality traits, and that everyone is worthy as default.

Right now I'm living in the realization that my mental illness quirks really are symptoms and having nothing to do with who I am or what I can accomplish in the future. It's funny how I have so many answers for other people but have been quite slow to learn to take my own advice.

[Itzallgood1 in reply to LittleDucky]

Even the strongest need other people. I'm am so glad you will be alright. Take your time.

[LittleDucky in reply to Itzallgood1]

Thank you for pointing that out, I’ve never looked at it like that and it’s such a positive viewpoint that I feel like I can really invite that into my life more than when I’m just like oh this job is too stressful for me I need a therapist. I really appreciate your positive framing

[Itzallgood1 in reply to LittleDucky]

Your welcome.

[getdowngetup]

Lost my job in Dec .Took a while, but it has all worked out for the better. Good Luck!

DV

[LittleDucky in reply to getdowngetup]

I’m sorry to hear that but I’m so glad it worked out for the better. I’m totally a silver linings person so I’ll have my weeks of darkness but I always crawl out of it and like you I can see how this is for the best

[Itzallgood1]

How are you doing now Littleducky? I hope you are ok.

[LittleDucky in reply to Itzallgood1]

I'm doing alright, I finally start therapy this week and I'm excited to see the outcome this time around, feeling motivated for the first time.

[Agora1 in reply to LittleDucky]

LittleDucky, feeling motivated is a good sign that the time is right for you.

Good Luck with your therapy sessions, may they help put you back on the

right path. xx

[LittleDucky in reply to Agora1]

Thank you, I appreciate that and I agree. It feels so late in life to be coming face-to-face with everything that's been in dire need of tending to, and also trying not to focus on that regret because its just some ineffective wiring in my brain urging me to always look to the negative, or create it where there is none. So I suppose motivated and ready. xx

[Agora1 in reply to LittleDucky]

LittleDucky, As I've learned, it's never too late in life to make changes. Rather than regrets, focus on what's down the road for you. Negativity gets us no where. How about a little more enthusiasm with "I suppose motivated and ready" to "I am motivated and ready" to change my life for the better.. xx You've got this.

[LittleDucky in reply to Agora1]

Good advice. I am motivated and ready to change my life. 🧚

[Itzallgood1 in reply to LittleDucky]

💖💖💖💖

[Agora1 in reply to LittleDucky]

So much better LittleDucky... Now you are ready to take that step forward xx

[LittleDucky in reply to Agora1]

Usually I get really annoyed with people helping me reframe things or save them in a way that is more cemented in reality and in my mind. I found it I find it very frustrating when people ask me to say something differently in order to experience a better than emotion. This is the first time that someone’s (you 🤗) done it And I am finally in a place where I can hear that feedback and see it’s validity and so thank you for that. Thank you for having faith in me that I wouldn’t take it the wrong way.

[Agora1 in reply to LittleDucky]

LittleDucky, I am so glad you took my comment as an act of kindness and caring for you. I can only relate to what I've gone through myself. I remember as well listening to the therapist try to make me change my way of thinking but I closed my ears to her advice. And then, years down the road, I realized that what she was telling me was

true and meant to help me. It was then that I put those words into action and got better. xx

[LittleDucky in reply to Agora1]

I can so deeply relate to that! I have been resistant to guidance for years and I’ve just been doing my mental health healing on my own for a decade now because of that resistance and it’s not working who would’ve thought!? So now I am so very open to other peoples suggestions and obvious promotions of my feeling good. See ya any any time you want to give me a little bread crumb I will gobble it up thank you so much

[getdowngetup in reply to LittleDucky]

Same here. When I lost job- doctor, therapy group and insurance went with it. Took 2 months for appointment with new support. Today is my first appointment 😌

DV

[Itzallgood1 in reply to getdowngetup]

Alright!! Hope it goes well for you.

[getdowngetup in reply to Itzallgood1]

I Appreciate that support!!

[Itzallgood1 in reply to getdowngetup]

👍

[LittleDucky in reply to getdowngetup]

Well this country just does not put enough emphasis on the importance of a mental health and accessibility. No one should have to wait two months for an appointment that’s unacceptable. I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. There is a website that I use for zoom support meetings on specific mental health topics and they were really helpful while I was waiting to get to my first therapy appointment to and I had to wait about a month. The website is supportgroupscentral.com

[getdowngetup in reply to LittleDucky]

I agree.

Over the years I've watched it get better. We are not there yet. I appreciate your words.

Fortunately I had plenty of Effexor and I used Teledoc to assist with my taper process. In addition to the societal acceptance issue I know somewhat Covid played a part too. The good news is I'm Okay on this side. Thank for your kindness.

DV

[LittleDucky in reply to getdowngetup]

💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[LittleDucky in reply to getdowngetup]

I had to wait a long time for my first therapist appointment as well and that’s really frustrating I feel like professional mental health resources should be more accessible to everybody. However I did find a really good thing to tide me over While I was waiting. It’s a website called support groupcentral.com. There are dozens of different topics ranging for spirituality to every aspect of mental health, addiction, recovery chronic illness so on and so forth these meetings are free and they’re at every time of the day there’s dances dozens of them in different topics I’m probably going to make a post about this because this is an incredible resource that I feel like everyone should know about. If it’s of no use to you that’s totally understandable. Personally I love zoom meetings

[Hidden]

That must be really awful for you, i hope things work out well...

Looking after yourself is the most important thing right now...

Take care.

[LittleDucky in reply to Hidden]

Thank you and after my initial shock and definite devastation, I was able to realize that this is actually for the best. I would’ve not lasted at that job one way or the other and there was no point in continued suffering and poor behavior conflicting with the fact that I absolutely actually loved my job and so there was a lot of confusion there as to what was going on with me. It was really just my mental health red flags that I was ignoring. And you’re right right now my mental health and feeling good is the most important thing and I I have put a lot of effort into it Thank you!

[Hidden in reply to LittleDucky]

Well you can keep us posted on how you are doing if you like, it's great to have an outlet like this, I think it helps a lot of people..

☺️

[Itzallgood1]

Little ducky Im so happy you are getting a fresh start. Focus on you is what you need. Keep us updated how you are progressing.

[LittleDucky in reply to Itzallgood1]

I’m going to post an update right now, stay tuned

[Itzallgood1 in reply to LittleDucky]

Ok. Hoping for good news.👍👍👍